bigbear25 Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 ok hey guys so ive been talking to this girl for about 2 months. i took her out on a date a few saturdays ago and everything went great. the next night, she was mad at me for basically nothing when i told her something about her one guy friend but thats not the point. a week later, things were back to normal when she was saying she was missing me and stuff. on friday, she got her wisdom teeth out and has been on painkillers. things were getting better in my eyes because she wanted me to hold her tight and kiss her the next time i saw her. it was the first time she wanted a kiss from me. so i told her id come over and take care of her last night. sure enough, yesterday she was a totally different girl. she was all depressed and sad. she called herself miserable and gave me the talk about how she can't date anyone because of trust issues. she said she ma not be ready for a long time. do you think she is bipolar or something? because i cant figure her out. her one friend called her bipolar once and i didnt believe it at first but im starting to agree. i wanna leave but i have such great feelings for her and im stuck on her. please help if you can thanks
SoulSearch_CO Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 Yes, I would think bipolar. I think if a friend of hers that has known her longer than you says it and you're seeing signs of it, it's a pretty big red sign that says she has it. Of course, a medical professional would have to diagnose it and you're pretty early on in the relationship to tell her to go see the crazy doc. You have to decide if the ups and downs are worth it because you will be dealing with it constantly until she gets some good meds or really good counseling.
Author bigbear25 Posted December 10, 2008 Author Posted December 10, 2008 yeah and this morning she told me she missed me. god i dont know what to do. i really really like her like its the first time ive felt this big connection. but at the same time, she drives me nuts. apparently one of her exes who made her mad and cheated on her texted her the other day and im wondering if it made her think of all of that pain. because she changed dramatically in one night. like she was begging me to come hold her and stuff and then she didnt want me to and i didnt do anything. also keep in mind that she does go to a psychologist about every week i believe.
katrik Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 Sounds like she is definetly a bipolar but you can never judge a person from one-side of the story. If she is definetly bipolar then I have no words for you, becaz the decision is yours. But if she is not and if you are realy crazy about her play the waiting game....hold yourself back and control your emotions when she realy wants you to be next to her. And try to spend time with her when she least expects you...so you will know the real difference and you can figure out whether you can manage this girl if you decide to have a relationship.....
movingonandon Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 she sounds like a major mess, always hotttttt , unless we're talking about some really serious condition, I'd enjoy the ride (but hold on tight and be ready to catapult..)
Posco_Proudfoot Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 god i dont know what to do. i really really like her like its the first time ive felt this big connection. but at the same time, she drives me nuts. I think I'd start looking elsewhere. It won't get better. Believe me, I know.
Author bigbear25 Posted December 10, 2008 Author Posted December 10, 2008 i asked her if she would date me if it wasn't for her past and she replied "probably..i mean i wouldn't hesitate." and its not just me. she said she cant like anyone and cant date anyone becuase she doesnt wanna get hurt again. i know im not gonna do that to her but i know its hard to believe people anymore especially her
SoulSearch_CO Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 i asked her if she would date me if it wasn't for her past and she replied "probably..i mean i wouldn't hesitate." LOL...She can't even answer a simple question definitively. Run, dude, run.
Author bigbear25 Posted December 11, 2008 Author Posted December 11, 2008 part of me wants to leave and one wants to stay. i think part of it may be that she is just tired of all of this pain from getting her wisdom teeth out and shes hasn't been 100% since before thanksgiving. she came back the last time she did this but im worried she will betray me again.
SoulSearch_CO Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 Wow. You are the perfect victim for an unmedicated and out-of-control bipolar. Willing to put up with crappy treatment and holding on in the hopes that you might get some small shred of decent treatment. Oh, well - whatever floats your boat. But once she really gets done messing with your head, maybe YOU should go see a counselor. You know, when someone is in an abusive relationship, they'll often make excuses for the abuser and tell themselves that there were SOME good times. The fact that you're already getting started this early really concerns me. But nobody can make the right decision for YOU. Have you ever had your wisdom teeth out? I have. There was no major personality change after I had mine removed. I was put under and had all 4 of mine dug and cut out from the gum. Yes, very painful afterwards. But I didn't freak out at people. If she's in THAT much pain even this long after getting them out, she needs more pain meds.
Author bigbear25 Posted December 11, 2008 Author Posted December 11, 2008 yeah she has a bad immune system. shes anemic too. but anyways, today shes back to normal. she wants me to hold her again haha i dont know she is so confusing
V.Vixen Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 My Best friend is bipolar (unmedicated) and can be very tough to deal with at times. I could never have a romantic relationship with someone like that. The thing is that the good parts with a bipolar person are GREAT and the bad times are BAD.
Author bigbear25 Posted December 12, 2008 Author Posted December 12, 2008 My Best friend is bipolar (unmedicated) and can be very tough to deal with at times. I could never have a romantic relationship with someone like that. The thing is that the good parts with a bipolar person are GREAT and the bad times are BAD. haha you got it right on the nose. exactly. i was so happy when she wanted me and stuff but miserable when shes mad at me. and just an update: she may be mad again after saying she wanted me..stay tuned haha this is so ridiculous
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