Lucky555 Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 Oh man this guy that didnt call me for a month and then did so, well i just discovered this HE BROKE UP FROM A LTR about 1.5 months ago and our date was about at the one month mark. I told my friend something was weird and she kept encouraging me to go out with him. it appears they were together for a long time. What do you all think. this explains his not calling not giving me the indication that he wants more. recently he is wanting to see me for another date and i agreed, but now i know this about his last relationship! AHHHHH Give me some advise PLEASE!
Perry Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 He calls you only after he has broken up with this woman? You really need advice on this one?
xpaperxcutx Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 Lucky, take his number and throw it in garbage. Then sit back and relax with a good movie.
prettybaby Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 Am I the only one who looks at it positively? lol Of course I don't know the whole story, so I could be totally wrong, but, isn't it good that he actually waited to be available before pursuing things with you? It would seem like the right thing to do, imo.
flc Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 I guess my question is why would he go out with someone in the first place if he was already in a relationship? If that one was close to death then he should have ended it first. It sounds to me that he did not have the balls to end it until he found a replacement which may be you. Then you have to consider whether this is a pattern with him.
amaysngrace Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 HE BROKE UP FROM A LTR about 1.5 months ago and our date was about at the one month mark. What does this mean? You guys went out together two weeks after he broke up with his GF? Or did you go out with him when he was still in a relationship with her?
tincanman99 Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 Red flag or not, if he isnt calling he isnt interested. That is the bottomline.
serialgf Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 What does this mean? You guys went out together two weeks after he broke up with his GF? Or did you go out with him when he was still in a relationship with her? my interpretation was that she went on a date with this guy after he and his ex had been broken up for a month...
amaysngrace Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 my interpretation was that she went on a date with this guy after he and his ex had been broken up for a month... Then what's the problem? That seems to be in proper order.
Author Lucky555 Posted December 11, 2008 Author Posted December 11, 2008 I think I may have written it Wrong He was not in a relationship when we went on our date. After the date i gave him my number he never called and just emailed. It took him a month to call me. Through the process of this I found he was cautious and guarded and my friend told me he was SHY. Now through looking on line at a profile of his i have discovered ITS only been 1.5 months after HIS break up. I didn't know this until after I agreed to a date with him which was a couple weeks ago. I personally don't think after being in an intimate relationship for a year or more that he will be over his ex in 1.5 months!
CoCoPuffs77 Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 I personally don't think after being in an intimate relationship for a year or more that he will be over his ex in 1.5 months! And you know this how? some times the actual "connection" between a couple dies long before the break up sad but true....
Author Lucky555 Posted December 11, 2008 Author Posted December 11, 2008 yeah, i can't know for sure but it happened in my last relationship. I promised myself to never jump into something where the guy basically just broke up with someone! I already found he was cautious and guarded. I want someone who is emotionally available.
You'reasian Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 yeah, i can't know for sure but it happened in my last relationship. I promised myself to never jump into something where the guy basically just broke up with someone! I already found he was cautious and guarded. I want someone who is emotionally available. Cautious and guarded does not mean emotionally unavailable. He could be emotionally available, we guys move at different speeds - some guys like to take their time and be patient, if they are looking for something that could be the one - other times, we guys just date randomly with no long-term intentions.
prettybaby Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 I really think you're blowing this out of proportions. Sure, it's a factor to keep in mind and stay on the lookout for red flags, but, don't assume the worst. It's not like he started dating you while still being involved with someone. Some people emotionally move on long before officially calling it quits. If you really like the guy, then take the time to get to know him and proceed with care, but I'd definitely give him the benefit of the doubt at this point. It's still early stages. And how exactly did you figure out the exact timing of it all by looking online? Was it a detailed blog that he wrote about it? If it's some random profile that shows when he updated his relationship status, I'd take it with a grain of salt. Not everybody keeps up their online stuff in real time.
Author Lucky555 Posted December 11, 2008 Author Posted December 11, 2008 yeah i guess your all right. I'll keep my wits about me but give him the benefit of the doubt. I'll go with the flow and see how it turns out. I'm glad i found LS! Thanks for the advise. I will still go on a date with him and have fun.
manugeorge Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 It was only 2 weeks before the broke up so I'll cut him some slack. It seems like the breakup was already in the works in some form or the other anyway. If it was months before the break-up, then I'd be worried
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