ohlala147 Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 Hi everyone, I've been on here since I got dumped 2 weeks and 2 days ago. Hearing your stories has really helped me out through a tough time. Here's my question: I git the "dear john" type letter today. It was a package with my keys and a letter. In the letter, he states:That being said, I think it's safe to say that when you left the other day, you didn't exactly have a burning desire to ever see me again". Background: We were together 8 months. It came out of the blue, although in retrospect, it was a' comin. I'm certain that he'd been planning it for some time, actually, but I won't bore you with the details. The important thing is that I went NC immediately after the break up fight. I stormed out. I knew from my last breakup so I knew exactly what to do this time around. I've been through this with the "big one" that shattered my heart. This doesn't feel like that. My main sadness is the general loss and being alone. But, of course, I harbor the same fantasies as everyone that he'll realize he made a big mistake and come back. Here's my point: I'm thinking that that line about the burning desire is bait. The classic ex ego boost trick. Obviously he has no desire to get back together. I think he's playing mind games because my NC at the least kind of stung him back, even for just ego reasons. I feel like the trick is that his phrasing is indicating that if I HADN'T gone NC and HAD exhibited some burning desire...things might have turned out different. But it's probably an ex ego trick! Am I right? What do you think? Anyway, I'm not fallin for it. I'm remaining NC because I know, I KNOW, the truth that we all know and that we have to accept and move on from. Thanks for listening guys! I would appreciate any advice.
Growingup Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 Advice?? Why? Sounds like you got it under control, congrats
marlynshopgrl Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 I agree, It's so difficult, I just broke up with someone on Sunday and want to take it back so badly BUT I also know that our situation wont change (unless HE changed). I applaud your strength!!!!
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