SierraRose Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 I need some feedback here. Twelve years ago I brokeup with THE love of my life. We were together for 1 1/2 years. We were very much in love, but I broke up with him because we were not on the same page for the future. I wanted marriage and a family, although he loved me, he wasn't sure if he every wanted to marry. He was NYPD and saw ALOT. He didn't want to bring children into this crazy world. I was 26, he 34 at the time. Although I ended it, I was devastated. My heart was in a million pieces. I eventually went on to marry and have a child. I have since divorced (5 years). I do not want anymore children, I don't know if I would marry again. I thought about this man throughout my marriage. I called him once while I was married, 9/11/01. I needed to know he was safe. We talked briefly,15 minutes at most... he was happy to hear from me & I was happy to hear his voice. I needed to know he was alive. I kept the convo short and simple. I never called again. So, this week I'm on Facebook reconnecting with friends and I get curious. There he is. Status:single. I sent a quick hello along with a friend request. He didn't answer my note, he did add me as a friend. (He only has 1 other friend) I waited a few days, and sent him an email, he answered and it went to phone right away. Update: He still lives in NY, he is now retired from NYPD, never married, no kids. He got another job in NYC. Ironically bought a vacation home 20 minutes from me and goes there frequently on weekends. He sounded so excited to hear from me. We are planning to get together the next time he comes down. I am so nervous and anxious to see him; however, I can't handle another heartbreak. Now, IF presented with the choice...Do I leave it as friendly get together, or go for it... IMO, if he wasn't interested, he wouldn't have responded to Facebook...what to do??? Any input?
justaman99 Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 Don't worry about what to do just go and see how things play out! I hope it works out. Have fun. -Just
L-R-G Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 If I were you, I would save myself the agony and walk away.
daithi Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 I need some feedback here. Twelve years ago I brokeup with THE love of my life. We were together for 1 1/2 years. We were very much in love, but I broke up with him because we were not on the same page for the future. I wanted marriage and a family, although he loved me, he wasn't sure if he every wanted to marry. He was NYPD and saw ALOT. He didn't want to bring children into this crazy world. I was 26, he 34 at the time. Although I ended it, I was devastated. My heart was in a million pieces. I eventually went on to marry and have a child. I have since divorced (5 years). I do not want anymore children, I don't know if I would marry again. I thought about this man throughout my marriage. I called him once while I was married, 9/11/01. I needed to know he was safe. We talked briefly,15 minutes at most... he was happy to hear from me & I was happy to hear his voice. I needed to know he was alive. I kept the convo short and simple. I never called again. So, this week I'm on Facebook reconnecting with friends and I get curious. There he is. Status:single. I sent a quick hello along with a friend request. He didn't answer my note, he did add me as a friend. (He only has 1 other friend) I waited a few days, and sent him an email, he answered and it went to phone right away. Update: He still lives in NY, he is now retired from NYPD, never married, no kids. He got another job in NYC. Ironically bought a vacation home 20 minutes from me and goes there frequently on weekends. He sounded so excited to hear from me. We are planning to get together the next time he comes down. I am so nervous and anxious to see him; however, I can't handle another heartbreak. Now, IF presented with the choice...Do I leave it as friendly get together, or go for it... IMO, if he wasn't interested, he wouldn't have responded to Facebook...what to do??? Any input?# Go for it why not, what the guy is in his 50;s and probably lonely and might miss you, no harm in bringing it up and talking with him. Good luck, be happy
Author SierraRose Posted December 12, 2008 Author Posted December 12, 2008 I think I am simply going to procede with caution. When the time comes, I will know in my heart what will be the right thing to do...
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