Queequeg Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 Does anyone have a "whiny" partner? I am that whiny partner. I guess it's just something I picked up when I was growing up, for attention or something, who knows. I've grown out of it for the most part, but I tend to vocalize my issues. I get cold a lot. When I am tired, I tend to complain. It's a bad habit. I know it's annoying. My partner sees this as a huge problem. I understand, but it's hard as hell to talk to him about it. We can't talk about anything "problematic" because we are both stubborn as hell. Zero communication skills. When I try to be a little more "adult" about it, he just accuses me of manipulating him, says he isn't listening, or tells me I am a broken record. How the hell can I get through to someone who sees this as a big problem but doesn't want to talk about it....besides complain about me complaining?? I know it's something *I* have to work on, but it makes me ultra resentful and defensive when he just wants to complain about me complaining. Kind of like me, complaining....which makes him angry and resentful...must be the same issue. Woof. Paradox.
xpaperxcutx Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 You guys should have time out cards on hand in case one complains about the other. So it would be like he's going on about you complaining, while you're complaining, and one of you whips out the card, and boom! silence.
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