Isolde Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 I was a teenager. I didn't know any better. Once I grew up, I ditched him and never looked back. The crap that we voluntarily put ourselves in is unbelievable, retrospectively. Isn't it? I had a brief fling with someone who was a bit like you described, not quite as extreme though (he had good hygiene at least)
CandyGirlXO Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 Yes, my last EX I was VERY ashamed of. He also had bad hygiene, I didn't really like his sense of style. He was a pothead, not very social when I took him out with my friends. He was also extremely thin, which I am not superficial, but he looked like a kid. He just looked A LOT younger than me, and I look pretty young, so I was ashamed when I took him into public, But the sex was great
Author xpaperxcutx Posted December 10, 2008 Author Posted December 10, 2008 Yes, my last EX I was VERY ashamed of. He also had bad hygiene, I didn't really like his sense of style. He was a pothead, not very social when I took him out with my friends. He was also extremely thin, which I am not superficial, but he looked like a kid. He just looked A LOT younger than me, and I look pretty young, so I was ashamed when I took him into public, But the sex was great I would say so. Maybe because we had loved the sex so much, we were able to overlook their faults. But then the next day comes and we're wondering why we're still with them?
CandyGirlXO Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 I would say so. Maybe because we had loved the sex so much, we were able to overlook their faults. But then the next day comes and we're wondering why we're still with them? Yeah that could be it. I mean another reason why I stayed is because he always made me laugh, and my family life is really bad, so I felt like he was all I had. But then he would be mean to me even in public, or we would have a huge fight weekly or biweekly, and I would wonder WTF am I doing??? Then we would have sex, and I would be hooked. Horrible habit to get into. Stayed with him for 3 years, and I still miss the sex. Was planning on MAYBE meeting up with him if he comes home for the holidays just for sex. I don't love him, so no harm done for me.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted December 10, 2008 Author Posted December 10, 2008 Yeah that could be it. I mean another reason why I stayed is because he always made me laugh, and my family life is really bad, so I felt like he was all I had. But then he would be mean to me even in public, or we would have a huge fight weekly or biweekly, and I would wonder WTF am I doing??? Then we would have sex, and I would be hooked. Horrible habit to get into. Stayed with him for 3 years, and I still miss the sex. Was planning on MAYBE meeting up with him if he comes home for the holidays just for sex. I don't love him, so no harm done for me. I notice we have alot in common. My ex wasn't mean but he was very passive aggressive and often made me feel guilty about myself. The sex was what made me overlook everything of course. It was the only time where we didn't made each other feel bad. Ironic really being that I dumped him after sex.
CandyGirlXO Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 Ironic really being that I dumped him after sex. Samehere, and we have hooked up multiple times afterwards and had fantastic sex. The best ever! Weird how we could be so compatiable when it came to the bedroom, but not in any other areas in life. What a shame. I am worried I will never have sex like that again.
RecordProducer Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 Ok, guys, now you're making me feel ashamed of myself! I am starting to regret telling you about this. I actually wrote a comic poem about his sweat at the time. I remember one time, he came from work and stank so bad, and wanted to make love. I told him he should take a shower first; he said "No, I'll take a shower later." I said "No, you should really take a shower first!" (all this while he's jumping me). So we go back and forth about this and finally I yell "MAN, YOU STINK! TAKE A SHOWER!!!" and he got offended. He also didn't care about warming me up and he lasted about 5 minutes. He said Freud was wrong about everything although he never read anything from Freud. Moreover, he would fervently debate about any topic even though it was obvious he knew nothing about it. He thought that having daughters was degrading and real men only had sons. He had the talent to use the "F" word symetrically at the beginning, the middle, and the end of every sentence. Once when we ordered pizza, he looked at his pizza, then looked at mine, then his, then mine.. and said, "Your pizza has more cheese. I want your pizza!" So I would give him my pizza and take his. Then, I guess, he was suspicious about why I gave up my pizza so easily, so he looked at both pizzas again and said, "No, mine has more cheese. I want mine back." He loved to pinch my thighs and bite my butt cheeks which hurt so badly that, long after I broke up witn him, I would freeze whenever my next partner (my first husband) would approach my butt with his lips. There are things about him that are much less humorous, but just so you know, I smacked this guy quite a few times. lol RP, I can just understand what you went through. At the time did it felt like his needs always came first?When you say his needs came first, it sounds like mine might have come second... or third. Mine didn't come even last. And sometimes, I feel the same about my needs not coming in my current marriage, too. :mad:
Lishy Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 OMG RP your last post just had me in tears of laughter! What a tool hahahhaha
Vertex Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 Bahahahahahaha "Once when we ordered pizza, he looked at his pizza, then looked at mine, then his, then mine.. and said, "Your pizza has more cheese. I want your pizza!" So I would give him my pizza and take his. Then, I guess, he was suspicious about why I gave up my pizza so easily, so he looked at both pizzas again and said, "No, mine has more cheese. I want mine back." " I did this once. When I was.... 7. I was only ever ashamed to go out with my ex in public when she would speak her mind in crowded areas. She'd say stuff like "Damn, no wonder only poor people shop here!" as she'd examine some article of clothing, when there were like swarms of people nearby. She'd insult food as it came to the table in certain restaurants... it was just embarrassing to date someone who essentially had her ego in an eternal headlock by her id. RP: ^---- There's some Freud for you
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