shesmiles Posted December 13, 2008 Posted December 13, 2008 He tells me he never thinks of me, and that he doesn't miss me. Yet we dated for three years and only broke up four months ago? What is he trying to accomplish ? Does he miss me ? I'm so confused .
inulg Posted December 13, 2008 Posted December 13, 2008 I'm sorry, but please go by what he said to you. I think alot of the times, when people like you and I really love someone we'll look for other signs to show us that they care for us still even when they are blatenly rude and disrespectful. please just take his word for it. i humilated myself millions of times trying to show him that he still missed me, he still loved me, ect... truth of the matter was i was left in tears for days every time i spoke to him. (we dated for 7 years...and he told me he 'hadnt been in love with me for a long time' BS...) they are selfish... for your sake and dignity... leave him ... cut all ties... cut all contact. he isnt worth it.
Author shesmiles Posted December 13, 2008 Author Posted December 13, 2008 the only thing that makes me think otherwise is because first off: my friend told me she talked to him on the phone and she was going to mention how she saw this guy she liked and as soon as she said " guess who I saw " he shot out my name ... and she was like no ? Another reason is because he's been in my area alot, and he doesn't live around me. He's very stubborn - as well. I think he wants to be over me and not think about me so he tells me this so he can feel better.
inulg Posted December 13, 2008 Posted December 13, 2008 I think he wants to be over me and not think about me so he tells me this so he can feel better. thats my point. its obvious he hasnt really figured things out, but please, just dont think about it and try to move on. dont try to get him back. the one TRYING to get back togehter should be HIM, not you. he's the one that made the mistake... i'm just reading your posts and it reminds me too much of myself 8 months ago... save yourself some heartbreak, dont try to figure out new ways of prooving to yourself that he still loves you. of course he probably does, but hes too stupid to do anything about it and is trying to move on...
Author shesmiles Posted December 13, 2008 Author Posted December 13, 2008 Well I broke up with him - That seems to be my problem . and I'm guessing like any other person he's sick of it ? But I was always the one to run back to him - always . he told me there is no future for us , not even as friends . my biggest worry is he'll come back into my life later on ... I don't want that! if he's going to come into my life I'd rather it be now .. But I'm guessing everyone wishes these kind of things .
EmperorR Posted December 13, 2008 Posted December 13, 2008 Well I broke up with him - That seems to be my problem . and I'm guessing like any other person he's sick of it ? But I was always the one to run back to him - always . he told me there is no future for us , not even as friends . my biggest worry is he'll come back into my life later on ... I don't want that! if he's going to come into my life I'd rather it be now .. But I'm guessing everyone wishes these kind of things . I read your story from your other post, as a guy this is how it goes well for me. You broke up with him, probably for the first month you could have had him back easily if you wanted, but you rushed into another relationship with another guy strike 1. MY ex did the same dumped me a new relationship a week later. For the first month she could have had me easily, I prayed for it, I would have done anything to get her back. It's now been four months, I feel nohing for my ex anymore, and would not want her back. I wouldn't even want to be her friend ever again.
wisebutnotperfect Posted December 13, 2008 Posted December 13, 2008 he's trying to move on emotionally. of course, he thinks of you. if you parted on difficult terms he's probably trying to put himself on a new track. if you were the one who broke up with him he may be just regaining his balance and self esteem.
Author shesmiles Posted December 13, 2008 Author Posted December 13, 2008 Thank you . Lastnight I cried myself to sleep as I wrote a letter for him and added it to one of these threads . ------ Dear J, I miss you almost everyday of my life - I know you don't believe me. Always thinking about you and it drives me crazy that almost everything in my life reminds me of you. Do you miss me? Don't you think about me? I was in your life for three years. I miss you so much I regret every break up I've caused, I wish things could be how they used to be... You were my bestfriend and boyfriend for three years, and it's hard living my life day by day knowing your no longer a call away and that were actually done. For good? No idea, I hope oneday you can contact me and ask me How I'm doing. I'm hoping you will never forget me - because I will never forget you, Remember our song? Difference - genuwine ... I remember the name but I don't have the guts to listen to the actual song. I listen to my ipod everynight because it seems to be the only thing that helps me sleep, and I listen to songs that remind me of you.. and I dream, Of us .. of our past, I dream of waking up from a nap next to you and kissing your cheeks until you open your beautiful green eyes with a smile and then you kiss me back. I miss your family and eating your italian dinners day after day. I miss being held by you, and having you tell me that you love me ever so much and that I complete you... going for walks late at night upnorth at my dads, both afraid to walk into something hungry and wild. The morning after the night I told you never to talk to me, You came from behind me on the mattress I was sleeping on and wrapped your arms around me and told me you never wanted to loose me... you laid there and kissed my hair and held me. I remember our one year: You cooked and made your upstairs dining table so beautiful with candles, I was very impressed. I miss you beyond words can explain and I know I took advantage of everything.. of you, So I know I deserve this ... and it hurts me so much, I never ment to hurt you when I found someone so soon, You know nobody will ever be able to replace my ' bubbaganoush ' ever ... you mean the world to me and as much as I want to be over you, I know I'll never be. I'll always have you in my heart, You were my highschool sweet heart and if I never see you again, and if there really is no future for us. you will be the story I tell my kids and my grand kids. You truly made me happy even if we fought over the stupidest things, I want you to know I'll never forget the first day we kissed. The first time we made love - I lost my virginity to you ... that was so special to me, You truly are something amazing even if you did me wrong. I forgave you because everyone makes mistakes and because I know you were truly sorry. I can't shake this feeling that you will come back to me when I'm partly healed. Come to me now if anything ... I miss your touch, Your voice, Your Family and your love. I love you J , You know that. Love, S
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