shesmiles Posted December 9, 2008 Posted December 9, 2008 My Ex and I broke Up At the end Of this August that Just Passed, We were Dating Almost 3 Years, and me Not being the smartest person In the World Got into another Relationship A week Later, ( Rebound ) .. My Ex and I never had conversation Until Recently when I broke UP with my ( rebound ) Because I came across Videos/Pictures of my ex And I and Suddenly Everything Hit me. So I contacted my Ex and he really Hates me, He made a prediction when we were only dating two Years that we'd break up after three years, See other people for a year and come back to eachother and Eventually Marry.. I don't want to believe that Because SO far it's coming true .. I'm in the process Now Of getting over him .. well Attempting too, But he was my First love.. and I've been dreaming good things of him the past two mornings in a row . times with us ' laying beside eachother and saying i love you ' ... why is this happening to me ?I tried talking to him Recently: through texting and he was completely rude telling me he had nothing for me anymore and he moved on, and he wants nothing to do with me. I know that's not true he's just a very stubborn person ... We've been through everything together, And It doesn't feel right with anyone but him ...
californiadreamin Posted December 9, 2008 Posted December 9, 2008 I know what your saying i was with my girlfriend for 6 1/2 years and i dream about her almost every day just good dreams we have been broken up for 1 1/2 months. She was also my 1st love we are both 22. I wonder if its because you have so much love for the 1st person you fall for.
Author shesmiles Posted December 9, 2008 Author Posted December 9, 2008 When I texted him and asked if we could talk he told me there was nothing to talk about and I mentioned how we needed to see where things stand and he told me I closed the door three months ago when I broke up with him.. I'm sorta realising he's very hurt ? I already know he's very stubborn... he told me that I didn't love him as much as I claimed because I had a new boyfriend so soon.. Doesn't he realise a rebound when he see's one? not to add he had a new girlfriend a week after I got a new one... and he told me that he doesn't think about me ever and his life is perfect ' party after party ' and I said.. that means nothing it just means your occuping yourself ... he's really hurt isnt he? I also told him I cheated on him when we broke up only because I was so hurt, and Upset.. I wanted to hurt him.. and now when I told him It was only a lie.. he said to me ' You told me, I believed it and now it's too late ' .
DSM-IV Tom Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 You both have issues. You should go into counseling together, for the better of you both. Ask him out on a date. Make sure the date is a day the psych can see you both.
Author shesmiles Posted December 10, 2008 Author Posted December 10, 2008 He won't talk to me, he told me to leave him alone... So does that mean I should? and That he'll come to me? I know we have issues. but we've been through so much together.. I do believe there's still a chance with us.. I guess not right now since everything is still tender...
DSM-IV Tom Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 Well is he in a relationship? If so, it's best to leave him be. If he is single, I suggest you tell him "I love you and I am ready to try again... I'll leave you alone til you're ready..." and then cut off contact 100%. If he contacts you again in the future, ask him if it's just as friends or if he wants more. If he says just as friends, tell him "Sorry I still love you" (if you do at that point) and cut him off again. You should focus on healing... through no contact. Expect him to never come back, but hope for the best until you stop caring. But always expect him to never come back.
Author shesmiles Posted December 10, 2008 Author Posted December 10, 2008 he is single, he was dating someone but had to break up with them or whatever happened they didn't end up working out . The last thing i said to him was I understand it now I get it you want nothing to do with me so I'll leave you alone... and thats it I left it , Stop talking to him .. and ever since I've just been hurting... when i was texting him I tried joking around and like using old nick names.. and I could somewhat tell he wanted to break down but he was trying to hard to stay strong and stand his ground.. then he told me... there is no future for us not even as friends.. he said alot of hurtful things .
Jonoedwards Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 Well is he in a relationship? If so, it's best to leave him be. If he is single, I suggest you tell him "I love you and I am ready to try again... I'll leave you alone til you're ready..." and then cut off contact 100%. If he contacts you again in the future, ask him if it's just as friends or if he wants more. If he says just as friends, tell him "Sorry I still love you" (if you do at that point) and cut him off again. You should focus on healing... through no contact. Expect him to never come back, but hope for the best until you stop caring. But always expect him to never come back.I agree 100% with that.
Author shesmiles Posted December 10, 2008 Author Posted December 10, 2008 We broke up this summer for almost two months and then I messeged him and we picked things up from there. this time when we broke up he said are you sure? and I said yes, and He said forever? and I said yes and He said okay remember you Said that. Which is very immature but Whatever . this time I got a new boyfriend very quickly and he got a new girlfriend right after that, I think he's trying to forget me very well... I mean when I texted him he would text me back, if someone didn't want to talk to you they wouldnt reply in the first place? True .. or not ?
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