Sari Posted December 9, 2008 Posted December 9, 2008 I'm really not coping, it's been 11 days and I think it is just sinking in properly that we are broken up, dreamed about him last night that we were together and happy then he said he wants to go and I woke myself up crying out in my sleep, also I am really ill through not taking care of myself, I can't eat, sleep is sporadic and Ive been smoking so many cigarettes, now I have a fever and my throat hurts so much. I've had a couple of quite severe breakdowns over the past couple of days, can't stop crying, feel like I can't go on. I'm so scared. I have contacted a counsellor but they have not gotten back to me yet, I called the samaritans too but they were no help. I know no one on here can really help me but I thought getting it all out in a post might help. I want to contact him so much it hurts, just beg him to come back to me. I thought we would be married within a year or two, my whole life is gone and I don't know how to pick up the pieces. I kissed another guy over the weekend to try and ease the pain but now I feel even worse, started driving lessons which is good but as soon as I finished I started thinking about my ex, I am constantly on the verge of a panic attack. I just want my life back the way it was. I can't believe he is gone, I just can't face it.
lonelygurl Posted December 9, 2008 Posted December 9, 2008 I'm sorry you are in so much pain. It hurts really bad when someone you love so much leaves. I'm right there with you. I stupidly let mine come back and here I sit three and a half years later and just like clock work he did it again. You need to get in and see your doctor. You need something to help calm you and help you get some sleep. If you are not sleeping it makes it all the worse to deal with. The emotions are hard enough to deal with when you have enough sleep, but without enough sleep it is so much worse. Do not contact him! I know it is hard, but it is for the best. You will not get what you want out of contacting him. You will only get hurt more and set yourself back more. Can you go rent some movies you might like to help distract you? that is what i've been doing for several days now. I rent the cheaper ones so it is not as expensive. Or go to the local library where they are free. I am not sure if you could concentrate enough to read a book? Come on here and post or read other peoples posts and read peoples reponses to help you cope. Please get to your doctor. You can't do it alone. The loss of a relationship is the same grieving as a death. Look up on the internet the stages of grieve. Research on how to heal a broken heart, grieve stages and what to do. Keep busy to occupy your mind as much as you can. Good luck! :)
Tinkerbelll Posted December 9, 2008 Posted December 9, 2008 I know what you are going through, many of us have been there before. I know what you feel..I was dumped exactly 1 month ago, left with few words on a sunny November morning "It' s not working, take care.." I spent that afternoon in trance, texting him 5 times in a row, calling him..never getting an answer. The day after I committed myself to NEVER EVER contacting him again. I did never surrender, nor in the deepest pain I went through. I wanted to discover me strong and you know what? I am becoming stronger every single day, focusing on other issues, dating somebody new etc.. Here in LS you will find plenty of tips that will support you in your thoughest moments..Mine is to consider this situation as a necessary challenge you need in order to become a better person for yourself and fr the others. Remember, you are not alone
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