reelbigfish Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 So I bought my ex (she was a girlfriend at the time) a $270 spa package to a very nice spa for valentine's day 2008 among other things. She has the gift card (unless she has lost it) to go there but she has not done so yet. Would I be a major jackass if I called the golf and spa club and requested that the gift card be resent so that I can have it for a couple rounds of golf? She hasn't used it yet - she may have lost it for all I know - and even if she has it she may not ever use it thus letting $270 go to waste. Give me some help here and what the ramifications might be if she does eventually go to use it and the card doesn't work...
Geishawhelk Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 Use it. The ramifications are that she'll throw a dicky fit, but as there's probably an expiry time on it, I'd use it pretty damn quick, and tell her after the event. Tell her also about the expiry date if there is one.....
Author reelbigfish Posted December 12, 2008 Author Posted December 12, 2008 I don't follow you there.... There isn't an expiry that I am aware of but even if there is what it the basis for telling her that I used it? We broked up 5 months ago and other than very sparse communication we haven't really talked in 2-3 months. Just curious as to why I should bother telling her I used it?
Geishawhelk Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 Just a courtesy. But better late than never. Check on the expiry thing though. Gift cards of this type, in the UK have a finite period during which to be claimed. Otherwise you could go there three years later, when prices have gone up. They don't like to lose out that way.
Author reelbigfish Posted December 12, 2008 Author Posted December 12, 2008 Basically what I'm saying is I bought her that gift card and I would be taking that gift card back - and you are saying I should tell her that the gift I gave her I am now taking back and she can't use. I'd love to get someone else's opinion on that because I can't seem to grasp why it would be a good idea to tell the ex that I took her present back.
confused_2008 Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 Well, the way I'm reading it is you want to take the present back but don't want to tell her. Geishawhelk is telling you to tell her, so that she doesn't go there, use a $270 spa package, and get stuck with the bill because she finds out the gift card she thought she had to cover it is no good. That's where the courtesy comes in. If she presents the card before doing whatever it is the card is good for, my whole post is worthless and don't worry about telling her.
Author reelbigfish Posted December 13, 2008 Author Posted December 13, 2008 I see. That makes much more sense. I did not think about having to present the gift card afterwards. I think that's because I purchased a specific spa package. Thanks for shedding some light.
Trialbyfire Posted December 13, 2008 Posted December 13, 2008 Are you certain that the gift card is refundable?
Author reelbigfish Posted December 13, 2008 Author Posted December 13, 2008 Not refundable - but they are going to issue a new gift card.
Author reelbigfish Posted December 15, 2008 Author Posted December 15, 2008 So I emailed her a simple email informing her it had been canceled. Here is her response. Should I offer to give the card back to her and if so - just through the regular mail or make her meet up with me. We broke up over the phone about 6 months ago and I haven't seen her since. "I'm really sorry, but I just haven't had a chance to use it. I haven't been home long enough to make it down there. Thank you for letting me know that it has been cancelled so I don't try to use it." By the way - I read this to say: "Dammit I forgot I had that card. I've been too busy locking lips with my new boyfriend who is a complete loser. This sucks now because I can't use it at all." Thanks for the help!
melodymatters Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 I think one of you showed some class here, and one of you did not. IMO
Author reelbigfish Posted December 15, 2008 Author Posted December 15, 2008 Melodymatters - thanks for your response but can you add some details? Was I classless here?
melodymatters Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 Melodymatters - thanks for your response but can you add some details? Was I classless here? Ok, I do not ever come on here to snipe at people, and I am sorry as when I read my last response, it sounded more b*tchy than helpful. For that I truly apologise. I guess i just believe that a gift once given, can not politely be taken back. if anything perhaps you should have approached her first, saying you noticed that she hadn't used it, and if she didn't plan to, perhaps you could use it for golf or something. Cancelling it beforehand and then letting her know ? Mmmm, it would have left a bad taste in my mouth. And yes, I thought her answer was dignified and polite. I would hope my daughter would behave the same way in a similar situation. Thanks for asking my opinion in a genuine manner though: it's not like you killed her puppy and ran off with her sister ! Just, hopefully, be a little cooler about it if the situation arises again. PS. I had an ex who was the biggest "Indian giver' ever, and i found it so immature and demeaning to both of us, so perhaps that is coloring my response !
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