carhill Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 (I would vote for Keith Urban's style - that dude looks GOOD!) Ah, but Keith was a bit of a dork once upon a time. He grew into his looks and a good stylist helps. The picture on left was ca1992 if I remember right. I'll bet aotc looks a lot like Mark, Keith's guitar tech. Low key, pony tail, helluva picker. It's all about self-perception, OP. Make it work for you...
Author aotc Posted May 7, 2009 Author Posted May 7, 2009 Keith Urban is a tool. By all accounts, I do not want to look like him. =p I said longer than 98% of the guys I see at my school. I think you're overestimating my length. Most of the guys here have really short cuts. My hair is nowhere near my mid or even upper back. It's very thick though. Looks kinda like this: http://chrishanaka.files.wordpress.com/2009/03/eddie-vedder.jpg (thanks vedder, ha) but maybe a tad longer.
JeezLouise Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 OK. I was thinking that your hair really WAS longer than 98% of men! Where I live, that 2% would be mid-back. That isn't really long at all. Just keep a good cut, and ask your stylist for some hints to keep it looking healthy and shiny.
JeezLouise Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 Keith Urban is a tool. By all accounts, I do not want to look like him. =p LOL! Man, you are PICKY! I think that Britney Spears is a tool, but I wouldn't mind looking like her back in her "old days"!
Author aotc Posted May 8, 2009 Author Posted May 8, 2009 Lol, honestly, the musicians that piss me off the most are the ones that clearly don't have gonads but act like they can play rock, not really the pop star divas. At least it's clear that those women aren't really making music, just selling their image. With bands like Maroon 5 or Coldplay, it's guys trying to convince everyone that they can write rock music and play guitar when really they simply don't have any balls. Now that I think about it, Keith Urban isn't like that. He's country. I just don't like him or his music.
carhill Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 Now that I think about it, Keith Urban isn't like that. He's country. I just don't like him or his music. Yep, I said that too, around 5 years ago. Have you ever listened to Aussie pub rock in Brissie or up in the Rocks in Sydney? That's his style of country. style, clothing optional So, how did Angus do with the babes? Keith's already got one of the highest paid actresses in the world to come home to. Well, what do you know? Angus has been married for nearly 30 years. Interesting.... Just throwing out the possibilities, since being a muso appears to be important to you
JeezLouise Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 I like most types of music - rock, classic rock, classic country, new country, adult alternative, pop, blues, r&b, gospel. Took a SO to see a Brad Paisley concert, and he was dreading it. After his first song, he said "OMG I had no idea that guy could PLAY like that!" He is one playing fool in concert - wow.
carhill Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 Brad's a geek, and I mean that in a good way. He has a nerdy charm. He's also a sneaky mean picker. I'm sure you've heard him babble on in computer-speak. -Again, not conventionally attractive, but, by projecting his authentic self in a way people connect to, he's become very popular and also married a real cutie, Kimberly Williams.- I remember he and Sara Evans touring together, back before her messy divorce, along with Josh Turner. You can see he and Keith playing the duet "Start a Band" and compare their styles and personas. Pretty interesting
IcemanJB Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 The fact that you're in a (good) band already gives you a major leg up on most other guys. But that also means you have to compete with your good looking bandmates. Life sucks, eh? I agree with the others that have said to put your best face forward. You said you don't want to cut your hair; fair enough. Just keep it in good shape. I think you mentioned that being concerned about style is "metrosexual" if you're a male. I disagree. Maybe try changing up your clothing a bit. Make sure you feel comfortable and like the new stuff you've got. Honestly though, even if you have a "weird" face, that's only a very small part of the equation. You need to take advantage of the other things you have going for you: you're tall and you seem to have a great personality. I'm sure there are other qualities that we are unable to pick up on through the computer screen (physical, character traits, etc.). Use these! I don't consider myself super good looking; the best I've gotten is "cute". I'm quite short (5'6"). Most of my friends are 6' and taller. But I've learned, especially in the last couple years, to accentuate what I DO have going for me. I'm pretty good at flirting and joking around. I'm very observant, perceptive and a good listener. Girls seem to love my eyes so I'm learned "how" to look at girls when I'm talking to them (some will just melt ), etc...just by using what I have going for me, I've been able to date girls that are much better looking than me. One really cute one in particular I still am still surprised at myself for "winning" her over. I have yet to find one for the long-term though... Anyways, you gotta quit dwelling on things you can't change. Focus on the things you know you have going for you (and maybe find out things you never knew you had). This is probably very vague-sounding haha.
peteyj Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 The whole 'celebrity' factor is a non factor. Most celebrities nobody would give a damn about if they weren't famous and/or rich. So don't even go by that advice. As far as chopping your hair or changing your looks, well I'm confused. Do you look like your band mates or are you the outcast who looks totally different? If you look totally different and the girls are into your friends, then maybe the crowds you play for just isn't into your style. Because I've known bands and was in bands years ago...most of the time there are similar qualities about each other. Yeah everybody is different but there are a lot of similarities. If you are the only long haired guy who wears clothes nobody else in your band wears, then that is probably your problem. You are playing in a band that just doesn't suit who you are. Or you are dressing and looking like an 80's rocker when your crowd is into pretty boys. Who knows but it seems thats what some of your problem is.
Ruby Slippers Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 After a show the girls from the party will go straight to them and none will go to me. I kind of think this is largely in your head. My last boyfriend was a musician, and when he directed me to his band's myspace, I looked at all the pictures and said, "You're the cutest one" -- and meant it. He was like "whatever". He really thought his bandmates were cuter, and it just wasn't true. They were WAY more confident, though. They both thought they were the ****, even though they were both kinda skinny and a little nerdy. My bf was buff and supercute, but didn't have a puffed-up ego or the intellectual superiority complex these two had, so he didn't see it. I get the impression your attitude is coming through more than you know. I think that's what you need to modify.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 This may not make you feel better but you just haven't found the right girl who finds you attractive yet. I refuse to think that there isn't some one for every one out there there is just to many people in this world. Who cares about the ones who don't stick around would you really want such a shallow gf anyways? Its also in how you balance it out if your not overly blessed in the looks department you better bring something else of value to the table. Me personally I'm not a super model by far but I'm very sweet and caring to others it works believe me. And it attracts other good hearted people as a bonus just put yourself out there be nice and let it take you were it will best of luck
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