lovestruck818 Posted December 12, 2008 Share Posted December 12, 2008 The guy I am seeing denied my Facebook request to be his friend. We have went on 7 dates so far- clearly we are friends! Lol. I know Facebook is not the end all be all, and I'm a little more baffled than I am angry. Why would he not accept a friend request? Link to post Share on other sites
serialgf Posted December 12, 2008 Share Posted December 12, 2008 how do you know he denied your friend request? i thought facebook just didn't say anything if someone denied you... ... if i were you i would just jokingly ask him next time you see him. i wouldnt ask on the phone because i would want to see his face when he answers. i'd be like, "dude what's up with you denying my facebook request? are you too cool for me or what?" (this is all said in a super-funny/sarcastic tone) and then see what his reaction is. i find a lot of times with facebook/myspace its just a matter of miscommunication... at least that's what its been in my experience just remind yourself that facebook and all that other stuff is silly and comes second to real life, in which you and he are obviously dating and stuff... don't let this get in the way of you having fun with him... chill! Link to post Share on other sites
BrooklynBridge Posted December 12, 2008 Share Posted December 12, 2008 cause he has a girlfriend..... Link to post Share on other sites
pandagirl Posted December 12, 2008 Share Posted December 12, 2008 Unless I was in a legitimate relationship with a guy, meaning we are definitely together and in a serious relationship, I would not request or accept a facebook request from a guy I'm dating. Why? 1. I don't need to know all the minutia of his life and he doesn't need to know mine either. 2. Potential stalking. 3. You break up, then you're stuck still knowing everything that person is doing with their life and thus harder to move on. The list goes on! Link to post Share on other sites
JohnnyBlaze Posted December 12, 2008 Share Posted December 12, 2008 Could it just be that he hasn't checked it lately? I've gone weeks on end without checking mine. Facebook is only supposed to be a reflection of the people you already know are your friends, not an indicator that they are. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Jam Posted December 12, 2008 Share Posted December 12, 2008 The guy I am seeing denied my Facebook request to be his friend. We have went on 7 dates so far- clearly we are friends! Lol. I know Facebook is not the end all be all, and I'm a little more baffled than I am angry. Why would he not accept a friend request? Wow...this sounds like a familiar topic. Link to post Share on other sites
Bells Posted December 12, 2008 Share Posted December 12, 2008 The guy I am seeing denied my Facebook request to be his friend. We have went on 7 dates so far- clearly we are friends! Lol. I know Facebook is not the end all be all, and I'm a little more baffled than I am angry. Why would he not accept a friend request? LOL...YES..I'm not the only one! LOL I had 2 women do this to me...one I knew for a FULL year.....know her well, I just started using FB, was trying out the ropes. I saw a woman i knew from our parties and stuff...we used to hang out at the parties. I sent her a friends req. immediately...and it said "Awaiting Friends Request" But it was never confirmed....then I looked at her profile AGAIN, and it says, "Send Friend request" So i sent her a message again....asking if it must bea glitch, if she got my F.R. Well,she tells me, "Well, nothing personal, but I post alot of personal stuff on my page, and I don't want just anyone seeing it. " What ticked ME off was that she has alot of other friends she added that I knew just as well as I did, that she had no problem having as a "friend" I wrote her off as a FB Snob. I was like "Fine, be that way." Next time I see her, I'm going to kinda joke/tease "Oh, there's the Facebook snob" lol Another woman, she had seen me on a frequent basis out with some friends, out socializing, she would have her hands all over me, running her fingers through my hair. I happened to find her through the "You might KNOW some of these people" feature. Saw her pic...she is in a hot bikini at the beach,lol. I wanted to see more, if any. lol. I sent a friends request, and she emailed me back, "Sorry, I don't like to NEW people to my list, nothing personal" Again, with the "nothing personal" I think it IS personal.... I sent her a short joke..."You're such a tease,lol!" She didnt answer that joke. Link to post Share on other sites
serial muse Posted December 12, 2008 Share Posted December 12, 2008 Most likely he doesn't want you to have access to the parts of his life on display there. I was going to add "yet," but someone earlier suggested that he already might have a girlfriend, and that seems like a possibility too. Or maybe he's dating around and people leave messages for him on FB that he doesn't want you to see. Or maybe he just prefers more privacy until he knows you better. Once you accept someone as a friend on FB you can't really filter what certain selected friends get to see. It's all or nothing. So, the most likely answer is there's stuff he doesn't want you to see, for whatever reason, and the only way to prevent it is not to friend you. Did you actually get a rejection message? Or has he just not responded? People don't always check their facebook accounts frequently. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted December 12, 2008 Share Posted December 12, 2008 It's just a bunch of electrons... Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted December 12, 2008 Share Posted December 12, 2008 I wouldn't take it personally. Facebook can cause all sorts of problems with dating. I know I was seeing a few people and having them all on facebook made things strange- they all had access to my life and what I was doing. I didn't want that. Someone would write an innocuous comment on my wall and I'd get in trouble from the guys I was seeing... Two friends of mine were dating and ended up breaking up over pictures another female posted that put her bf in seemingly scandalous position. It was harmless, but my friend was so enraged, she dumped him. I find facebook is bad for that. I actually deleted my profile because I was tired of everyone having access to my life. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lovestruck818 Posted December 12, 2008 Author Share Posted December 12, 2008 Most likely he doesn't want you to have access to the parts of his life on display there. I was going to add "yet," but someone earlier suggested that he already might have a girlfriend, and that seems like a possibility too. Or maybe he's dating around and people leave messages for him on FB that he doesn't want you to see. Or maybe he just prefers more privacy until he knows you better. Once you accept someone as a friend on FB you can't really filter what certain selected friends get to see. It's all or nothing. So, the most likely answer is there's stuff he doesn't want you to see, for whatever reason, and the only way to prevent it is not to friend you. Did you actually get a rejection message? Or has he just not responded? People don't always check their facebook accounts frequently. Well I was already able to see his profile prior anyway b/c he is part of my network...and some people's profile you can see if they are in your network even tho they are not your friend. No, you don't get a rejection message but you can check to see if you have pending requests and it orig. said his was pending and then suddenly he was gone and I saw that I was not added to his friends list. I can still see his profile whether I am his friend or not... Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted December 12, 2008 Share Posted December 12, 2008 I can still see his profile whether I am his friend or not... Not necessarily ALL of it though. You can put your network on limited profile. Link to post Share on other sites
RogueAC Posted December 12, 2008 Share Posted December 12, 2008 Once you accept someone as a friend on FB you can't really filter what certain selected friends get to see. It's all or nothing. So, the most likely answer is there's stuff he doesn't want you to see, for whatever reason, and the only way to prevent it is not to friend you. Actually, you can filter quite a bit of information on FB. You just have to customize the privacy settings. It takes a little time to set up but once it is in place it is fairly easy to make changes. You can also see how 'friends' view your profile. Unfortunately, you have far less privacy control for items that other people post about you on their pages, like pictures, etc. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted December 12, 2008 Share Posted December 12, 2008 Maybe its just that he doesn't want to have to "de-friend" you if things don't work out, which is more insulting/ awkward IMO. Seven dates is still early days. Link to post Share on other sites
indianlover Posted December 12, 2008 Share Posted December 12, 2008 The guy I am seeing denied my Facebook request to be his friend. We have went on 7 dates so far- clearly we are friends! Lol. I know Facebook is not the end all be all, and I'm a little more baffled than I am angry. Why would he not accept a friend request? Same thing happened to me - I was on hold forever. He broke up with me fairly quickly. Be wary I don't agree with some of the other posters - its not normal, its a sign. He's hiding something or not ready to let you into his world. If he also doesn't introduce you to friends, etc that's also a bad sign. Sorry :-( Link to post Share on other sites
Author lovestruck818 Posted December 12, 2008 Author Share Posted December 12, 2008 Lol facebook is so nuts! Link to post Share on other sites
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