she asked me to leave

[louiep]

hello all im the new guy

my wife of 16 years has asked me to leave

she has taking care of me for the last 8 years

she is no longer in love with me but didnt want me to go with nothing

my ssi hearing is friday so hopefully i can get approved and have a little

cash to start over with

i have relatives to move in with but they live out in the country and it will be

very boring but im thankful to have a place

she is keeping our mh and land and im fine with it

i am not worried a bout dating im in bad health and weigh 375 lbs

i know its been asked but how can i get through the pain as soon as possible

also i havent moved yet as my ssi case is pending

she says i can live there until i recieve my benifits

but it may be to painful for us

any exprnces with this

[louiep]

is it because im fat that yall dont want to talk

[lonelygurl]

there is no easy way around the pain. Find ways to distract yourself and keep busy as much as you can.

Must be very hard to be losing a relationship of that length.

[louiep]

it is thanks for the reply

[UnamedSeven]

Honestly, people are retarded like that. They say they love you, and everything changes and it winds up that they don't anymore.

 

What you can do? immerse yourself, my friend. I know it may be hard for you to do many sports or anything physical, but what you can do is just tell yourself, that your better off without her. She lost a very sole piece to her life and that is you.

[louiep]

thanks for the kind words of advice

[justaman99]

Louis?

 

You acknowledge that you are in bad health and weigh 375. Taking better care of yourself is a great way to deal with this now and eventually get over it.

 

Who knows. Your wife may come back to you seeing as how you are now respecting yourself a little more and if not a better chance at catching someone else s eye when you are ready.

 

-Just

[wmast]

Hey man, sorry to hear about the pain you're going thru. Altough I wasn't married, my ex meant SO much to me and she walked out on me. That was 7 months ago and I'm still feeling the pain. All I can say is that it gets much better. Just set some goals for yourself and try to reach them. My mom is a fitness instructor so I've been hearing about fitness stuff ALL MY LIFE. She always tells her students that it starts with the mind and once the mind is ready for change, then and only then can the body be ready for it. I mean no disrespect at all but maybe trying to change your eating habits, maybe a bit at a time, and then doing some light excercising (if you have already been doing this and I missed it in a previous post then I apologize). These will definately help you both physically and mentally. Regarding your seperation, you just have to accept it as fact. Smile on the good memories, be happy you had someone to share them with and look forward to something even better. Remember, skys the limit for you. You can do anything, get anything, be anything... Just gotta put your mind to it!

Good luck

[louiep]

thanks wmast one good thing right now is i cant hardly eat anything

and soon i wont be able to afford takeout and deserts

if i move in with family there big veggie eaters also

 

thanks for the advice

[Jenny123]

From one broken person to another- Making differences to your life- changes . Grieve the relationship and try to move on. The best revenge is moving on and being happy again:0 This site is good for when ur feeling weak. Everything happens for a reason, it doesn't stop the bleeding. You'll come out the other end at some stage-when ur ready, good luck-ur not alone:0

[louiep]

thanks jenny i hope you find happiness and joy also