louiep Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 getting over your ex dumping you anyone done it in a month also what is considered normal getting over time also since we where not havein sex because of my medicine will it make me get over her faster
Surfer Dude Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 Some people say it's normal to grieve and cope half of the time you spent in a relationship. It took me a few months to get over it, but we were together for much longer, around 2 years or so. The pain is gone and everything, but I still think of her sometimes. My guess is that it takes years to fully forget someone and completely kick them out of your mind though, but the pain and "love" go away pretty quick if you're mentally tough.
Author louiep Posted December 10, 2008 Author Posted December 10, 2008 mine was 16 years i hope to feel better by march but it will be a rough 09 for me thanks
lofi_tokyo Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 I think you'll find each month you'll get a bit better. Some months will be harder than others. As I've gotten over my ex - each month has come with its ups and downs, but I could see myself progressing, and I think thats what is important. Progressive healing. With the holidays coming up, its gonna be rough on all of us I'm sure. Luckily, you have LS, so... no matter how long it takes to heal, you can always post here for support, right?
Author louiep Posted December 10, 2008 Author Posted December 10, 2008 i hope you do fine over the holidays
sedgwick Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 My 10-month relationship broke up in July '07 and I'm not over it at all.
Just_dealin_with_it Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 It's been 4 months since my 2-year relationship ended. Compared to where I was 2 months ago, I'm doing really well. I think about her still, but those thoughts aren't associated with the pain of loss so much anymore. Sometimes I'm indifferent about it, other times I still miss her. Just depends on my mood or the particular thought the comes to mind. As for her, she began dating someone new only a month or so after our break up. If you consider the build up that leads to a new relationship, I figure she had to have started things up with him very shortly after our break up. It's apparent to me in hindsight, that she was likely interested in him before our break up and knew that she was going to pursue something with him. I doubt she has the record, but she certainly didn't waste any time
Ingenue Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 It's been 5 months and a bit since my 5 year relationship ended. Some people have told me that it's roughly 1 month for every year you've been together. However, there is no hard and fast rule in terms of healing time. People take as much time as necessary to get over their past loves. Some months will be better than others. The important thing is to not compare yourself to the healing time of others. You'll move on when you're ready to move on.
BikerBeagle Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 Healing time really depends on the person and what he/she is actively doing to actually heal. Staying busy, introducing new improvements into your life, seeking support and assistance from friends and professionals ...all are good things and will help quicken the process. Sitting at home, obsessing over the breakup, reliving the event every day all day, and generally doing nothing ....expect a very long recovery.
Author louiep Posted December 14, 2008 Author Posted December 14, 2008 thanks everyone for the replies me and my ex sit down and had a all night honest talk about us and it really helped me . its been 10 days and i already fell a little better
EmperorR Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 been about 4 months, I cant say I love her anymore, sometimes I think of her but just for a few seconds like how could she do this to me, then im like ah well such is life. Even right now I was cleaning and found all the cheesy napkins she gave me with words on them, and poems telling me to wait for her and pictures I thought i threw out but i had them hidden in some box, i didnt even feel anything, just blah. Do I hate her nope, Do i love her nope, it's just nothing. I can say im farther along than I was last month or the month before.
pleasebelieveme Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 It's been 1 year, 9 months since she broke up with me - almost as long as we dated. I agree with earlier posters that you usually get progressively better but not in a straight line. There are ups and downs, but the overall trend is up. At the end of the day, I don't grieve or feel much pain, but I'm not over her yet. I swear during those times when I have a setback I google her name like I get paid for it... -pbm
oceanbreeze Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 It's been a year and half? Lol it must be a sign of progression when i cannot remember how long its been. Feels like forever.. i think i'm 90% over it.. but i still think of him sometimes too. We dated for 2 and half years.. so i guess i'm over that "half of the time you dated" mark. But i think it really depends from person to person too.
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