used2bthesweetstgirl Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 so me and this guy have been dating for about 2 years.. on and off. i love him. but we barely see each other. && i just cant take it anymore and its hurting my heart to think about breaking up. i've told him b4 that we need to make time and hes made countless promises which he never fulfills. its taking a toll. i feel like im not a priority. and i have a gut feeling he is cheating. i just dont know what to do. i always try to make him happy but i feel like i do everything in this relationship. i tell him all the time that i miss and love him and when i ask him if he loves me he just says "if i didnt love you i wouldnt be here". the last time i saw him was over 2 months ago! and distance is not the issue, we live barely 30 mins form each other. its him. he has no time. what should i do. its like i know a answer but im forcefully repressing it. i need to hear it from someone else. i feel so depressed.
serialgf Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 what do you think would happen if you stopped calling him? do you think after a few days he would call you to see what's up? how often do you speak on the phone? 2 months is an abnormally long amount of time to go without seeing someone you've been dating for 2 years, unless you have a super casual relationship. have you agreed not to see others? how old are you and how old is he? what does he do for a living. if i were you i wouldn't call him and see if he calls you. it can really tell you a lot about whether he values the relationship. you may just need that kind of wakeup call to get you out of a relationship that doesn't appear to be fulfilling your needs at all. also, if you provide more details about your relationship: like what you do when you do go out, how often you communicate, etc. it makes it easier to get a grip on your situation and give you better advice
Geishawhelk Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 I know someone like this. He may not be having an affair - though in your case, I wouldn't discount it. The person I know, genuinely feels everything revolves around him, and can't understand it when others try to point out it doesn't. He takes his W for granted, and she waits on him hand and foot. He loves her dearly, ruly he does: but he loves himself better. He's not narcissistic. He's just got an over-inflated ego and a very high opinion of himself. Maybe your BF is doing the same. In which case, you'll turn round and walk away. My friend won't. She can see long-term benefits being married to this guy. And he is very rich, so she's drawing some advantages. And she lives with him 24/7. But you? Really, hun. I'd tun round and face yourself a new, sparkling, independent and free life.
Perry Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 If you truly loved a man, or you liked him well enough to want to date him, would you let two months go by? Hell, would you let two weeks go by? Isn't that plain enough to tell you that he is not that into you?
SoulSearch_CO Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 Why break up? Just stop calling him. Go live your life - he's obviously living his. He is definitely not worth your time.
D-Lish Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 Not seeing someone for two months that you have been dating for two years and live half hour from is crazy. A couple things you should stop doing is: A) Telling him you love him B) Asking him if he loves you C) Being available when he wants you to be D) Asking for reassurance. If I were you I'd go missing in action for a couple weeks and see where that leads. Two months apart yet only half hour away? I wouldn't even consider it dating.
MexicanBillBacker Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 so me and this guy have been dating for about 2 years.. on and off. i love him. but we barely see each other. && i just cant take it anymore and its hurting my heart to think about breaking up. i've told him b4 that we need to make time and hes made countless promises which he never fulfills. its taking a toll. i feel like im not a priority. and i have a gut feeling he is cheating. i just dont know what to do. i always try to make him happy but i feel like i do everything in this relationship. i tell him all the time that i miss and love him and when i ask him if he loves me he just says "if i didnt love you i wouldnt be here". the last time i saw him was over 2 months ago! and distance is not the issue, we live barely 30 mins form each other. its him. he has no time. what should i do. its like i know a answer but im forcefully repressing it. i need to hear it from someone else. i feel so depressed. Love should reciprocate somehow If you choose to be with someone I'd hope it would be because you enjoy being said person as much as he enjoys you IMO at least
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