Jonoedwards Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 Hello guys/girls. I'm Jon, im new around here. Its my first post so i thought i'd make it a good one. I'm 16 and from Wrexham, Wales. I started talking to a girl named Chloe about 8 months ago in April. We became close friends real quick. And i told her that i really liked her and she felt the same way. So ever since May i've been really crazy about her. After 4 or 5 months of pursuing her we finally got together mid October. 2 weeks later she finished me because she felt like she didn't want to be in a relationship. Anyway, that was it. And we hadn't spoke afterwards for 5 weeks until last night she spoke. Asking how i am etc. I told her i miss her and she told me the same too. I asked about getting back together and she said i dont want a boyfriend at the moment and that the timing isn't right. She's in college everyday and works in the evening so we'd never see eachother. She's working temporarily till January or February meaning i'd have to wait another 2 or 3 months to even have another shot with her. It'l be roughly nearly a year then. Am i wasting my time pursuing her? Should i move on? I really do love her and i think she loves me too. What should i do? Thanks PS - Sorry if it's posted in the wrong section.
mental_traveller Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 2 weeks later she finished me because she felt like she didn't want to be in a relationship. Anyway, that was it. And we hadn't spoke afterwards for 5 weeks until last night she spoke. Asking how i am etc. I told her i miss her and she told me the same too. I asked about getting back together and she said i dont want a boyfriend at the moment and that the timing isn't right. She's in college everyday and works in the evening so we'd never see eachother. She's working temporarily till January or February meaning i'd have to wait another 2 or 3 months to even have another shot with her. It'l be roughly nearly a year then. Am i wasting my time pursuing her? Should i move on? I really do love her and i think she loves me too. What should i do? Thanks PS - Sorry if it's posted in the wrong section. Hi Jon, If you re-read your post with the highlighted sections, I'd say it doesn't take a Sherlock Holmes to realise she's not really interested in the same level of commitment that you want. My advice is to forget about her and move on. There are 3 billion women in this world and I'm sure you can find at least one who is a bit more on the same level as yourself when it comes to love & commitment.
quankanne Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 hey there Jon, welcome to the 'Shack! okay, about Chloe: Maybe she's got a deeper reason for not wanting to be in a relationship ... like wanting to get studies out of the way because she's determined to get her degree. my thought is that if you truly care about this girl, you'll step back and encourage her, but by no means should you give up your hope of someday dating her. Just keep the idea on the back burner for now, and cultivate a friendship while you're waiting. The upside of this is that you get to know her better without the pressure of expecting her to be a girlfriend, even though this may not be what you initially want. You won't regret helping her realize her dream of getting an education, if that's what she's after. quank, who just now realizes that Badfinger is from your homeland! Gaaahhh ... I guess I'm not as much as an old rocker chick as I like to believe
Author Jonoedwards Posted December 10, 2008 Author Posted December 10, 2008 She needs some space. I'll stay as good friends as i possibly can with her and renew my interest in the short future.
Geishawhelk Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 No. What she was trying to tell you, is that she's not really into having a 'relationship' with you. She's happy to call you a friend, and keep it that way. Believe me, if she was interested, you'd have had a more positive response. Ladies respond to emotional stimulus. You just don't rock her world.
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