Copperkitty007 Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 So this guy i met last week was all into texting me, calling and e-mailing numerous times a day. Then sunday we went on our second date and things got a little heated up but nothing below the waist. He was very affectionate, comlimentary and asked me out for a third date that day and again via e-mail yesterday). The last date was on sunday, since then his e-mailing and texting are very limited and he hasnt picked up the phone. what gives?? I know it has only been a few days but its a very marked difference in how he was acting towards me before. I dont know if i should write him off or ask him whats up. Advice??
D-Jam Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 I wonder if he has a girlfriend, wife, or some other girl on the side, and then decided he was "done with you"? Not trying to be mean...but whenever I see this pattern out of a guy it usually adds up to he was "shopping around" for a new girl in his life, and decided he wanted to keep shopping, or go back to his SO. And yes...I know that it would have been better if he contacted you to say he's not feeling it or something. We men wish women would do that for us just as much as you women wish men would do it for you. Such a vicious cycle of liars.
Author Copperkitty007 Posted December 10, 2008 Author Posted December 10, 2008 Well then I dont get why yesterday's e-mails to me said 1) "how are you? where you been?" and 2) "we need to go out again soon" so he seems to want to keep me around just maybe on the back burner. is it bad if i just come out and say whats up? i am too old to be playing games and trying to figure things out, jsut tell me straight so i can move on . . . grrrr, god was evil when he put us together.
JohnnyBlaze Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 Could it just be that he didn't want to smother you? After all, it has only been one day since he emailed you, and two since he called; by guy standards, that's pretty attentive. However, you seem certain that something's going on, so yes, ask him what's up. If you don't, it'll just keep bothering you anyway, so for good or bad, you're better off knowing now.
AlektraClementine Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 Don't get too worked up. If he emailed you yesterday, that's a good sign. And it's also good that he is tempering himself with regards to smothering you. Guys know that if they come on too strong, it might push you away. That's probably all it is. Be glad for that.
norajane Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 Well then I dont get why yesterday's e-mails to me said 1) "how are you? where you been?" and 2) "we need to go out again soon" so he seems to want to keep me around just maybe on the back burner. is it bad if i just come out and say whats up? i am too old to be playing games and trying to figure things out, jsut tell me straight so i can move on . . . grrrr, god was evil when he put us together. Have you contacted him at all since Sunday? Have you picked up the phone? That could be why he's asking where you've been. It's not all on him to contact you all the time.
lovestruck818 Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 Most men bail on me when I don't sleep with them after the first date...oh wait, they all do.
Gremio Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 So this guy i met last week was all into texting me, calling and e-mailing numerous times a day. Then sunday we went on our second date and things got a little heated up but nothing below the waist. He was very affectionate, comlimentary and asked me out for a third date that day and again via e-mail yesterday). The last date was on sunday, since then his e-mailing and texting are very limited and he hasnt picked up the phone. what gives?? I know it has only been a few days but its a very marked difference in how he was acting towards me before. I dont know if i should write him off or ask him whats up. Advice?? You are expecting way too much too soon. You're asking to be smothered.
prettybaby Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 So this guy i met last week was all into texting me, calling and e-mailing numerous times a day. Then sunday we went on our second date and things got a little heated up but nothing below the waist. He was very affectionate, comlimentary and asked me out for a third date that day and again via e-mail yesterday). The last date was on sunday, since then his e-mailing and texting are very limited and he hasnt picked up the phone. what gives?? I know it has only been a few days but its a very marked difference in how he was acting towards me before. I dont know if i should write him off or ask him whats up. Advice?? You have only met him one week ago. Really, it's fine. He's already shown plenty of interest and he's even confirmed a date with you by e-mail yesterday. I think it's perfectly fine; unless you're looking for the type of guy who'd harass you non-stop. He's probably just trying to keep it cool so you won't suffocate and get sick of him within 2 weeks.
alphamale Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 I know it has only been a few days but its a very marked difference in how he was acting towards me before. I dont know if i should write him off or ask him whats up. Advice?? there is nothing to understand, just go with the flow. time tells all
Perry Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 Most men bail on me when I don't sleep with them after the first date...oh wait, they all do. Isn't that a good thing? What better way to weed them out?
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