shadowplay Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 This may be just me since I'm rather obsessive in general, but I tend to fixate on people who annoy me but I'm envious of in some way. As an example there's this girl in one of my classes who is really beautiful (in my opinion), but her personality irks me. She comes off as extremely bitchy, entitled and vapid. I'm not just imagining this -- I have good evidence based on her behavior. Yet I've checked out her facebook page on occasion. Why, I have no clue. It's not just other women that I fixate on, but also douchey men who have a high social status despite their lameness. These are people I have no desire to befriend, date or have any relationship with whatsoever. They strike me affected and unintelligent. Yet somehow they take up space in my head. Perhaps it's the fact that I feel like they've undeservedly attained some sort of social status that I crave. I used to facebook whole groups of people who I couldn't stand because of everything they represented (usually some form of fakeness). Then I would send links to my friends and we would make fun of their profiles. They have no effect whatsoever on my life, so I wish I didn't waste mental energy on them. Strangely people who I respect rent less of my mental space. Anyone else with this peculiar problem?
georgejungle Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 could be how for example, maybe the Loner Goth dude at school, hates the cocky Star Quaterback Jock who gets the cheerleaders, but deep down he's envious that he's popular and gets the chicks, because that's something he doesn't have? Like that?
nana yaw II Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 This may be just me since I'm rather obsessive in general, but I tend to fixate on people who annoy me but I'm envious of in some way. As an example there's this girl in one of my classes who is really beautiful (in my opinion), but her personality irks me. She comes off as extremely bitchy, entitled and vapid. I'm not just imagining this -- I have good evidence based on her behavior. Yet I've checked out her facebook page on occasion. Why, I have no clue. It's not just other women that I fixate on, but also douchey men who have a high social status despite their lameness. These are people I have no desire to befriend, date or have any relationship with whatsoever. They strike me affected and unintelligent. Yet somehow they take up space in my head. Perhaps it's the fact that I feel like they've undeservedly attained some sort of social status that I crave. I used to facebook whole groups of people who I couldn't stand because of everything they represented (usually some form of fakeness). Then I would send links to my friends and we would make fun of their profiles. They have no effect whatsoever on my life, so I wish I didn't waste mental energy on them. Strangely people who I respect rent less of my mental space. Anyone else with this peculiar problem? Why do people say that intelligence is respected, when clearly no one gives a damn about it in the real world? Think of it, people. Why are persons who are unintelligent still popular, like you are being bitter about? why aren't people flocking to befriend intelligent people? Western society is quite anti-intellectual; IMO this is a no-brainer. I find it funny when people twist their opinions into facts, lol...
Star Gazer Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 It's been a long time since I've seen such a cold-hearted, childish opening post.
carhill Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 Shadow, try wiping them out of existence (doing the world a favor, in your view) in your mind and then move on. If you're good with mental imagery, this can work extremely well. If such stems from honesty rather than insecurity, the proper karmic energy will get out. Be careful about that insecurity part. Obsession by definition consumes time. For me, time is a precious commodity. I image such subjects out of existence, then carry on like they never existed. Pure disconnection. Try it sometime Remember....honesty....look in that mirror...
Storyrider Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 This never happens between people on LS.
burning 4 revenge Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 This never happens between people on LS. If thats the case I hope you rarely ever think of me
Storyrider Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 If thats the case I hope you rarely ever think of me I lie awake at night plotting your demise... Just kidding. The last person I was obsessively annoyed with was a coworker from around 1997 or so. And if she had stopped being a daily nuisance I wouldn't have given her another thought.
D-Lish Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 I don't get obsessed with it, but I might get upset for a small time if I met someone and percieved they didn't like me. I think that's rather natural and human to care about such things. Our whole world is like a sandbox right? We want or think we want what we can't have.
Geishawhelk Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 For some reason, I'm thinking positive-negative attraction, here.... a type of magnetism. Alternatively, they do say "like attracts like"...... Slightly narcissistic behaviour.....?
Pacman Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 Shadow, Instead of trying to figure out whats wrong with the people you dislike, why not take that energy and use it for something useful that will actually benefit you?
Author shadowplay Posted December 18, 2008 Author Posted December 18, 2008 Shadow, try wiping them out of existence (doing the world a favor, in your view) in your mind and then move on. If you're good with mental imagery, this can work extremely well. If such stems from honesty rather than insecurity, the proper karmic energy will get out. Be careful about that insecurity part. Obsession by definition consumes time. For me, time is a precious commodity. I image such subjects out of existence, then carry on like they never existed. Pure disconnection. Try it sometime Remember....honesty....look in that mirror... Thanks for the advice, but I'm a little unclear on some of the details. How do you image them out of existence?
carhill Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 Hard to know how you would do it. For myself, I just imagine the person leaving the realm of my existence and going somewhere else. I actively erase all memory of them. I can even forget what they look like and won't recognize them on the street. I find this a more positive method than imagining them dead. Death is a transition, but one outside of my control. I prefer to see them on an alternative path which will never meet my own.
Lizzie60 Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 Nope.. it's the opposite for me.. I do not think about people who annoy me.. I avoid them.. but people I love have a special 'place' in my heart.. therefore a large place in my head.. I do think about people I love a lot, on a daily basis. I've never been on Facebook but from what I hear.. it's kind of a childish online game... I have no interest in MySpace or Facebook or any kind of website like that..
Isolde Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 I don't think about people I dislike, but I do think about people I find "boring." Because I know deep down there must be something I haven't seen, something that must be interesting. (Even though this isn't always true, I'm sure).
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