Perry Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 Invite her over for a home-cooked meal and a video. Don't specify a night, in case she says she can't on that night. If she says she can't, even though she doesn't know which night it is, there's your answer.
Author likestolaugh Posted December 19, 2008 Author Posted December 19, 2008 I suppose I should update then. It's too early to invite her over for a home cooked meal and a movie... anyway, my place isn't really conducive to that, as I don't even have a couch (layout doesn't permit it). Furthermore, since she's the more... reserved or shyer type, I don't want to rush things. So I asked her to a movie for sometime before the 22nd (which is when I leave for the holidays). She suggested Sunday evening after she gets off work. That works well for me... now we'll just have to see how things go.
pretty lies Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 Invite her over for a home-cooked meal and a video. Don't specify a night, in case she says she can't on that night. If she says she can't, even though she doesn't know which night it is, there's your answer. If I were in her shoes and was asked to come over for a video and a home-cooked meal, I would say no, even if I was interested. "Video and home-cooked meal" after hanging out just twice is basically code phrase for "let's get it on". I would assume that he didn't take me seriously, and that's a turn off.
Author likestolaugh Posted December 20, 2008 Author Posted December 20, 2008 exactly. I'm more a slow-burn type anyway...
Perry Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 Sorry, but you two would be wrong. No offense. That's the problem with singles these days when trying to date, or find that right one...they are too judgmental, too nit pickey. Next thing they know, it is years down the road, and they are still alone. I'm just saying. Besides, it's also a great way of opening the door, to see if she will at least come in. If she doesn't like the idea, but she is interested, she would counter offer with another idea.
Author likestolaugh Posted December 20, 2008 Author Posted December 20, 2008 well it's a mute point anyway, since I suck at cooking, and as I said... my apartment isn't particularly intimate.
Double D Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 Maybe the home cooked meal and video idea is a bit early but in principle I like where your going with this Perry. To suggest to do something more romantically based without giving a specific night and to see if she is responsive or dismisses it out of hand without knowing when as Perry said will give you your answer. Im even going to try that one myself with a woman I like. Keep us updated likestolaugh. Hope the movie's good.
Author likestolaugh Posted December 20, 2008 Author Posted December 20, 2008 yeah I'll keep it updated... nothing much will happen over the holidays though, as I'll be out of town, and thus away from her as well. I'll let you know how it goes tomorrow...
Double D Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 Are you going to e-mail her or anything during the holidays or just leave it after tomorrow?
BobSacamento Posted December 21, 2008 Posted December 21, 2008 If I were in your situation I would ask her out to dinner not an activity, for lack of a better word. I think if she says yes to just the dinner then she probably is looking for more than a friend. From reading this thread, regardless of who paid and whatnot, it seems like she's interested. To me you might be coming off as not interested, make a move next time I'd say.
Author likestolaugh Posted December 21, 2008 Author Posted December 21, 2008 Double D..... yes, I'll email her, and send her a txt wishing her a merry christmas.... and also a new years one at midnight. as for Bob.... well we'll probably be getting a quick bite first... which I WILL pay for this time, dammit! lol. I don't want to ask her out to dinner right now, since we've had meals together each time so far... I want something we haven't done, but is still date-ish... and NOT only related to our mutual interest (i.e. the reason we first got together)
The Collector Posted December 21, 2008 Posted December 21, 2008 She is definitely interested, I could tell from your first post and subsequent events have shown she's given you many signs and confirmations since. But you need to move ahead and kiss her before she cools off. Start with more light touching, the shoulder, arms, back etc, and as long as she doesn't flinch she is saying 'more please.' Also tease her more, and if she blushes or play-punches you, that's another huge sign of attraction. Go for it.
Author likestolaugh Posted December 21, 2008 Author Posted December 21, 2008 well I've been waiting for the touching or the play punches... but she doesn't seem to do that (so far). Maybe it's because she's reserved or shyer.... it's hard to find the right moment to kiss her, since we seem to end each time either in the subway or out in the freezing cold... neither one a great place for that.
Author likestolaugh Posted December 22, 2008 Author Posted December 22, 2008 so I went out with her tonight. We went to eat first, then went to a movie (Slumdog Millionaire... really good!). I made sure that I payed for everything this time... she was very nice about it, and thanked me. Anyway, so when it came time to part (via subway... she was going one way, I the other) we just kinda stood there talking... I was getting some signs that she might want a kiss... or at the very least was thinking that I might try. You know, the fiddling with hair, scarf, anything on her... the fidgeting... almost constant eye contact, etc... so as we heard her subway car coming I gave her a hug, a kiss on each cheek, told her 'and one more for good measure' and gave her a quick kiss on the lips. It wasn't a long passionate kiss (it had to be quick, as she had to go... anyway it was the first time we weren't surrounded by lots of people). If nothing else this evening made it clear what my intentions are. We're both the shyer type methinks (well I know I am anyway), so making moves is kinda awkward sometimes. I'm kinda glad the holidays are here, as it gives us both time to reflect... I'd like to continue to see her, hopefully she will feel similar. If she does, I'll try to get her to open up a bit more next time I see her... I don't feel like we've had anything even remotely resembling a deep conversation yet... she's not the easiest to talk to... I usually have to bring up the subjects. I'm hoping that's just nerves on her part, and as she gets more comfortable that that part will be easier. She has flashes of brilliance in that department, anyway. so there ya go. I needed to write that out.
The Collector Posted December 22, 2008 Posted December 22, 2008 Good work. How about next time near the end of your date you ask her back to your place? Shy girls like sex too.
Tomcat33 Posted December 22, 2008 Posted December 22, 2008 Aww that's awesome LTL I love how your last date ended. Hey I'm dying to see Slumdog M was it really good or what? Trailer looks amazing. Don't rush into sex this is going the perfect pace for you guys, I love how your story is developing!! Keep up the good work, you sound like a great guy.
JooLee Posted December 22, 2008 Posted December 22, 2008 aawwee i love the ending bit of your date. its making me miss the whole dating thing. oh where oh where can my mr right beeee? :love:
Author likestolaugh Posted December 22, 2008 Author Posted December 22, 2008 aw thanks guys. I think mistimed it by about 10 seconds... should have started the goodbye process that much earlier (subway car was closer than I thought lol). It wouldn't have been as rushed. Anyway, I hope she'd like to continue to see where things go. I'm going to txt her on Christmas, and also at midnight New Years. She really is a nice girl... you know, the type you can easily bring to to mom and pop. I suppose my problem is that I've never really delt with a shyer girl before... I don't want things to go too fast, for her sake (and mine to a certain extent). I'm assuming she'd prefer slower... I hope I'm right about that.
Author likestolaugh Posted December 23, 2008 Author Posted December 23, 2008 I do hope that my plan is enough contact though. I'm pretty sure she won't do the contacting (would be nice though )
Author likestolaugh Posted December 25, 2008 Author Posted December 25, 2008 so I msg'ed her wishing her a merry chistmas and got a msg back pretty quick saying the same thing... I kinda miss her actually. I wish I didn't have to wait another week and half to possibly see her... the next time I actually speak (over phone or in person) will be pivotal methinks... since this is the first time she now surely knows what my interest in her is... hopefully she'll feel the same.
Perry Posted December 26, 2008 Posted December 26, 2008 Okay, is this a thread, or a blog? Good for you, bud, but give this a rest, will ya? You are also acting like a woman going on and on and on. No offense.
Confusedalways Posted December 26, 2008 Posted December 26, 2008 aw! I like reading it! I am happy it is going so well for you, likes to laugh
Author likestolaugh Posted December 26, 2008 Author Posted December 26, 2008 fair enough. Will update next time there's something to ask...
Double D Posted January 4, 2009 Posted January 4, 2009 Is there any update LTL? We are with you in spirit mate!
Author likestolaugh Posted January 4, 2009 Author Posted January 4, 2009 well since you asked... anyway, I've been away for the holidays, but got back yesterday... I sent her a msg yesterday morning (through the net, phone not working nicely atm)... I haven't heard back yet, but hopefully I will by tomorrow (not checking till tomorrow... I've been training myself to not get to attached/involved in the early stages). Among other things I said I wanted to see her again sooner rather than later, and asked if she was free sometime after Wed (I'm busy till then). I'll let you know how things go. oh, I also sent her a txt msg on New Years, with a picture (subject relevant to both of us). I didn't get a response, but it's possible that it just got lost in cyberspace. Anyway, she commented on a facebook picture of mine the next day, so I'm not reading anything into that...
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