dema1 Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 I have a question for everyone. Why do women put up with a man's abusive behavior? I have witnessed people that are close to me get physically and emotionally abused by their significant other/ex. For example, my gf's sister just ended a relationship with her bf. He caused a lot of emotional and physical pain during their relationship. Now of course, it was both ways, but it was still wrong. They have a baby together now, and of course he should be there, but she lets him hang around like almost every day. I'm thinking to myself, this is ridiculous after all that she went through. I'm having a hard time understanding that particular situation and why women put up with a man's unacceptable behavior. I know attraction has a lot to do with it, but shouldn't there be a line drawn somewhere? Any thoughts and opinions, please post them.
Scottdmw Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 It starts with attraction, when the abuser puts his good behavior forward--he can be temporarily very charming. Then the woman has sex with the guy, and becomes emotionally attached due to the strong bonding chemistry of sex. At that point it would be extremely painful for her to leave him, it's human nature to become attached that way (though more for some than others). So, she is willing to put up with the lesser pain of abuse. Take home message--be careful who you sleep with! 3 dates or even 3 months is not long enough to know if that person is abusive or not, and once you have sex it's too late to get out painlessly. You never know how attached you will get. BTW, both men and women can be abusive, both physically and emotionally.
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