williamz Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 I told her i missed her via text. then had this convo on aim. We had been in limited contact and she had been friendly so it wasn't like i was being a creep by talking to her. i thought what she said was unnecesarily harsh. but it's kind of good to have it concretely set in stone, and i can fully commit to healing now. I changed her screen name to Joseph Stalin btw ME: i just told you i missed you. a simple "i dont miss you at all, youre pathetic. i have a bf" or "you were the coolest guy ever!!!” would suffice 11:27 PM Joseph Stalin: im sorry i just dont have time to be talking about this Joseph Stalin: im studying for my final tomorrow ME: alright. my bad. i wasnt trying to have a big talk or anything. just like if you have no feelings for me at all. itd just be easier if you said it, so i could accept it and leave you alone and not be some weird creep. ME: but study. sorrrrrry Joseph Stalin: okay i dont have feelings for you Joseph Stalin: like that anymore Joseph Stalin: im sorry ME: alright. thats cool. ill leave you alone for good. thats what i needed to hear Joseph Stalin: ok? Joseph Stalin: bye ME: yep. id ask if you were with someone else. but its irrelevant. so bye Joseph Stalin: no im not Joseph Stalin: and you are being kind of pathetic adn annoying just fyi ME: alright. thanks for that 11:40 PM ME: im ****ing pathetic. but that last line was uncalled for Joseph Stalin: hahah you really are pathetic ME: ok Joseph Stalin: from an objective point of viewand you said its what you wanted to hear so i told you Joseph Stalin: for future reference on how not to act ME: ok. youre beating a dead horse Joseph Stalin: i realy want to go to sleep can you hurry with this im? ME: alright. thats the worst thing about me. i was a standup guy. im just pissed that i put in all the brunt work when you werent attractive. and then you get kinda attractive and drop me ME:i put the leg work in ME:like the guy who tells the ugly duckling shes beautful, when no one else would, cause he loves her personality. ME:i took personality over looks and got **** on ME:thats why it sucks Joseph Stalin: ehh ok Joseph Stalin: haha whatever bye ME: flowers, songs, and everything and i get some bitch laughing at me. enjoy yourself
alwayssme Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 she sounds immature...i dont know hor how long you guys were together but its unneccesary for her to be rude like that...me and my ex broke up and he acted cold at a point but not rude like her...i suggest you never bother with her again and try not to stress over this IM...you're better off without someone whos going to act like that
Surfer Dude Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 My ex also told me I'm pathethic and that she despised me. After a wonderful relationship, engagement and everything... she just leaves for another man and suddenly I'm pathethic because I wanted to talk about breakup and everything. I decided to go NC when she told me "Sleep with girls more and you'll forget me, stop clinging to the past so much, you're not a child, past is past, just forget it". The only thing she proved by saying that is that she's the one despicable and pathethic. Don't think too much about this, some people are just retarded.
alwayssme Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 me and my ex are on "friendly" terms and I was just thinking about telling him I wanted to be best friends like we used to and see each other sometime but after reading this post, I'm afraid to even try. lol. So I guess I'll just keep things as they are because although he wouldn't respond like that, he could still be kind of cold and distant. We need to just leave them alone I guess. I'll just be content with the fact that me and my ex are on "good terms" although i wish it was more. Oh well. That's life!
Cub Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 Ah, jeez! I hate this nonchalant, distant bull**** that they do; then they find a way to break your ego after they've broken your heart. Every girl that's ever broken up with me has done this, but I still always find myself surprised by their callous indifference. At the same time, I know I've done it sometime in my life - probably a lot of times. Not necessarily in relationship scenarios, but just in my everyday interaction; when people come across something unpleasant, they tend to dismiss it, to avoid it. If anything, her blowing the subject off is a sign that it still bothers her. If it didn't, she would be the sweet girl you know - comforting you through the pain that SHE inflicted, but not willing to mend it by jumping back into your arms. A lot of things are counterintuitive in this way. I guess I'm just saying, don't hate her for how she's responding to this situation. She doesn't know the proper way to deal with your pain, so she's just dismissing it. Immature, yes, but not a testament to her true character.
4by4 Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 Don't worry about it man. Just go NC and soon you will be wondering what you saw in her. Leave people like that out of your life, it should be even more easier for you to move on now. You'll be happy soon enough and not even care what went on during this period of time.
EmperorR Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 My ex did the same thing, before when I would send her cards, talk to her etc. I was sweet, then suddenly I was pathetic. This is what happens when you break NC sorry you had to deal with it, the person you loved etc. is dead 98% of the time, and replaced with a cold hearted person who has no feelings at all for you anymore. After I gave up all my friends (yes i know i was dumb) because of my jealous ex. She had the nerve to tell me go reconnect with your friends.
RogueAC Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 I guess I'm just saying, don't hate her for how she's responding to this situation. She doesn't know the proper way to deal with your pain, so she's just dismissing it. Immature, yes, but not a testament to her true character. Cub, I like this sentiment.
Author williamz Posted December 10, 2008 Author Posted December 10, 2008 well i just found out that she cheated on me all the way back in February. took her out for valentines day after. took her to the beach. bought her flowers. even broke up with her. and she cried her way back. spent months agonizing over this situation, only to find out that this happened all the way back in Feb. I could've been over this months ago if I knew at the time.
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