aamber Posted December 13, 2008 Posted December 13, 2008 For those of you who live with their boyfriend/girlfriends how long were you in your relationship before you made the step to move in with each other?? i'm looking for a new place in March or April. My boyfriend and I have talked about the possibility of maybe living together sometime next year. It will have to be equal space, not my place, not his.. But in March we would really only been dating for 6 months, is this too soon?? We've been friends/co-workers since June.
Byren Posted December 13, 2008 Posted December 13, 2008 I suppose it's all depends from person to person. I've been living with my girlfriend for 5 months, though for the first two of those months it was just as friends, we kinda just fell into a relationship after a while. The number one thing that you realy need to understand is that you both need your own space. I'm learning this the hard way right now. It's odd... as friends it doesn't matter how long you spend with the other person, but as soon as sex and emotions become involved you need to offer space. This is my first proper relationship and it's nice being able to see my girlfriend every day, I don't think I'd want it any other way, but I think as she's had other relationships she know's what "having space" is like and wants it a little more than me. Just be wary, living together can be fun but can put strain on the relationship. As long as you're aware of the pitfalls before you step into this situation then I think you'll be fine =)
Author aamber Posted December 14, 2008 Author Posted December 14, 2008 I defintly have to have my space, We do plan if we get a place to defintly look for a 2 bedroom apartment/house. Just so we can have sort of a "hobby room" with a extra bed just incase.
allina Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 I think it depends on where you are in life as individuals, as a couple and what living together means to each of you. Make sure you're on the same page about what this step means to you. Are you moving in with the idea that it's convenient and fun or is it a bigger deal representing a serious commitment. As for the time frame, I moved in with my boyfriend after 6-7 months of being together. We've been together for almost 2.5 years now and we couldn't be happier, it was a great decision. Neither of us have ever lived with a SO before but we knew we were going to be together for the long run and wanted to live together
Geishawhelk Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 For those of you who live with their boyfriend/girlfriends how long were you in your relationship before you made the step to move in with each other?? My partner and I knew pretty much from the word 'go' that this was going to be a 'one home' relationship. So I would say from the time we started seriously dating? Day five.
amymarieca Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 My past experiences have taught me to never move in with someone unless we are engaged. I don't take living together very lightly. I dated someone for eight years and moved in. It ended up being a total disaster and the break up was not pretty. It may seem fine now because you are still in that lust stage of the relationship, but people start to show their true colours after about 4 months. From the sounds of it you have only been dating for about 2 months. Personally in your situation, I would wait longer than 6 months to move in with someone. When you think about it, that is not a very long time to get to know someone. I have had pantyhose that have lasted longer than your relationship. This could potentially end up being a huge mistake, so please think it through before you make a decision based on your heart on not your head.
sb129 Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 Sometimes practical reasons make it easier to make a decision. My fiance and I moved in together before we got engaged, and that was because I moved to live in his city, and we decided it was better to pay one lot of rent and save money than be paying two lots of rent in an expensive city. We have put a down payment on our first house together with the money we saved, and we ended up getting engaged about 4 months after we moved in together so its all worked out really well.
norajane Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 Dating, co-workers, and living together? Too much togetherness! That's sure way to lose the romance in your relationship. But in March we would really only been dating for 6 months You've only been dating a few months! What happens if things don't turn out so well? Not only will you be stuck seeing him at work, you'll be stuck in a lease, too.
Author aamber Posted December 14, 2008 Author Posted December 14, 2008 Dating, co-workers, and living together? Too much togetherness! That's sure way to lose the romance in your relationship. You've only been dating a few months! What happens if things don't turn out so well? Not only will you be stuck seeing him at work, you'll be stuck in a lease, too. Well, We do work at the same place, but rarely do we work together unless it's a special day. We do see each other in passing.
spookie Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 I have had pantyhose that have lasted longer than your relationship. I LOVE it.
Author aamber Posted December 14, 2008 Author Posted December 14, 2008 Originally posted a little longer reply but this forum wouldn't let me edit and I didn't save My past experiences have taught me to never move in with someone unless we are engaged. I don't take living together very lightly. I dated someone for eight years and moved in. It ended up being a total disaster and the break up was not pretty. It may seem fine now because you are still in that lust stage of the relationship, but people start to show their true colours after about 4 months. From the sounds of it you have only been dating for about 2 months. Personally in your situation, I would wait longer than 6 months to move in with someone. When you think about it, that is not a very long time to get to know someone. I have had pantyhose that have lasted longer than your relationship. This could potentially end up being a huge mistake, so please think it through before you make a decision based on your heart on not your head. We've been dating really for almost 4 months. Couple weeks shy.. So maybe I'll wait to see if his true colors come out in January. but thanks for your honest input. I defintly beleive you can only learn from your own mistakes.
EYECANDY000 Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 i think you should give it some more time before you move in together honestly.. Yo have only been dating for four months and if you wait til January that will put you at, what 5 months? You should at least give it about a year or so until you decide to move it. I understand that you too barely see each other at work, but working together and living together will put a strain on your relationship.
tidalwave Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 For those of you who live with their boyfriend/girlfriends how long were you in your relationship before you made the step to move in with each other?? i'm looking for a new place in March or April. My boyfriend and I have talked about the possibility of maybe living together sometime next year. It will have to be equal space, not my place, not his.. But in March we would really only been dating for 6 months, is this too soon?? We've been friends/co-workers since June. hey do what you like but i see all types of trouble here. first of all you work together - that is never a good thing, second of all its only been 6 months, third of all why do you want to move in together? you will be together all the time: work, home, and play - that is a disaster waiting to happen. plus if you are going to move in together i would like to wait a year. people always change later on in a relationship thats why waiting as long as possible is a good thing.
starwarsnerd1 Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 I was with my g/f for 7 months before we decided to move in together. And this to an apt in a different city. Living in a tight cramped apt did not help the relationship move at the normal pace. I long for the original two separate places again, things looked on the up and up so we signed a new lease for a new apt, but our old problems came back. Now I have 7 months on our co-signed lease, and sleeping on the couch because she has a new b/f. But hey, talk things over prior to the move in idea. Trust me, but hopefully I'm the only one with the bad relationship blues. Plus its hard to see the one you love, who constantly teases me and won't give in. My point is: Talk about it, Talk about it, Talk about it!!!!
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