fmarie Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 Hi! Last month I found out that my husband of 6 years was having an affair. We have 2 small children under 2. He basically told me that he didnt love me like he used to and that he wanted to see this other woman (whom he works with). He said that he wanted to stay living with me until he had enough money to move out... I basically told him to leave now if has leaving anyway. So he left and moved into a hotel in the same town as his "girlfriend" (about 30 miles from where I live). This other woman is also married and will be getting divorced in Feb. She is still living with her husband until they divorce and then her and my husband plan on living together. This was a total shock to me and our extended families as none of us expected it. Right now we are all hurting. I went and filed for divorce last week to get child support going as he will eventually run out of money living in a hotel. I also established custody of the kids. Should I continue with the divorce or just wait for him to file since it was his decision to start this new life anyway. Thanks for any advice. Fmarie
EmperorR Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 you should probably post this in the divorce or infedility forums, as more people there can relate to your situation.
RecordProducer Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 I am so sorry you're going though this pain. It's horribly unfair when you have such small kids. My first husband left me when my kids were two years old and I thought I was going to die. But I lived and I am much, much happier now. I am re-married to a guy who adores my kids and everything has changed for the better in my life. The divorce was the best thing that happened to me. Yes, you should proceed with the divorce. It's so much easier and quicker to get over the scum of your husband than to take him back, work on recovering from the affair, live in pain and with lack of trust for years... just to be disappointed at the end again. Save your dignity and be the one who dumped his ass. He might crawl back begging you for forgiveness eventually.
trex Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 Definitely continue with what you're doing. As Record Producer pointed out, it might be a blessing in disguise - I know that's tough to realize amidst all the crap your going through right now, but things will turn for the best
whichwayisup Posted December 9, 2008 Posted December 9, 2008 Continue with the Divorce! He has no interest right now in pursuing or fixing the marriage with you..He's made his choice and whether or not it works out with the married OW, doesn't matter. Sorry that you're going through this.
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