angel126 Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 Hey everyone, Ive been knowing this guy for 6 years now ever since I was 18 & have been seeing the same guy for 3 years now on and off. At first we started out just messing around & then we took it to another level & did the whole bf & gf thing. & now he wants me to have my space & time to think about things & get my life straighten out. Cuz lately I have been depressed & not willing to do anything, missing classes, not going into work, etc... But Idk I feel like he is seeing someone else & is just using that as an excuse to break up. What does it mean when someone tells u that U need ur space & time? Is it a nice way of breaking up? B/c I am here having sleepless nights thinking he will come back. & I know its usually the guy or girl saying I need my space & time but this time its the other way around: he says I am the one who needs it. Which in fact it is true, Ive been dealing with it on my own & wasnt really affecting him cuz I wasnt fighting with him nor anything I was just in a spiral going downwards & he got mad at me for missing classes n stuff. We've been on this space & time for two weeks now & he contacted me a week ago asking me how I was feeling & I accidentally said I was missing him & he said u missing me? & I said Yeah I am missing u. & all he replied was ohh.. Im going to sleep now have a goodnight. which made me feel really bad. & since then he hasnt said anything else. But yeah any suggestions on what I should do. Like should I call him, txt or im him? Or should I just move on & forget about him?
CaliGuy Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 Unfortunately when someone says they need space and time, they mean AWAY from you and usually WITH someone else. Personally if I were you I'd follow the NC advice in my signature. What he said in reply to you near the end of your story says a lot. He's not missing you and as long as you maintain contact with him, he know he has you hooked.
Becca1979 Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 Well who knows? Maybe he actually means it, the question is here does he deserve the benefit of the doubt? If you do need to time to sort your head out maybe you should take it and upon further evaluation decide if you really need him at all *hugs*
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