applepie1989 Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 Ok I met a girl on a dating website, we’ve been talking for a couple of weeks and I’m really starting to like her, a lot. We talk on cam a lot and we text although we’ve not called. We make jokes with each other and I’ve complimented her a lot and it makes her smile and she says thanks although she hasn't really complimented me. She has asked me what she should do with her hair and what looks the best and when I told her she said that’s what she was going to do. We talk pretty much everyday I’m just not sure if I’ve fallen into some kind of friend zone? Some of the jokes might include telling me she’s going to have to move in with me and I’ll have to sleep on the floor. Is that a friendly joke or a flirty joke? I think she likes talking to me it’s not like we play games making the other person say hello first. I’ve not met her yet and not even asked or said I fancy her I’m well to shy; sometimes there will be like an hour’s were we don’t even message each other. I’m a really shy person and she is too, is she waiting for me to do something? It’s near Christmas so I’m scared that this isn’t the best time because she might be busy. We both still go online on this website, maybe shes looking for something else? Also it’s charged so it obvious were both serious about finding someone. What do I do she is really one in a million considering I hate clubbing and since I’m in university it’s hard to find a girl who prefers to stay in and play games. From what she has told me she hasn’t had much luck on date either. I’m just scared what to do really and could use your help, what should I do I don’t want to stop talking completely because I’ve said something stupid. Ask any other question you like and I will answer and keep u posted if enough people help Thank you
Julesx0822 Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 i would drop hints about meeting her someday mention something you'd want to show her someday or something and see how she reacts
SoulSearch_CO Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 *sigh* Details, people - DETAILS. How far apart do you two live? Have you made plans to meet IRL, yet? Are you GOING to? Since that would be the point of online dating - hopes to meet up and date IRL. Really, I would find it difficult to develop any real chemistry for a guy until I meet him in person. So you *might* be friend-zoned until you see if you click in person. I'd say that should be your next big step.
Author applepie1989 Posted December 12, 2008 Author Posted December 12, 2008 We do live quite far apart, maybe 140 miles. I’ve joked about how far it is and that it would take ages to get there, and even talked about the route, she even said it’s not that far and that she has travelled further. Trouble is it’s hard to know if were serious or just messing around. Yes I do plan (in my head anyway) on meeting her but I guess I don’t know if I should just wait till after Christmas, heck even then I’m not going to know what to say. Mentioning something that I would like to see seems a good idea, I’d have to travel to London on the train first before getting the train to where she lives so maybe I could say something about that and see if she mentions going with me. Is it worth waiting I don’t want to rush into something when I probably won’t even be able to speak to her for a week over Christmas. I’ve seen a lot of people feel this but even the little things make me doubt she likes me, like she hasn’t texted in a few days and it really gives me doubts.
Gremio Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 I'm curious as to why you're interested in someone so far away. Do you live in a small town? I can't feasibly see how a relationship could start when two people are so far away. Even if you do click, what are going to do? Drive 2.5-3hrs once a week to see her?
Author applepie1989 Posted December 12, 2008 Author Posted December 12, 2008 Well as i mentioned in my first post. A) Im shy B) 99% of girls here are the clubbing, party animal type which is not what im after, i hate clubbing and that whole "meat market" setting. Maybe the distance is what has put her off? Although she did say "oh its not that far" when i brought it up few days ago. =/
Gremio Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 Well as i mentioned in my first post. A) Im shy B) 99% of girls here are the clubbing, party animal type which is not what im after, i hate clubbing and that whole "meat market" setting. Maybe the distance is what has put her off? Although she did say "oh its not that far" when i brought it up few days ago. =/ Honestly, and I don't want you to take it the wrong way, but I wouldn't get my hopes up too much. I personally believe the distance is too far. I agree with you about the club setting. Most women you would meet there are not the best as far as potential relationships are concerned. You need to work on not being shy and be more outgoing. Being shy only makes your situation worse. You're afraid to approach, and since you are single, you are more apt to stay that way unless you do something to change it. It's your move. Do what you feel is best and don't be afraid of rejection. You can't lose what you don't have.
Author applepie1989 Posted December 12, 2008 Author Posted December 12, 2008 Meh I guess the distance maybe an issue, to her anyway. But if I ask her about it thats being really forward. Think im just gonna drop hints, this weekend i wont be on so ill tell her im going to miss her, see how she replys. guess if i dont do anything ill regret it more then if i do, regardless of the outcome.
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