fral945 Posted December 9, 2008 Posted December 9, 2008 Two questions: 1) Do you believe most romantic relationships should start out as friendships? Please explain why if you believe so. Also, for those of you that don't believe romantic relationships should start out as friendships, I'd like to hear your opinions as well as to why you believe that. 2) How have most of your relationships started? What I specifically want to know is whether or not you were friends with that person first.
Tony T Posted December 9, 2008 Posted December 9, 2008 Two questions: 1) Do you believe most romantic relationships should start out as friendships? Please explain why if you believe so. Also, for those of you that don't believe romantic relationships should start out as friendships, I'd like to hear your opinions as well as to why you believe that. Romatic relationships must start out as friendships if they are to last. Romance is nothing more than excessive chemical reactions in the brain that diminish with time. If there is no basis for friendship between the two people...no fondness for the beliefs, behavior, morals, etc. of the person...once the fireworks are over the relationship is over. 2) How have most of your relationships started? What I specifically want to know is whether or not you were friends with that person first. Every relationship I have ever had has started as a friendship. If we simply rush into things passionately and sexually we are at the same level as other animals on our planet. Courtships should start out slowly to see if we like the other person, if we feel a compionate connection with them, etc. Unfortunately, many people are addicted to those love chemicals and to the accompanying sex. That can handle things for a while but never take them to the finish line. That's why so many couples hate each other later on, because they weren't friends first...they were simply passionate fxck buddies who actually thought the fun in bed would last a lifetime. Take my word, it never does. A basis of friendship is the difference between a relationship and a relationshxt.
georgejungle Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 yeah, it's a funny question, because unless it's a one night hook up that turns into more dates and then a relationship, ALL relationships are friendships first. All my relationships have been friendship first. You gotta get to know someone first. First love, we were classmates and then turned into a couple. My gal and i worked together and were friends first, then started hanging out after work, then started dating, then she became my wife years later.
blind_otter Posted December 12, 2008 Posted December 12, 2008 Two questions: 1) Do you believe most romantic relationships should start out as friendships? Please explain why if you believe so. Also, for those of you that don't believe romantic relationships should start out as friendships, I'd like to hear your opinions as well as to why you believe that. 2) How have most of your relationships started? What I specifically want to know is whether or not you were friends with that person first. I suppose it depends on the person. Nothing is cut and dried, IMO. Personally, I have never been in a relationship that started out as a friendship - but all of my romantic relationships have evolved to encompass a close friendship as well, if that makes any sense. I have always known, instantaneously, whether I was sexually attracted to a man. If I was sexually attracted to him, I would pursue that avenue first, rather than cultivating a friendship. When I become friends with a man, he enters into the proverbial "friendzone" with me and at that point I can never entertain even the vaguest notion of them as a sexual partner.
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