kylie8489 Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 Let me give you a little of a background about us. I'll try to keep it as short as possible! We were dating for 5-months, his parents are very protective of him and he definatly has a lot of growing to do. We ended up pregnant and decided to have an abortion, that same night of surgery he broke up with me because his parents had found out about a ton of lies he had told them and his dad said chose her or your family... I suffered from viciodin addiction, eating disorder and couldn't control my drinking which put a major strain on our relationship. It has been two months now and I am completely clean of all my problems, I have found faith and his mom adores me, he dad knows me. We continued to talk on a friend level or as we called it "cuddle buddies" and we have had sex twice since we broke up and just this last weekend he wanted to get together so we went hottubing and he texted me throughout the night calling me Love and Doll. giving me xoxos, etc. It felt great. He sat with me at church again, held my hand, met me for coffee, kept talking about going on tanning and dinner dates, etc. I thought he was finally coming around and I was so happy. Then just a few days ago he was asking me if we could have a cuddle session, I was driving so my text messaages were very short and he thought something was wrong he said "Youre over it huh? if youve found someone else just let me know" I decided at that point I would tell him that NO i didn't find someone else that infact it was the exact opposite. He told me that he was basically been feeling guilty for all he was doing because he knew I still had feelings for him and that he was giving me false hope. That he is over me and I deserve far better than him, that he doesn't see us ever being back together. He is going away to school and its not fair for him or me to do a long distance relationship, he said the reason why he wants to get out of this town so badly is because where ever he goes he is reminded of me because we went everywhere together and he is reminded of the pain we went through he said he doesnt deserve to live that way and if we got back together we would just end up pregnant again (NOT TRUE!) and everyone around him is says no (again not true his mom has told me she has tried pushing him to get back with me) and it was shatter the relationships he has been working so hard to build back up... He also told me that he is talking to someone else and could possibly be getting in a relationship but he is unsure at this point... WHY would he do all that to me ? I am so confused and so hurt... Is he really over me? i dont know. i need advice.. please.
DSM-IV Tom Posted December 13, 2008 Posted December 13, 2008 I'll give you some advice. I honestly don't think this guy is straight. Tanning dates? Really?
Author kylie8489 Posted December 13, 2008 Author Posted December 13, 2008 LoL, it is something i dragged him along to do one time and so it was kinda my doing that got him into it.. He's a white boy lol
DSM-IV Tom Posted December 13, 2008 Posted December 13, 2008 Lmao I don't care. If a girl tried to drag me along to tanning dates I'd say hell naw woman. But okay. Let me enter psychology mode. This guy sounds emotionally unavailable. He, as you've already discovered, has much growing up to do. His parents overprotection has mostly caused a specific type of "spoiling" that will never truly fade. He seems to be reckless and careless as well as indifferent to others feelings to some degree. My diagnosis? Run
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