she broke up with me but why

[mmac]

so I was seeing this girl for about five months and knew her from work about a year before that.things between us started as just being friends and hanging out. After about two weeks of this we were really attracted to each other and took things physical. Afetr a couple weeks of this she started telling me that she felt like she was being used for sex and didnt know if I was into her for anything else. Truly i liked her a lot but I didnt want to get hurt so I manned up and started showing her that I wasnt playing around and that I had feelings. We still were not official because shes is scared of relationships and has a two year old son from her first real relationship. and that was fine because I am scared too even though I wanted to risk it with this one.so we continue seeing each other for about 4 months. The last few times I saw her we were really clicking and everthing was good. she finally spent the night at my house and everthing seemed great. A couple time thruout the 4 months she told me how scared she was to have a real boyfriend and how its hard for her because of her past and also because of her son which is very understandable. the last time I saw her everything felt good she invited me to spend the night and we had fun.after that I was sick for the rest of the week but we were talking and everything was normal I thought. I go to hang out with a her a few times and she jus kept avoiding it so i ask her wat the deal is and she says she doesnt kno what to do and she is really confused. This girl wud not say the words its over so I kept wondering. I wait a couple days then ask her y she doing this and she says she dont kno y she always does this and really likes me but it just aint gona work. so after I freaked out a lil I gave up and went couple weeks no contact and then sent one text saying I was sorry for freakin out and now I dont know what to do. This is my first true love and Im sure of it.Its been a month of no contact except one text message and my hope aint giving up eventhough it shud

[GoneButNotForgotten]

Your in a hard position man. On one hand the more you keep attempting to contact her the more likely it is that you will push her away forever. But also giving space is not what you want to do. And from what you described it's not what she wants either. Here is what I would personally do.

 

Write a letter. Do not beg for her back. Do not say you are sorry, you have nothing to apologize for. Explain that you sympathize with her and would like to be the one that she could confide in and work through issues with. Explain that you do not want to give up on the relationship. You are willing to work through the struggles because everything does feel so right. Personally I would go with a hand written note over an email. More of a personal touch and shows that you really took the time and effort for it. But again, I cannot stress enough, do not beg for her back. You must remain strong. If you do not show emotional strength how can she be expected to have you help with her problems? I know it is difficult. At the end explain that you will not be waiting around forever. It takes time to heal after relationships and right now you are not in the place to heal and would like to work through things instead.

 

Mail the letter. Do not drop it off or give it to a friend. After the letter you cannot attempt to contact her. Everyone here knows how hard it is. I am going through the same thing. My gf of 4 1/2 years broke up with me and I don't even understand why. The important thing is that the why is not important. If she truly wants to be with you she will contact you. If not then it was never ment to be.