Cyprisluv Posted December 13, 2008 Posted December 13, 2008 Okay... So i'm in a relationship with this guy who was prince charming at first. ( who isn't at the beginning... I know). I was HEAD OVER HEALS in love with him. FIRST PROBLEM: Probably six months in, he gets drunk and makes out with this chic... that he used to have a crush on in Junior High. Then he made plans to go to a party and stay there where she would be... and they made out again. Come to find out... they had a secret relationship ( texting, calling, going out when I wouldn't know) after I found out about their physical stuff. He cried, and asked me to forgive him. Said he'd never F up again. I was HURT but I let him try to prove himself to me. Six more months later... Trying to call him one night and he wont answer. I had a friend of mine call HER phone, ask for my BF, and she was like, "Yeah, just a second." LIVID could not BEGIN to explain what i felt. He tried to explain to me they were friends way before hed met me and didn't want to give her up as a friend. He apologized for screwing up in the past... cuz he was "drunk". ( honestly she's a whore and my BF is not his type, so I think he's just... nevermind....) I don't believe him, but take him back. I told him I wanted his phone records if he EVER wanted me to believe him. He said he would until he dumped me because " he needed to do things on his own for a while." Which turned out to mean... " PARTY WITH HER EVERY NIGHT FOR ABOUT A MONTH." HA! He just wanted to party with her. Then he realized all he could think about was me and wanted me back desperatly. He pretty much just added himself back into my life. So since that time he has been proving himself. Clean phone records. He's over here all the time. But... despite how much I ( OBVIOUSLY) love this guy... is it worth it??? ( I have a kid by the way who has no father... and she is in LOVE with my BF... which makes things harder.) Let me know what u think of that... I mean, right now he really has changed. I just don't know if he's a "repeat offender".
DSM-IV Tom Posted December 13, 2008 Posted December 13, 2008 Ok. Let's see. Firstly, he has proven he will continue to lie and cheat if it benefits him. And unfortunately, the fact you said he was prince charming and first, yet has come to be this (i.e., a selfish liar) marks that he has some classic traits of narcissistic personality disorder. I suggest looking it up and read the symptoms. The fact your kid cares about him a lot is truly truly unfortunate. It's not a brush off matter when a child is involved. Absolutely not. But if he stuck around, his traits (such as selfishness/doing this and that just for his own benefit) could rub off on her. His ability to lie callously etc. And you must ask yourself if you would want to see those traits within her.
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