mswonderful Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 I've been on 3 great dates w/ a guy I thought was great, but we've been talking for a week before that. All together, we've been talking/dating for 5 weeks, because for Thanksgiving week I didn't see him. Everytime we hang out and everytime we talk, it's awesome. Then, after a date, he'll take longer than a week to communicate with me. It's so confusing, because on the dates he acts so incredibly interested in me, polite, pays for everything, etc...better than any of my other previous boyfriends who actually did commit to me treated me. Is it NORMAL for him to be taking this long to communicate with me? I feel angry that he takes this long and I feel like even though we're not exclusive and we don't really know eachother well, I deserve to hear from him sooner than that...sometimes I even hear from him later than a week after. We met on a dating website so I don't really KNOW him. And...we haven't kissed yet. Don't get it. I just don't get it. Should I confront him?
xpaperxcutx Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 Confrontations will lead to nothing, because there is no exclusivity. If I were you I would stop waiting for him to contact me. I would busy myself with other activities. Remember he doesn't own you, neither should you revolve your thoughts around him. You're too into him to let yourself be you. Had he not come into your life would you have been so anxious about whether he would contact you? Don't make others a priority if they're haven't done the same of you.
IrishCarBomb Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 You could... *gasp*... call him? Wait... no... nevermind.
xpaperxcutx Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 I would also like to mention online dating allows people to be flaky. It's a bigger range for dating people without any need to form a close attachments like you normally do with people in person.
norajane Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 He's also dating other people. That's why it takes him so long to get back to you again. When was the last time you saw him?
Melrapuo Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 He's also dating other people. That's why it takes him so long to get back to you again. When was the last time you saw him? This is exactly what first came to mind with me. Chances are he may be dating multiple people. If that in itself bothers you enough, it may be a good idea to call it off. But make sure you get enough information before you make that decision. And remember, you can make some moves too. : )
Charles1978 Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 You could... *gasp*... call him? Wait... no... nevermind. I agree with this. I'll never understand this myth that guys like the pursuit. Sure, to a point. But when the effort isn't equal after a couple dates, it becomes a turnoff.
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