savvy_girl Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 Hi- I had been broken up w/ ex fiance for over a year. WE saw each other in August & September. A lot of drama surrounded this as he was dated someone else, and never really told me the truth. Anyway, I never thought i would ever be pregnant due to physiology. Miscarriage resulted. I waited to tell him as I wanted to tell face to face. He would not see me face to face....his new gf willnot allow it. I was carrying this around too long, it was too much, especially after his sexual assault to me. So i called and left him a voicemail. I advise him not to respond. He responds "well if I knew you wanted to tell me something important I MAYBE would have seen you". I was afraid to see him, only in a public place. WHy would someone act so callous & cold about their potential baby? This person is 45, holier than thou Catholic. It all makes me so sad & sick. I knownthis is incongruent w/ previous posts, but I did not want to admit any of this to anyone, but keeping it inis killing me. I did not want him back, even If I had given birth. She can have him. WHy are people so mean? Hugs, sad savvy girl
Taramere Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 I'm so sorry to hear about this. I think a miscarriage is one of those things that women are often left to deal with (emotionally) on their own, and that must have left many women with that "people are selfish and insensitive" feeling that they somehow have to manage. Regarding this man: People can be so adept at lying to themselves about who they are, that they become utterly blind to their worst flaws and behaviours. Perhaps he falls into that category. Perhaps he simply can't envisage becoming a better sort of man. Has to hide his sorry self behind false piety, lies and cold treatment that he metes out to people when they're vulnerable. I really hope you feel better soon. Take care.
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