Were together but not in a relationship?? How soon do you have sex in a relationship?

[Brady_to_Moss]

So last night i was hanging out with this girl again. Making out, kissing all night, flirting. We were in my bed about to do something a little more until the fire alarm went on in my college!!! SO MAD!! haha But when will we become a couple? I asked her a few days ago about the whole BF and GF thing and she said she wanted to wait on that a little becasue she didnt want to miss out on anything good we were having..but after last night i feel like her BF yet shes not too ready for that. Should i let her decide when the time is right?

 

 

Do we have to have sex in order for it to be a relationship???

[JohnnyBlaze]

First sign it's still early: you opened by saying you were "hanging out with this girl". Even you're saying it as though it's casual. Yeah, if she wants to make the move, she'll probably need more time. Sex doesn't have much to do with that decision, so don't do it thinking that it's going to change things. Of course, it could just be that she's not looking for anything beyond casual. Without knowing her, it's hard to get a read on a girl for something like that at this stage in the game.

 

And the fire alarm thing does suck; I know how you feel on that one.

[Brady_to_Moss]

First sign it's still early: you opened by saying you were "hanging out with this girl". Even you're saying it as though it's casual. Yeah, if she wants to make the move, she'll probably need more time. Sex doesn't have much to do with that decision, so don't do it thinking that it's going to change things. Of course, it could just be that she's not looking for anything beyond casual. Without knowing her, it's hard to get a read on a girl for something like that at this stage in the game.

 

And the fire alarm thing does suck; I know how you feel on that one.

 

 

Yea i agree. But is it all up to her on how fast we go or when we start calling each other BF and GF?

[O'Malley]

I asked her a few days ago about the whole BF and GF thing and she said she wanted to wait on that a little becasue she didnt want to miss out on anything good we were having

 

Translated as, "I like the attention you give me but I don't want to date you, so I'll hang around until I find someone better."

 

You're not in a relationship with her because she prefers to hold out for better options. Either you accept the situation on her terms, or find another girl who doesn't have to be persuaded to be in a relationship with you. Continuing to provide this girl with attention when you know she doesn't want to date you actually decreases you chances of having a relationship with her.

[4givrnt4gtr]

Yea i agree. But is it all up to her on how fast we go or when we start calling each other BF and GF?

Well that kinda depends. You can always ask her to be your gf...which apparently you already did. Now she does have the right to say "no yet". Here is when you either let her take her time and decide when she is ready or walk away...so i guess yes...in this case, she gets to call the shots at this point

[Brady_to_Moss]

Well i was just talking to her and i guess she wants to take it slow becasue i use to like her friend a roommate last year so idk if she trusts me. But those two girls were completley diffrent than this one.

[movingonandon]

 

 

Do we have to have sex in order for it to be a relationship???

 

 

For me, the answer is always "YES", but I wouldn't want to impose it on anyone.

I also think that the whole "i'm not ready" stuff is dubious at best bulshi t at worst. If she likes you, she will have sex with you. What is there to be "ready" for???

I've never understood the making out for extended period of time but no sex "relationships".

[movingonandon]

Translated as, "I like the attention you give me but I don't want to date you, so I'll hang around until I find someone better."

 

You're not in a relationship with her because she prefers to hold out for better options. Either you accept the situation on her terms, or find another girl who doesn't have to be persuaded to be in a relationship with you. Continuing to provide this girl with attention when you know she doesn't want to date you actually decreases you chances of having a relationship with her.

 

 

Like the irishman said.

[Brady_to_Moss]

I mean i know we can have sex and it wont be a relationship..happens all the time.

 

 

but shes just got it stuck in her head that i like her roommate not too long ago....Anything i can do about that? Or is it up to her?

[Star Gazer]

but shes just got it stuck in her head that i like her roommate not too long ago....Anything i can do about that? Or is it up to her?

 

I'm afraid you're not paying attention. The fact that you liked her old roommate is irrelevant here. Please re-read this:

 

"She didnt want to miss out on anything good we were having" is to be translated as' date=' "[u']I like the attention you give me but I don't want to date you, so I'll hang around until I find someone better[/u]."

 

You're not in a relationship with her because she prefers to hold out for better options. Either you accept the situation on her terms, or find another girl who doesn't have to be persuaded to be in a relationship with you. Continuing to provide this girl with attention when you know she doesn't want to date you actually decreases you chances of having a relationship with her.

[kashmir]

Don't worry about being in a relationship man. If I remember right, you're in a similar situation as I am. If I were you, I'd be mad happy that a girl likes me enough to make out with me and spend a lot of time with me. Enjoy that and don't push a relationship. This will work to your advantage. If you're relaxed and are just enjoying your time with her with no commitment, she might eventually come around.

 

Lovin's what you got, and remember that.

[MusicChick24]

First I have to say that if you have to have sex for it to be a relationship...I've never been in a relationship in my life.

 

Now that being said...my only advice is that obviously you shouldn't have sex until there is atleast a BF/GF thing. Unless you are open to the possibility she could just use you for sex and move on. I don't know all the details just throwing that out there.