lovestruck818 Posted December 9, 2008 Posted December 9, 2008 So, I've been on about 6 dates with this really really sweet guy. I like everything about him except the fact that he is almost a foot & a half taller than me. I am trying to get over this height difference but I feel it is huge and it's a hindrance in me letting my true feelings come out b/c all I see is a big gigantic dude. I know he is a great great guy and I desperately want to have to have feelings for him, but I fear his height is preventing me from doing so. I'm so confused. I know he would be good to me. Am I being shallow? What do I do?
Viking Posted December 9, 2008 Posted December 9, 2008 My Great-Grandfather and Great-Grandmother were 6'8" and 4'11" respectively. It can happen... The fact that you want to "desperately" have feelings for him is troubling to say the least.
BlueHarvest Posted December 9, 2008 Posted December 9, 2008 Lol....so you two are pretty much like this eh? Sexual Dimorphism
2sure Posted December 9, 2008 Posted December 9, 2008 I am almost 5'4" . Prior to current husband, dated (or was married to) men between 6'4" and 6'6" exclusively. No real reason, just who I was attracted to at the time I suppose. Never had an issue. I usually am in high heels, so I suppose that helped. lol. One guy had particularly long legs and if I was flat footed, his waist was just below my neck. That was kind of weird.
fral945 Posted December 9, 2008 Posted December 9, 2008 One of my college roommates who is 6'5" married a 5'0" girl. They seem to do ok together, though they looked a bit odd together. At least you don't have one of those short guys you can't wear heels with. That would be much worse.
Shygirl15 Posted December 9, 2008 Posted December 9, 2008 I'm so confused. Uh.. sorry Lovestruck, but I think I'm the one who is so confused here. I remember you once said that you don't like tall guys at all because they totally gross you out??
Viking Posted December 9, 2008 Posted December 9, 2008 Uh.. sorry Lovestruck, but I think I'm the one who is so confused here. I remember you once said that you don't like tall guys at all because they totally gross you out?? And she's trying desperately to have feelings for him...not a good sign, like I already said. How do you know he'd be good to you?
Author lovestruck818 Posted December 10, 2008 Author Posted December 10, 2008 Uh.. sorry Lovestruck, but I think I'm the one who is so confused here. I remember you once said that you don't like tall guys at all because they totally gross you out?? They do but he's the nicest guy I have met so far and I kind of fear I wont find anyone else as nicer b/c everyone sucks. He is real and doesn't try to use me for sex like all the others.
Author lovestruck818 Posted December 10, 2008 Author Posted December 10, 2008 And she's trying desperately to have feelings for him...not a good sign, like I already said. How do you know he'd be good to you? He hasn't tried to sleep with me after 6 dates. Most guys bail if I don't sleep with them after the 1st date. Hell I'm pretty so that means I'm easy, right? Ugh.
Viking Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 I didn't have sex with my ex gf after 2 years and 8 months...could be the guy just has a different set of beliefs than you...
BubblyPopcorn Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 I didn't have sex with my ex gf after 2 years and 8 months...could be the guy just has a different set of beliefs than you... Two years and 8 months!? How the heck did you two manage that with each other exactly?
Lovelybird Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 IMO if two persons so want each other, but trying to hold that passion, this way has much more fun I've seen that kind of couples before, then I think I have hope to find a tall man, not that tall though maybe when you don't try to have feelings for him, then it will come natually?
Adamagnet Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 Most guys bail if I don't sleep with them after the 1st date. Hell I'm pretty so that means I'm easy, right? Are you consciously rationalizing? Men don't bail on pretty women because they aren't easy. It's actually quite the opposite and we are more likely to put up with undesirable traits if a woman is highly attractive.
Viking Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 Two years and 8 months!? How the heck did you two manage that with each other exactly? I told her no for two years and eight months...now we're broken up and I'm glad I did. We have different beliefs about it and so this worked out well in the end. Now looking back, I'm glad as it would not have been worth it (to me).
Author lovestruck818 Posted December 10, 2008 Author Posted December 10, 2008 Are you consciously rationalizing? Men don't bail on pretty women because they aren't easy. It's actually quite the opposite and we are more likely to put up with undesirable traits if a woman is highly attractive. I completely disagree. When a women is pretty, all the men see is "pretty face= sex." When a person is ugly, it forces the other person to get to know them internally b/c they don't have the looks to initally attract. Most people fail to get to know me in the inside b/c they are too busy trying to fantasize about banging "the hot girl." It's too bad I am smarter than they will ever be.
Star Gazer Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 I am 5'3 and 3/4''. My high school boyfriends were 6'6'' and 6'8'' and I never wore heels. I never found it to be a problem. However, I recently went out on a date (while wearing huge heels!) with a guy who's 6'7'', and it was just way too much. Sitting across from him at dinner wasn't an issue. But walking to the car felt awkward. I felt like a child.
katrik Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 I completely disagree. When a women is pretty, all the men see is "pretty face= sex." When a person is ugly, it forces the other person to get to know them internally b/c they don't have the looks to initally attract. Most people fail to get to know me in the inside b/c they are too busy trying to fantasize about banging "the hot girl." It's too bad I am smarter than they will ever be. I'm sure you are wrong men always see the possibility of having sex else, how do you think the paper bag story came out....coming back to your questions the last girl I dated I slept with her on the third date only after I got the complete green signal and she was really attractive thats one of the reasons I was slow and not looking for sex on the first date... About heights I'm 6+ and I went out with a girl who was <5 in college we liked each other and we are not together anymore. But now when I look at the pic's it's hilarious and all my friends make fun of those pic's...so its not uncommon you will see that often....
Adamagnet Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 I completely disagree. I'm not surprised, as I expected the rationalization to be subconscious. With pretty women they usually are. When a women is pretty, all the men see is "pretty face= sex." When a person is ugly, it forces the other person to get to know them internally b/c they don't have the looks to initally attract. I agree that men relate attractiveness to sexual desire, but you are far from the truth otherwise. In the human mating dynamic, the only reason a male will care to get to know you is because they are attracted to you, not the other way around. Most people fail to get to know me in the inside b/c they are too busy trying to fantasize about banging "the hot girl." It's too bad I am smarter than they will ever be. Do you think that you have anything to improve, personality wise?
kizik Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 In the human mating dynamic, the only reason a male will care to get to know you is because they are attracted to you, not the other way around. QFT. It's kind of funny when women assume men think like them.
Anastasia0309 Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 Well, my ex was 5'2 and I'm 5"2. It was horrible. I could never wear heels and just always felt bigger then him. LOL. I would much rather have your problem then that problem again. Although, there was a guy at my work that I went on a date with that was like 6'1 and yeah it was kinda weird. But if I was attracted to him and if I was feeling him. I don't think his height would have been a issue. If you like him then just go heel shopping. Good enough reason to get to go shopping, right?
Author lovestruck818 Posted December 10, 2008 Author Posted December 10, 2008 I'm not surprised, as I expected the rationalization to be subconscious. With pretty women they usually are. I agree that men relate attractiveness to sexual desire, but you are far from the truth otherwise. In the human mating dynamic, the only reason a male will care to get to know you is because they are attracted to you, not the other way around. Do you think that you have anything to improve, personality wise? Everyone has something to improve on...
kizik Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 Well, my ex was 5'2 and I'm 5"2. I'm a guy, 5'6" to 5'7". My ex GF is 5'2". I loved how she made my little a$$ feel tall. Probably the ONLY thing I miss about her...
Author lovestruck818 Posted December 10, 2008 Author Posted December 10, 2008 I'm a guy, 5'6" to 5'7". My ex GF is 5'2". I loved how she made my little a$$ feel tall. Probably the ONLY thing I miss about her... Hah, I love short guys!!
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