Author Isolde Posted December 9, 2008 Author Posted December 9, 2008 Orangehose, thanks for understanding. I do feel a bit loathsome, LOL.
lino Posted December 9, 2008 Posted December 9, 2008 confidence is key, make eye contact, smile, don't kiss on the first date, don't be too needy, let him chase, brush your teeth, comb your hair, don't be too nice, see a counsellor, wear matching socks, strut your peacock colours, don't call too often, don't use email, don't be pushy, go for what you want, wear exciting clothes, make small talk, be yourself, keep it casual, never settle, have fun, filter out incompatible people, avoid the friend zone, follow your heart, call after 3 days, don't play games, assess the chemistry, grow your social circle organically, be a challenge, grow into love, don't be exclusive, never say i love you first, keep calm during the pullback stage, and above all don't follow the rules and do what you want, and you'll be fine. That's the LS advice, so what's to be anxious about? This is the best response I've ever seen on this forum! Honestly for me this website has been some help. I'm glad I found it and I hope that even just once I wrote something on here that helped someone or made someone feel better I felt this anxiety for most of the last 18 months so I know what you mean. I agree that sometimes it feels like the website may even be doing harm but I think by really being selective about the advice you take and only reading it once in a while it can be of help. I think if I read/wrote on these forums more than a few times a month I'd be thinking of things way too much and spending less time doing what I love to do!
Author Isolde Posted December 9, 2008 Author Posted December 9, 2008 Theres just no one to date here. I see cute, educated guys in my city every day but they're always with their girlfriends. Don't get me wrong, I like seeing people happy with their SO's, but my dating pool seems miniscule--I can't even take comfort in a hypothetical dating pool!
kashmir Posted December 9, 2008 Posted December 9, 2008 Theres just no one to date here. I see cute, educated guys in my city every day but they're always with their girlfriends. Don't get me wrong, I like seeing people happy with their SO's, but my dating pool seems miniscule--I can't even take comfort in a hypothetical dating pool! Yeah, I know how you feel. Every beautiful girl seems to already be taken, and even if she breaks up then she'll have a ton of other guys trying to get her. And then the single girls just aren't into me. It even sucks more when you have a ton of people telling you stuff like, "I can't believe you don't have a girlfriend. You're pretty much everything a girl wants" or worse, when people just assume you're taken. That doesn't help, because it makes me think that there's something seriously wrong with me, even though I know there isn't. It's pretty frustrating, but whatever...just gotta deal with it.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted December 9, 2008 Posted December 9, 2008 Yep, I think we all feel the same here. Men, women, young old, average, great looking....it's just plain hard to meet a single someone who you're attracted to who also feels the same way. There are times when I go out and EVERY guy I see who is halfway cute is with a girl. I'm like, are there ANY left? Meanwhile, this guy I know who I am NOT ATTRACTED to at ALL keeps calling/texting me. I have given him no indication that I want to go out with him. I don't know where he's getting this. Sorry, off-topic.
Author Isolde Posted December 9, 2008 Author Posted December 9, 2008 Yep, I think we all feel the same here. Men, women, young old, average, great looking....it's just plain hard to meet a single someone who you're attracted to who also feels the same way. There are times when I go out and EVERY guy I see who is halfway cute is with a girl. I'm like, are there ANY left? Meanwhile, this guy I know who I am NOT ATTRACTED to at ALL keeps calling/texting me. I have given him no indication that I want to go out with him. I don't know where he's getting this. Sorry, off-topic. I feel like people on LS are the exception though. In real life, it seems like people just get together, like *snap*, and don't think about this stuff. In real life, it seems like everyone has a great sex life. And then I enter LS and I realize there's a whole contingency of people who feel the same way I do. It's comforting, but also depressing. I know there are worse things in life than being single, but it's just really hard when it seems like everyday people have an easier time than us with this stuff and just have guys/girls waiting on them hand and foot. (Not like I want that, I don't want a guy to call me ten times a day, I'm just saying so many people have such relationships over and over again without a second thought.) CB, that's funny about the guy. I believe in Murphy's Law. If you don't want attention from a guy and feel more attraction to a plant than to him-- he will smother you
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