WHITE.SANDY.BEACH Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 I'm fixing to be 21 and my boyfriend is 23. We've been together for 5 and a half years (4 and a half if you count the year we broke up when I went off to college). I broke up with him and got a great deal of dating experience to make certain he is the one for me--though I already knew. I had friends & family that though they think we're adorable and love us, were a bit worried since we had only dated each other and were so young. I've also learned how to be independent and live on my own in my own apartment. I've lived with roommates and have lived on my own to learn the difference. We are not engaged, but I have a feeling he will propose on Christmas Eve while we are on vacation alone together. I know him well, and KNOW he is going to propose. He has a wonderful job and I am half way finished with college. I love him very much and know he is the one..but I think(especially considering how the economy could be in a few months-years down the road) that it'd be best to stay engaged until I finish school so we aren't just living on his salary--though it is a good salary it'd be better i could support myself as well. I know he is the one and think being together with him would be heavenly--I just want to make certain that we're financially secure before doing so. What should we do? Go ahead and get married since we love each other or just wait it out 2 more years?
reddog63 Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 I'm fixing to be 21 and my boyfriend is 23. We've been together for 5 and a half years (4 and a half if you count the year we broke up when I went off to college). I broke up with him and got a great deal of dating experience to make certain he is the one for me--though I already knew. I had friends & family that though they think we're adorable and love us, were a bit worried since we had only dated each other and were so young. I've also learned how to be independent and live on my own in my own apartment. I've lived with roommates and have lived on my own to learn the difference. We are not engaged, but I have a feeling he will propose on Christmas Eve while we are on vacation alone together. I know him well, and KNOW he is going to propose. He has a wonderful job and I am half way finished with college. I love him very much and know he is the one..but I think(especially considering how the economy could be in a few months-years down the road) that it'd be best to stay engaged until I finish school so we aren't just living on his salary--though it is a good salary it'd be better i could support myself as well. I know he is the one and think being together with him would be heavenly--I just want to make certain that we're financially secure before doing so. What should we do? Go ahead and get married since we love each other or just wait it out 2 more years? If I were in that position again, I would give more thought on discussing all topics with my future spouse. From parenting, to sex, to expectations, to how to communicate with each other (and I mean, how to interpret how men and women communicate), to thoughts on keeping in shape........in other words, just be very prepared and know that spouse is really a good choice............if well matched, sure, get hitched..........if not, dont think love will make it in the long run. Ohhh........another thought.........think it is very important to know what spouses childhood was like.....their relationship with both the mother and the father. What I think I undertand through reading........it really molds the individual and is the cause for many a problem later in life.
Wicked Smile Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 I'm fixing to be 21 and my boyfriend is 23. We've been together for 5 and a half years (4 and a half if you count the year we broke up when I went off to college). I broke up with him and got a great deal of dating experience to make certain he is the one for me--though I already knew. I had friends & family that though they think we're adorable and love us, were a bit worried since we had only dated each other and were so young. I've also learned how to be independent and live on my own in my own apartment. I've lived with roommates and have lived on my own to learn the difference. We are not engaged, but I have a feeling he will propose on Christmas Eve while we are on vacation alone together. I know him well, and KNOW he is going to propose. He has a wonderful job and I am half way finished with college. I love him very much and know he is the one..but I think(especially considering how the economy could be in a few months-years down the road) that it'd be best to stay engaged until I finish school so we aren't just living on his salary--though it is a good salary it'd be better i could support myself as well. I know he is the one and think being together with him would be heavenly--I just want to make certain that we're financially secure before doing so. What should we do? Go ahead and get married since we love each other or just wait it out 2 more years? I will keep my advice short & sweet. He has a good job. You are finishing up school. You both are in love. The economy is..well..the economy. It will pick back up eventually. I'd recommend if you feel that being married to him would bring you happiness then do it. If he proposes and you balk...it may throw the first monkey wrench in your relationship plan. What if..now I know you havent considered this...but what if you wait and someone else comes into the picture after you balk on his proposal? I have seen that happen. A good man with a good job and is as loving as you claim would be a prize catch for most women. Anyways, think it through. It will boil down to if you are truly ready to commit.
Author WHITE.SANDY.BEACH Posted December 17, 2008 Author Posted December 17, 2008 I will keep my advice short & sweet. He has a good job. You are finishing up school. You both are in love. The economy is..well..the economy. It will pick back up eventually. I'd recommend if you feel that being married to him would bring you happiness then do it. If he proposes and you balk...it may throw the first monkey wrench in your relationship plan. What if..now I know you havent considered this...but what if you wait and someone else comes into the picture after you balk on his proposal? I have seen that happen. A good man with a good job and is as loving as you claim would be a prize catch for most women. Anyways, think it through. It will boil down to if you are truly ready to commit. Thank you for replying! I should've been more clear. I am not going to say no to him if he asks. I could never say no if he asks that question because I know he is the one for me. I am certain & am so excited. I was just needing advice on whether we should get married soon or have a longer engagement until I graduate in 2 years. Thanks again for replying! =-)
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