You'reasian Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 Sorry, dude, but boo hoo. Maybe I'm smarter, kinder, funnier, more loyal, or better in bed, but most men on this board will tell you they don't give a crap and what matters first and foremost is how hot you are. It's a harsh truth -- but it is the truth. Everyone has their appearance preferences, some more than others, and you're probably not going to talk them out of them. Are you attracted to men whom might have similar qualities as yourself - assuming you are smarter, kinder, funnier, more loyal and better in bed? How old are you? And if I may ask, do you do everything possible to keep yourself physically attractive? The way we are perceived and the way other people treat us is a signficant factor in these choices. A guy who gets the hot chick is high-fived by his friends, and a guy who chooses a less attractive girl is questioned and teased about it. And unfortunately, a lot of people are judgmental about tall women with short men. When I had a boyfriend who was a mere INCH shorter than me, people teased us about it! They made me out to be a giant and him out to be a shrimp, which was far from the truth. He was pretty built and had at least 30-40 pounds on me. I think we looked great together. People can be pretty retarded, but their opinions do influence the choices of others, again to varying degrees. I agree with other posters who have said that there is someone for everyone. I don't care how tall, short, fat, skinny, hairy, bald, gorgeous, or homely you are, there is a group of people who comprise your target market. We all have things about us that make us totally unique and give us a monopoly in the heart of the person who wants what we've got. About the teasing of couples where the female is taller, so what? You're the one in a relationship with the guy, not the people talking - talk is cheap and more often then not, indicates what's inside a person.
CommitmentPhobe Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 Big boobs and a small waist and perhaps even certain facial features can indicate fertility. They're not the most accurate markers of it, but they are signals. Isolde, the percentage difference between the level of fertility indicated by those signals is so small as to make nada difference to how easily you're able to concieve and how healthy/well adjusted/happy your child is in real terms. That's the problem with this evolutionary studies, they're usually interpreted as xyz means increased success rather than xyz means a small amount of increased success.
Isolde Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 Isolde, the percentage difference between the level of fertility indicated by those signals is so small as to make nada difference to how easily you're able to concieve and how healthy/well adjusted/happy your child is in real terms. That's the problem with this evolutionary studies, they're usually interpreted as xyz means increased success rather than xyz means a small amount of increased success. Oh, I didn't say it was rational. Few things about human preferences are rational, lol. But it is part of the societal construct of a healthy, ideal, attractive woman.
D-Lish Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 But why is being a tall alphamale superior? It's not! Not in my books anyway. If the OP has a preference and she can't move beyond an "idea" of an ideal... then she'll be stuck there. The guy I have been dating is a tad shorter than I am, and I wear heels and often tower over him. He has no qualms with it and I find him incredibly sexy- partially because he is so confident about me wearing heels around him. Tom Cruise is a retarded example of a shorter man who is an alpha male though... If anything, he is A-sexual, most probably he is as gay as a leprechan jigging about his lucky charms clutching his pot o' gold. "OH TO BE SURE KATIE HOLMES, YOU'LL NEVER FIND ME POT O' GOLD BECAUSE...I'm gay". I truly did have an issue with height in the past- but I think that had to do with my own insecurities. I feel tall and proud when I am outside with my guy. With his looks and personality I am sure he could have numerous women at his beck and call.
Yamaha Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 A man judges fertility on if she is with child not on the size of her boobs or waist/hip ratio.
Yamaha Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 I truly did have an issue with height in the past- but I think that had to do with my own insecurities. I feel tall and proud when I am outside with my guy. With his looks and personality I am sure he could have numerous women at his beck and call. YOU GO GIRL................:bunny:
Lovelybird Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 A man judges fertility on if she is with child not on the size of her boobs or waist/hip ratio. We all judge these things, subconsciously? I cannot be with a man same my height, only 5' here but if both of you are relatively tall, then it is good match Are you sure the height is what bothers you?
Ruby Slippers Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 Are you attracted to men whom might have similar qualities as yourself - assuming you are smarter' date=' kinder, funnier, more loyal and better in bed? How old are you? And if I may ask, do you do everything possible to keep yourself physically attractive?[/quote'] I am 32, and I have always gone for a person of integrity and quality over "the hot guy". I have dated a couple of really cute guys, but that was never the main draw for me. I have this one ex who everyone always comments is extremely good-looking when they see old pictures of us. I thought he was cute, but because I didn't have a very strong connection with him, I never saw him as all that attractive. The guy I was crazy in love with was gorgeous to me, though. Everything possible? Well, I think that's a loaded question, as attractiveness is somewhat subjective. For instance, my last boyfriend told me he loved it that I didn't wear fake nails and a lot of makeup. The guy before him was really into nail polish and makeup. I play guitar and finger pick/strum, so I keep my nails natural and neatly trimmed (otherwise they just chip and break). I am in shape, eat a healthy diet, and try to live a balanced life. I doll myself up for dates and nights out, but it's not a full-time job for me to worry about the way I look. I also want to devote some time to my brain, creativity, and so on. Anything beyond that is not something I worry about. If a man isn't interested in me because I have a more relaxed and less made-up appearance (or because I'm tall or whatever), he can walk right on by. My appearance is not my utmost concern, but I've never had a problem attracting guys. About the teasing of couples where the female is taller, so what? You're the one in a relationship with the guy, not the people talking - talk is cheap and more often then not, indicates what's inside a person. It didn't stop me from dating a shorter guy. I was just pointing out that I'm sure it is a factor for people who are more concerned with public opinion.
Green Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 As a tall man I'd like to say I wish more women had strict height requirements lol
gd26 Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 I'm 5'6'' female and do not like tall (6'+) guys at all. It's a pain on my neck to look up (literally, I'm not joking) and I don't like to be physically overwhelmed. I prefer a partner whom I could be physically equal. However...he has to have a pair of beautiful eyes and an outstanding brain. Like really really smart. And a compassionate heart towards others. Not sure my chances are though...the combination of a supreme brain and a kind, understanding heart seem to be a bit difficult to find in mid 20s. Hahaha.... enjoyed reading your post. I have a friend who is only 4'10" and her husband is 6'4". She is Asian and he is white, blonde... so I'm sure you can imagine they look pretty interesting together. However, they love each other dearly and are very happily married. Next time I see them I'll have to ask them if they get major neck strain looking at one another.
Lovelybird Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 Hahaha.... enjoyed reading your post. I have a friend who is only 4'10" and her husband is 6'4". She is Asian and he is white, blonde... so I'm sure you can imagine they look pretty interesting together. However, they love each other dearly and are very happily married. Next time I see them I'll have to ask them if they get major neck strain looking at one another. this sounds like most of the part she looks is his waist
socialight Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 i love this thread and the original posters question. I really do. What cracks me up to no end is watching american girls sit around and bitch about how some guy is nice, good job, treats her well, etc, but he is "too short" or "too nice" or "too something". So they turn them loose on their fruitless quest for 6'0 dr. mcdreamy. 5 years later they are getting fat, despearate and bitter while still single in their early 30's because their 6'0 doctor or fighter pilot either hasn't shown up, or has and royally screwed them over. Meanwhile, all the other guys she turned down are getting picked off left and right by asian girls and other foreigners who have a freaking clue and use their minds as well as their hearts to find husbands. They have good homes, great wives, and 2+ kids. I have seen it so many times, it's amazing. It's sort of like natural selection. Except that it isn't the short nice guys who are getting bred out of existance. It's the superficial women who are killing off their own kind.
movingonandon Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 I agree. I will admit I used to be just as frustrated as he comes off as here. I was rejected many times over by many women simply because I wasn't good looking enough, not exciting enough, not wealthy enough, or just didn't "wow" them fast enough to make the "chemistry" happen. It's again why I backed off it all and treated dating less as a priority in life and more as a side thing. I worked to make myself happy in life by myself and not depend on the idea that I'll find a good woman and such. I tell it to all men and women out there who deal with the frustration of never being seen as "good enough" for members of the opposite sex. You could spend your life being bitter, or spend your life living it and enjoying it. Life's too short to get all angry about this love stuff. Better to walk around and be happy in life with you, and let the ones who reject you see what they tossed away in the long run. Believe me...seeing how many women who rejected me are worse off now than before...I imagine some of them have some regret. Wise words here people, take note. No need to get worked up. I might be at the other extreme - when rejected, I don't get bitter, but rather amused that the girl in question did apparently did not recognise how lucky she was to meet me, blinded by her idyosyncratic mood or trait of the moment :laugh: (and then it's too late )
movingonandon Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 i love this thread and the original posters question. I really do. What cracks me up to no end is watching american girls sit around and bitch about how some guy is nice, good job, treats her well, etc, but he is "too short" or "too nice" or "too something". So they turn them loose on their fruitless quest for 6'0 dr. mcdreamy. 5 years later they are getting fat, despearate and bitter while still single in their early 30's because their 6'0 doctor or fighter pilot either hasn't shown up, or has and royally screwed them over. Meanwhile, all the other guys she turned down are getting picked off left and right by asian girls and other foreigners who have a freaking clue and use their minds as well as their hearts to find husbands. They have good homes, great wives, and 2+ kids. I have seen it so many times, it's amazing. It's sort of like natural selection. Except that it isn't the short nice guys who are getting bred out of existance. It's the superficial women who are killing off their own kind. Made my day . Also, two words: asian women :love:
You'reasian Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 Made my day . Also, two words: asian women :love: LOL!!! You're funny. However they do tend to look younger and fitter as they age.
Ocean-Blue Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 I have to admit that I'm very attracted to tall men. It's an instinctual thing. I just naturally notice them more often than their shorter counterparts. I'm not ashamed to say that I like height in a man. That said, some of my best friends range between 5'6-5'11. My fiance is quite tall, and I love it. I just think we go better together than my ex and I did. For me, though, the most important thing is how a man feels about himself. I can't stand men who carry with them a victim mentality, tall or short. But all things being equal, I would naturally gravitate to the tall man.
Star Gazer Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 I just don't see what the big deal is. We're all attracted to different types - heights, weights, coloring, etc. - and no amount of b*tching about it is going to change anything. I am 5'4'' and my BF is 6'3''. In heels, he feels just right next to me, and I just love having to stand on my tippy toes when barefoot to hug/kiss him. It makes me feel like he's a big, strong protector. But that's just MY preference. There are just as many women my height who prefer shorter guys as prefer taller guys.
Trimmer Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 this sounds like most of the part she looks is his waist Bwaaahhahahah... I'm not used to Lovelybird throwing out the sexual innuendo...
D-Lish Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 Bwaaahhahahah... I'm not used to Lovelybird throwing out the sexual innuendo... :laugh: I think Lb can be sassy at times...
johan Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 I am 5'4'' and my BF is 6'3'' In heels... But that's just MY preference. Your preference? Wow. I would never wear heels for a girl.
Ramrod Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 I'm 6' 2" and once upon a time ago, I had a first date with a woman (5'4" white 150lbs ) who insisted she wouldn't ever date a man less than six foot tall, which bugged me, she also mentioned she would never ever date a black guy. I left her at the restaurant that night with a fifty dollar dinner check (we both had the filet). It dawned on me while I was in the bathroom that she was incredibly shallow and racist. I mean I didn't object to her being a bit doughy, but it irked me to think that if I wasn't as tall, she wouldn't give me the time of day. She took a cab home. She called later that night. She was livid, of course, so I hung up.
Star Gazer Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 Your preference? Wow. I would never wear heels for a girl. Why did you edit my post in that way? I'm 6' 2" and once upon a time ago, I had a first date with a woman (5'4" white 150lbs ) who insisted she wouldn't ever date a man less than six foot tall, which bugged me, she also mentioned she would never ever date a black guy. I left her at the restaurant that night with a fifty dollar dinner check (we both had the filet). It dawned on me while I was in the bathroom that she was incredibly shallow and racist. I mean I didn't object to her being a bit doughy, but it irked me to think that if I wasn't as tall, she wouldn't give me the time of day. She took a cab home. She called later that night. She was livid, of course, so I hung up. I think your actions are despicable here.
Ocean-Blue Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 I'm 6' 2" and once upon a time ago, I had a first date with a woman (5'4" white 150lbs ) who insisted she wouldn't ever date a man less than six foot tall, which bugged me, she also mentioned she would never ever date a black guy. I left her at the restaurant that night with a fifty dollar dinner check (we both had the filet). It dawned on me while I was in the bathroom that she was incredibly shallow and racist. I mean I didn't object to her being a bit doughy, but it irked me to think that if I wasn't as tall, she wouldn't give me the time of day. She took a cab home. She called later that night. She was livid, of course, so I hung up. Her being "doughy" mattered enough to you for it to linger like that. You should've told her why you were ending the date early. You also should have paid for your half of the bill (at the least). That was a little classless. That said, I can understand why you reacted the way you did.
johan Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 Why did you edit my post in that way? Because I love you.
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