HappinessInAir Posted December 9, 2008 Posted December 9, 2008 So this is the story... 1.) I met this girl at the International Student Orientation of my college. 2.) And like...I met her at multiple events in the Orientation...and we kinda...you know had nice chats and stuff.. 3.) I really liked her...specially because I came fresh from a break - up after my ex cheated on me... 4.) I am involved in very stressed out research...so I don't get any time to socialize. So...after orientation I really didn't get to meet her often. 5.) But, I got sick after orientation and she called me and was really really caring...which made me like her even more... 6.) I met her one day randomly and she was really nice to me...and wierd..sorta punching my shoulders and stuff like that...sorta zombie-ish... 7.) She asked one guy that goes to my school if he knew me and was like i cant connect to him or call and stuff....(my cell is almost always off).. 8.) I don't know but I get a vibe that she 'may' like me... 9.) I know that I like her beyond normal amounts... NOW HERE'S THE THING: I planned a nice b'day party for her...as she was the only one to call me on my b'day...nobody else even from family did...but she left for the winter break before that...BUT....I made a painting for her....the thing is: Should I give her the painting....will it be good...or will it piss her off....she is a really nice girll...like she's not a slut/bitch...bt a really genuine girl...will it give her an idea that i like her? she already knows that i delayed my trip to home because of her b'day....what should i do? give her the painting or not?
jason83 Posted December 9, 2008 Posted December 9, 2008 Zombie-ish? Sorry, I can't seem to picture that.....but am slightly creeped out by that description, especially of someone that one is interested in ANYWAY.... My opinion? She's shown interest. It may be friends it may be more. Who knows. She clearly has tried to connect with you and talk to you. First thing I'd do is turn on your dang phone! This way you are now available to get to know her more. You said you made this painting for her, yes? If you made it for her, give it to her. It could be taken two different ways. Either she will think you're a great friend or that you're a wonderful person that she would like to get to know more on another level. I think so many people get too pushy into trying to get close quickly. Take your time and relax. Give her the painting and see how she reacts. I'm sure she will enjoy it and thank you for it. I'm not sure about a birthday party for her though. It doesn't sound like you guys are all that close to organize something. Did you invite her friends or is this more of a "hey let's go out for dinner and that's your birthday party" type of thing? I'd invite her out if I were you to celebrate. Get her a card and a cake to celebrate. Flowers never hurt either but do NOT do roses in the beginning
Author HappinessInAir Posted December 9, 2008 Author Posted December 9, 2008 Thanks for your reply, jason83! Well, based on what you said, I don't think that she's gonna take the painting as a sign of a great friend as we actually don't hang out all that often. She, in my opinion would definitely take it as a sign of romantic interest from my side. Also, I'd add to the details that she went home for winter break so she won't be here on her b'day...so party is kinda out of question....that's how she came to know that I delayed my trip because of her birthday.. The thing is - how do girls take this sudden show of emotions like making paintings and similar stuff? What if all my assumptions are wrong and she has no interests in me? Will suddenly making her painting ( a really good one) piss her off? Or do girls generally feel good about this kind of stuff? Also, I made this painting because I really wanted to show her that I can work to make her happy...even in the finals week...but will she see it in that light? Like...do this kind of thing really convey emotions? Or will it be shadowed by some random expensive she gets by someone? Damn...I'm a hell lot confused!
jason83 Posted December 9, 2008 Posted December 9, 2008 Personally I think you're driving yourself nuts over nothing....which I can completely relate to because I have an awful habit of over-analyzing things. Relax. Give her the painting and see what she says. I don't think that she would get mad or upset with you about it by any means. But at the same time I wouldn't expect her to throw herself at you. If it were me, I'd ask her out before her birthday (being early is better than being late) and give her the painting then. If all goes well, she gets to talk about how she met this great guy who did such a nice, sweet thing for her.
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