Byren Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 Hello! I was hoping to get some advice, hopefully from men or women with low sex drives themselves or from someone that's in a similar situation to me, but any advice would be fantastic =). So basically I've known that my gf's libido is a fair bit lower than mine since we started going out (about 3 months ago) but last night she let me know how low it really is. She told me that she felt like she's a little bit pressured into sex because of our differing drives and that really she would only want sex maybe once a week (we've been having sex once, twice, sometimes 3 times a week). I also get the feeling that sex has maybe become a little bit hum-drum, it usually starts in the same way and she told me that she often pre-empts it and subtly stops it in attempt to protect my feelings. Before this relationship I was a virgin so I lacked physical experience in this area but as far as I know I have no problem in pleasuring her. She's told me many times how good I am etc etc, so it's not this that bothers me, just the fact that she seemingly doesn't have the need or want to fire up the engines. Because of my higher sex-drive she also feels that I'm not much of a challenge, basically whenever she wants sex I'm more than happy to jump her bones since she's not often in the mood! Can I be blamed? Apparantly she used to have a much higher libido around 16 and 17 but it's kind of tapered off as she got older (she's 20 now), and apparantly one of her exes pressured her into sex a lot. I do NOT want to be like that guy. I respect that she doesn't want sex as much as I do... but it'd help a little if her desire for it were a little higher =P Every other part of our relationship seems stable, we were good friends for 2 years before we started going out and can talk to eachother about anything. We're also living in the same house with a few of our other friends so perhaps I'm not giving her enough space?... I dunno, it could be a small part of this puzzle. Any advice would be awesome! Methods to get her in the mood? Tips on making sex more spontaneous or more exciting? Techniques I could use to stop feeling frustrated sexually? A magic bean that'll raise her desire for sex?! Anything you've got, just chuck it this way!
AshForce Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 Yo im in the same boat mate, me once a day her once a week. and when you talk about she gets all upset thinking your goin to cheat so that makes it worse. its a real bastard isnt it!?
lovestruck818 Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 if she's on the pill, that could have something to do with it. Ever since I started on the pill, I've hated having sex. I find it completely a nuisance.
AshForce Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 i wonder.... if this works i'll buy you a beer! if it doesnt im gona have to do some serious thinking
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