D-Jam Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 It's starting again in my personal world. Single people lamenting on how they're so lonely and have no one to share the holidays with. People feeling embarrassed because they hate hearing the comments and questions from family about how they're not married yet...as well as ashamed that they have no date for whatever New Years Eve events they might want to attend. While I've had bouts of loneliness (when I was single), I never got as bothered as I'd see many get around this time of year. I usually just treated Christmas as a family day and ignored New Years. Maybe I can just handle it better and/or am lucky my family never pushed me to "find someone". Even funnier are the rumors afloat in my social circles of which lonely hearts will drunkenly come together in wild sexual passion for one night...simply because after New Years or the office Holiday party the loneliness combined with enough alcohol will totally bring people together in ways no one imagined. How about all of you? How do you handle being alone for the holidays...if you are alone? Have you ever kissed someone or even went further with someone you wouldn't normally do that with because the season, empty feelings, and alcohol just took over? Any of you in my shoes with the friends/coworkers who lament on and on about being alone for the holiday?
fishtaco Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 Not really. Holiday season never bothered me. Actually they're more of an annoyance than anything. Increased traffic, have to go shopping (which I'm not a fan of - yay for gift cards), the gym closes down, messes up my workout schedule... etc. I have heard that people tend to want to hook up, but more for escaping loneliness than anything. I don't know if that's just a theory or it's actually true. Can't say I've experienced that. Maybe because I don't hang out at bars on Christmas eve. I've done the full spectrum of dating things during holidays. But they're things I would have done normally anyway.
Author D-Jam Posted December 11, 2008 Author Posted December 11, 2008 Fish tacos sound good right about not. Sorry to detour from the subject...but I'm hungry.
Trialbyfire Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 This is the first year I'm going to whine about Christmas. My parents are going away golfing with friends, in the hot sunshine, leaving everyone to fend for themselves. I'm pouting so much, I don't even feel like accepting any invitations for Christmas dinner. It just doesn't feel like Christmas this year. *whine, pout, snuffle, moan, bitch* As for being single during the Christmas season, I don't ever hook up with anyone, unless I'm seriously into them. I've got enough friends, family and business related functions to go to, that it never bugs me to be single.
Author D-Jam Posted December 11, 2008 Author Posted December 11, 2008 This is the first year I'm going to whine about Christmas. My parents are going away golfing with friends, in the hot sunshine, leaving everyone to fend for themselves. I'm pouting so much, I don't even feel like accepting any invitations for Christmas dinner. It just doesn't feel like Christmas this year. *whine, pout, snuffle, moan, bitch* As for being single during the Christmas season, I don't ever hook up with anyone, unless I'm seriously into them. I've got enough friends, family and business related functions to go to, that it never bugs me to be single. You strike me as a sensible one by most of your posts.
burning 4 revenge Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 This is the first year I'm going to whine about Christmas. My parents are going away golfing with friends, in the hot sunshine, leaving everyone to fend for themselves. I'm pouting so much, I don't even feel like accepting any invitations for Christmas dinner. It just doesn't feel like Christmas this year. *whine, pout, snuffle, moan, bitch* As for being single during the Christmas season, I don't ever hook up with anyone, unless I'm seriously into them. I've got enough friends, family and business related functions to go to, that it never bugs me to be single. I cant believe your parents would do that. Tell your dad to wait until the 26th
D-Lish Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 I always love x-mas when I am in a relationship and hate it when I am single. I actually rebel against x-mas when I am single and just go into caving mode. This year I am in a dilemma... just started seeing someone and it's in the early stages. I have no clue if we will see one another on x-mas day, spend new years together...etc. It's weird. I stupidly invited him to my parents for x-mas dinner the other day and he replied that he had already accepted dinner at his friends parents place. There was an extended silence after that and then he said "why don't you come there with me?" But I have no clue if he meant it or was just saving face. Now I feel retarded for asking- like I put myself out there and got shot down. I wouldn't go hooking up just because the holidays promote coupledom and family though. I'll see my parents and hang out with my married friends and hide my lonliness just like every other year. It will all end up with me crying in the bathtub at some point I'm sure.
Trialbyfire Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 You strike me as a sensible one by most of your posts. Why thank you, I think that's a compliment..of sorts! I have my emo moments. I cant believe your parents would do that. Tell your dad to wait until the 26th I know. So mean. They've never done this before and it's brought out the child in me. I'm having a Christmas tantrum! If I told my Dad that, he would consider it. My Mom, she'd laugh and say "Get real". My Mom would be right which makes me pout even more. Grrrr....
burning 4 revenge Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 Why thank you, I think that's a compliment..of sorts! I have my emo moments. I know. So mean. They've never done this before and it's brought out the child in me. I'm having a Christmas tantrum! If I told my Dad that, he would consider it. My Mom, she'd laugh and say "Get real". My Mom would be right which makes me pout even more. Grrrr....No your mom would be wrong. Christmas is no time to go golfing when theres the rest of the year THink about it this way. At their age how many more good Christmases do you have left with them?
Trialbyfire Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 No your mom would be wrong. Christmas is no time to go golfing when theres the rest of the year THink about it this way. At their age how many more good Christmases do you have left with them? I'm going to say exactly that to my Mom. I'll tell her it was you that said it. She'll laugh and then say "Get real!". Mommy isn't very empathetic when it comes to pathos or comments about being a senior.
Storyrider Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 No your mom would be wrong. Christmas is no time to go golfing when theres the rest of the year THink about it this way. At their age how many more good Christmases do you have left with them? That's a festive thought! I'm sure they'll be around for plenty of other Christmases. Maybe they want to shake things up a bit instead of feeling like they have to follow tradition just because it is there.
burning 4 revenge Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 I'm going to say exactly that to my Mom. I'll tell her it was you that said it. She'll laugh and then say "Get real!". Mommy isn't very empathetic when it comes to pathos or comments about being a senior. Yes tell her I said it and that I think at her age she should appreciate the ephemeral nature of material existence a little better, but do wish her a happy holidays for me
MexicanBillBacker Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 Join therxsportsbetting forum We'll be lonely hearts that take it to the bookies in the bowl season Man I love betting
Trialbyfire Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 Yes tell her I said it and that I think at her age she should appreciate the ephemeral nature of material existence a little better, but do wish her a happy holidays for me If she ever met you, she would slap you around a bit, then give you a happy holidays back with a hug. If you think I'm a hard-arse... She's also one of the most loving, big-hearted and caring people I know.
Author D-Jam Posted December 12, 2008 Author Posted December 12, 2008 This year I am in a dilemma... just started seeing someone and it's in the early stages. I have no clue if we will see one another on x-mas day, spend new years together...etc. It's weird. Christmas...no. New Years...possibility. My logic is more based on how at Christmas it's time for family and such, plus he's probably not ready to meet yours. New Years though would be more like a date, but extravagant. If I were you, I'd probably feel down if he didn't want to see me for New Years. I stupidly invited him to my parents for x-mas dinner the other day and he replied that he had already accepted dinner at his friends parents place. There was an extended silence after that and then he said "why don't you come there with me?" But I have no clue if he meant it or was just saving face. Now I feel retarded for asking- like I put myself out there and got shot down. I wouldn't sweat it. I think it was just too soon to meet your family. It will all end up with me crying in the bathtub at some point I'm sure. Awwwwwwww
yongyong Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 I don't think I will spend christmas with Kevin (movie:Home Alone) lol
Miranda1 Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 Well, I'll probably be baking a chocolate cake with choc icing for my parents, then I'll spend Christmas with them. Then, I'll be going to the Boxing Day sales with my friend...Then, it's Summadazye for New Year's Day...Hopefully, I'll keep busy, so there's no time to think about crying over some bastard that keeps breaking my heart.
Ross PK Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 It's starting again in my personal world. Single people lamenting on how they're so lonely and have no one to share the holidays with. People feeling embarrassed because they hate hearing the comments and questions from family about how they're not married yet...as well as ashamed that they have no date for whatever New Years Eve events they might want to attend. While I've had bouts of loneliness (when I was single), I never got as bothered as I'd see many get around this time of year. I usually just treated Christmas as a family day and ignored New Years. Maybe I can just handle it better and/or am lucky my family never pushed me to "find someone". Even funnier are the rumors afloat in my social circles of which lonely hearts will drunkenly come together in wild sexual passion for one night...simply because after New Years or the office Holiday party the loneliness combined with enough alcohol will totally bring people together in ways no one imagined. How about all of you? How do you handle being alone for the holidays...if you are alone? Like you for some reason the holidays don't make me feel worse, even valentines day. Have you ever kissed someone or even went further with someone you wouldn't normally do that with because the season, empty feelings, and alcohol just took over? Any of you in my shoes with the friends/coworkers who lament on and on about being alone for the holiday? No, because I've never had the opportunity too. I'm not just eternally single, I can't actually get a woman full stop.
D-Lish Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 Break ups just before x-mas suck. I was feeling really awesome about the holidays and now I just want to go and cave again. I doubt I'd go out looking for a hook up on new years... I couldn't imagine the thought of being with anyone else. I put a tree up and now I just want to take it down.
orangehose Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 Nope, time of year doesn't matter for me as much as relationship status of my cohort. If most/all of my close friends are in serious relationships, it can be annoying (as they don't care about their friendships as much). Otherwise, Christmas, Valentine's day... just days.
soserious1 Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 The only thing that bothers me about being alone over the holidays is the co-workers who automatically assume that of course you'll be happy to work their shift for them,after all they've got spouses and children and gee, Christmas is for families. The assumption that I've got nothing better to do with my day and the implication that their life is somehow more important than mine is annoying.
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