Rudderless Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 I'm early 30's and no-one believes I'm over the age of 25 The women that are interested in me are usually early 20's. While it's been fun for a while, a decade age gap doesn't really appeal to me now that I'm looking for something long term. I don't know what to do, half of me wants to continue partying because I've been given this gift of youth that many people would love to have, and the other half of me wants to settle down. Does anyone else know what I mean about this mixed blessing?
itgirlragdoll Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 My boyfriend is the same way. 32 but looks about 24, and maybe due to that, he's dated mostly younger women for a while. I'm 21 and things work out great for us; we get along great and have an easy time relating and enjoying each other's company. I can even see it progressing into something more long term, possibly (we have been together for 7 months). Though, not to toot my own horn of course, but I'm not exactly typical of my age group. Many girls my age are still not sure what they want to do with their life and want to enjoy being young and single. I doubt it's ONLY young women who are interested in you. Older women (and I don't mean OLD, I just mean closer to your age bracket) might just assume you aren't interested in THEM because they think you are younger. And a young guy wanting to date an older woman is less common. Maybe join a dating website where your age is displayed, as well as the age of the women you talk to? Or go to a club with an older clientele. There's this fun disco club near my house that I LOVE to go to...it's a great time, and its age group seems to be primarily early 30's through early 40's.
likestolaugh Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 tell me about it. I'm 23 and look 18-19. I'm not skinny, but just don't have a lot of mass, which contributes. I guess some people will like you and some won't. Oh, and don't wear short short hair if you're a guy. That kills me every time I do it.
Author Rudderless Posted December 11, 2008 Author Posted December 11, 2008 itgirl - thanks for the comment. I hear what you're saying about the over 30's but it's just not my scene Problem is I just don't fit physically with older women. Problem with younger women is they're not on my level. Like if I'm out with a girl early 20's we get comments directed about how good we look together. Makes me laugh when someone probably my age think's we're loves young dream. I'd like to find someone in a similar age bracket that looks young for their age but I don't know where to look. I really don't think it's going to happen at an over 30's night, and on-line just isn't my thing.
kizik Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 OP- do yourself a favor and try not to care if someone thinks you look "young." Your problem is that young girls want to date you? Can you hear my violin playing a pity song for you? Just be yourself, man, and say f*ck everyone. That doesn't mean be rude to 'em. Just forget about 'em.
Author Rudderless Posted December 11, 2008 Author Posted December 11, 2008 Kizik Where did I say I had a problem with what people think of me? My problem is I can't find someone who's right for me to date. And I'd rather not adopt your approach to interacting with people, thanks all the same.
kizik Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 Where did I say I had a problem with what people think of me?...And I'd rather not adopt your approach to interacting with people, thanks all the same. Hmm, methinks you wouldn't have created this thread if you didn't have a problem with what people think of you. My approach to interacting with people... you don't know the first thing about me... but I can tell you that I sure won't lend my advice to someone as snide as yourself again. LoveShack can be cool, but then you get a lot of people who ask for opinions and don't want to hear them.
Author Rudderless Posted December 11, 2008 Author Posted December 11, 2008 I hear boxing is good if you're feeling angry. Have a good evening.
fral945 Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 itgirl - thanks for the comment. I hear what you're saying about the over 30's but it's just not my scene Problem is I just don't fit physically with older women. Problem with younger women is they're not on my level. Like if I'm out with a girl early 20's we get comments directed about how good we look together. Makes me laugh when someone probably my age think's we're loves young dream. I'd like to find someone in a similar age bracket that looks young for their age but I don't know where to look. I really don't think it's going to happen at an over 30's night, and on-line just isn't my thing. Where do you meet women? At my gym, there are several women my age (28) and older who look very young. People who take care of themselves and are concerned with their health generally look younger.
CoCoPuffs77 Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 I know the feeling im now a 31 female and have had people recently mistake me for anywere between 22 and 28! They are shocked when I say im 31 its a blessing and a curse in a way but im just going to try to enjoy it while it lasts I guess. Ive also found it makes it akward to make friends at times looking back seams Ive always attracted a younger crowd because of my looks I guess.
MadBambi Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 I'm 26 and look very young also! With my small frame, voice and young appearance i'm mistaken a lot for anywhere between 16-21 depending on where i am. If i go out to a bar the oldest people give me is 22. It sucks getting approached by all the young boys it doesn't happen very often thankfully! What i get more often though is older men approaching me - i'm talkin about older like 40-50 though! My age cut off is 38 - but nowadays older men and women the same just want some arm candy. Rudderless take your age defying looks in stride cuz it's really a blessing. LoL, once someone guessed my age - they said i look 28. I was like what?! Hahaha, i was totally offended (secretly, of course) and i couldn't help thinking like damn, i look old tonight or something? LoL. So, take your compliment and run with it. You can settle down with whomever perfectly fits into your life and loves you the right way. You know that aaliyah song don't you? Haha, age ain't nothin but a number!
Trialbyfire Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 Looking younger than you are, isn't detrimental to you. Within a few minutes of talking to you, unless you're also young acting, people will forget your appearance to an extent. Enjoy it. You'll spend more time in your life being glad you are, than being upset that you don't look your age!
Charles1978 Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 I'm 30 and I still get carded often, so I know what you're talking about. I wouldn't change it, I can tell you that. My dad is 70 and people think he's 50, so I guess it runs in the family.
D-Jam Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 I've been told I look younger than my age, and I'm happy for that. I've never had a woman reject me because she looked older and felt insecure about it...but I did learn that partying is empty. You can go out, pick up some young 20somethings and show them a better time with your money than some poor college guy can, but in the end you realize these younger women most of the time won't be in it for the long haul. Just live your life for you and let the right woman come along.
Shygirl15 Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 lol... I guess the whole world looks young for our age. Hilarious.
Author Rudderless Posted December 11, 2008 Author Posted December 11, 2008 Where do you meet women? At my gym, there are several women my age (28) and older who look very young. People who take care of themselves and are concerned with their health generally look younger. Through friends, going out generally. I play a lot of sport but that tends to be male dominated, and I don't really have time to go to a gym on top of that. Also as my friends have gotten older and drifted the newer ones I've made have tended to be younger than me as well so that doesn't help.
Author Rudderless Posted December 12, 2008 Author Posted December 12, 2008 My age cut off is 38 So for me it would be 48 -. LoL, once someone guessed my age - they said i look 28. I was like what?! Hahaha, i was totally offended Hahahaha yes that's happened to me too.
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