kashmir Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 This is out of pure curiosity. Would a guy who is a vegetarian or even vegan be a turnoff for women? Or a guy who knows and loves to cook? I myself am partly a vegetarian. I'll eat seafood but I stopped eating any kind of land animal 2 years ago because I hate the idea of slaughterhouses. What I noticed though is I don't know a single other MALE who has similar eating habits. I know a lot of girls who are vegetarian, but no guys. This might sound ridiculous, but is being a red-blooded carnivore associated with being manly? Are guys who don't do this viewed as wimpy or not masculine? Again, this is just a curious thought I had. If someone thinks I'm a wimp because I don't eat meat and like to cook, then they can shove it. On a slightly different note, I can tell you what is a turnoff to me - vegetarians who try to make others feel guilty for eating meat. It's cool that you feel strongly about your beliefs, but keep them to your god damned self.
Benique Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 Man`s (let`s say Person`s) eating habits or cooking habits cant be a turnoff . BUT ... If A man that I sit with at the table in the restaurant will start to act like a tender woman and eat some veg food with such a 'selfsatisfied' expression on his face---will definitely make me turn off (I just met such a guy once ,and thats why I know 'that' face expression ..lol) So just avoid that 'selfsatisfied' thing and you wont be a turnoff,dear:cool: COOKING is an excellent habit! *thumbs up* Cooked by a man food is the most delicious.;)I believe in this truly very much and am encouraging my spouse to cook for me....
Trialbyfire Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 Gourmet cooking is one of my favourite hobbies so if someone has a limited repertoire of what he likes or is willing to eat, I would have problems with that. This doesn't mean it would be a turn-off, just a lifestyle difference. It doesn't emasculate him in my eyes at all!
Woggle Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 There are enough vegan women out there that you should be able to find a match.
serial muse Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 This is out of pure curiosity. Would a guy who is a vegetarian or even vegan be a turnoff for women? Or a guy who knows and loves to cook? I myself am partly a vegetarian. I'll eat seafood but I stopped eating any kind of land animal 2 years ago because I hate the idea of slaughterhouses. What I noticed though is I don't know a single other MALE who has similar eating habits. I know a lot of girls who are vegetarian, but no guys. This might sound ridiculous, but is being a red-blooded carnivore associated with being manly? Are guys who don't do this viewed as wimpy or not masculine? Again, this is just a curious thought I had. If someone thinks I'm a wimp because I don't eat meat and like to cook, then they can shove it. On a slightly different note, I can tell you what is a turnoff to me - vegetarians who try to make others feel guilty for eating meat. It's cool that you feel strongly about your beliefs, but keep them to your god damned self. My BF's a vegetarian. It's never been a problem for me at all, as far as manliness and whatnot. I respect him for following the dictates of his conscience. That's sexy. I agree that it would be an issue if he gave me constant grief about my meat-eating habits (he has teased me a few times, but it's been pretty rare in our 2.5 years together). Because I like to cook a wide variety of stuff, I make lots of vegetarian meals at home for us. But I'll eat meat when I go out if I feel like it, and it's all good. On another note...he can cook, in the sense that he knows how to chop things and stir them up in a pan. But he's not super-creative about it, which is my primary objection and why, on the whole, I prefer to do the cooking. So if you're vegetarian AND know how to make a delicious vegetarian meal -
carhill Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 IMO, the only turnoff for me is (gender neutral) a person with particular food habits (not allergies, which are a medical condition) attempting to control the venue choices of others. No one can ever effectively tell me what to eat so I don't consider that kind of influence to be a turn-off. I just laugh at them
Author kashmir Posted December 8, 2008 Author Posted December 8, 2008 I agree that having an attitude about your eating habits is a pain in the ass. I can't stand when people try to make others feel guilty for eating meat. As I said, it's your choice, and because I agree with it it will make me happy, but being with someone who doesn't have the same eating habits will not affect me negatively at all. While I don't like eating beef, I remember how good a big ol' fuddrucker's burger was, and I don't blame anyone for choosing that awesome taste over values. I'm no gourmet chef, but I'd say I'm not a bad cook for a 19 year old guy. Hell, most GIRLS my age can't even cook. While I make some strict vegetarian meals, I usually use seafood...which I absolutely love and have no problem eating. I also eat a ton of eggs and will use dairy products as well, so I'm not much of a hardcore vegetarian. And for the record, vegan food grosses me out. I give vegans credit for ehaving the stomach for that crap.
xpaperxcutx Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 I wouldn't mind dating a vegetarian, since I am one myself, but I will be reluctant to approach a vegan since they've been known to be condescending to others who touch even a slice of cheese. I love a man who cooks. Especially one who can take the time to bake with me. It's that time of yelling to each other who's got the sugar and fighting for stirring rights, that always make me feel warm. Of course the reward is that we get to share a plate together which makes it even more special.
fral945 Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 I think as long as you're not a health nut and dating a fast food junkie (or vice versa), you'll probably be fine. Depending on where you live you may have better luck finding women like yourself. Women generally tend to care more about their diet than men and I would guess are more likely to be vegetarians. When I was in college and a bigger city I knew more vegetarians (mostly women) than in the small town I live in now, where I know one (who is male, ironically). As for cooking, I think most women would appreciate a man that could spoil her with good cooking, though I find a majority of people nowadays (men and women) prefer eating out to making home cooked meals. I personally like cooking myself and nothing beats a home cooked meal.
prettybaby Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 Vegans/vegetarians definitely don't turn me off lol I eat meat, but I can go without it for long periods of time, so meatless meals are always welcome. And if a man can actually cook a good meal, that's a big big plus!!
Gremio Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 What I noticed though is I don't know a single other MALE who has similar eating habits. I know a lot of girls who are vegetarian, but no guys. This might sound ridiculous, but is being a red-blooded carnivore associated with being manly? Are guys who don't do this viewed as wimpy or not masculine? This is only an idea and not my opinion. I'm a mid 20s male. Perhaps being a male and a vegetarian is considered gay. I don't think beer but I'm out often at clubs and bars because a) my career and b) I am very social. When I am out with friends, some times they joke that I'm "homo" since I don't think beer becauses "it's a mans drink". As far as cooking habits, you'd have to elaborate. I love to cook and make many dishes. I don't know a single woman who wouldn't love a man who cooks.
BlueHarvest Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 In response to cooking...that shouldn't be a turn off. Most women relish at the idea of a man who knows how to cook. In response to the "self-satisfied" look while eating vegan/vegetarian dishes...all I have to say is...I know the look from this episode of South Park. http://vids.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=vids.individual&VideoID=272288
shylight200 Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 I'm a vegetarian so I have no problems with dating someone who is one also...obviously. But I can't date someone who eats bloody half done steaks. I think it's the grossest thing ever and I can't be around someone who eats that. I have nothing against people who eat well cooked meat, but when they're bleeding on your plate, and I have to sit across from them and see it, then it's over.
Isolde Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 I don't eat much meat either. I don't care either way at all. I have more things to worry about than what some guy stuffs his face with. Someone who cooks things other than frozen meals is a huge turn on. I cook too, and it is a lot of fun to cook with other people.
Gremio Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 I don't eat much meat either. I don't care either way at all. I have more things to worry about than what some guy stuffs his face with. Someone who cooks things other than frozen meals is a huge turn on. I cook too, and it is a lot of fun to cook with other people. I absolutely LOVE to cook! I just hate the clean up! It sometimes takes me longer to clean up the mess than it does to cook and eat my delicacy!
Author kashmir Posted December 8, 2008 Author Posted December 8, 2008 This is only an idea and not my opinion. I'm a mid 20s male. Perhaps being a male and a vegetarian is considered gay. I don't think beer but I'm out often at clubs and bars because a) my career and b) I am very social. When I am out with friends, some times they joke that I'm "homo" since I don't think beer becauses "it's a mans drink". This is more what I was getting at. I'm not really talking about eating compatibilities. It might be harder for an all-out vegan and a regular person, but I'm pretty flexible. The only things I won't eat are beef, pork, and chicken (and less common stuff like lamb or duck, but damn did I used to like lamb). I might even give in now and then and throw a chicken fillet in with a meal, but that's kind of rare. I'm getting at the association between eating meat and masculinity. I'm questioning whether a guy might be viewed as being less masculine simply because he's a vegetarian. And BlueHarvest... http://www.hybridcars.com/files/imagecache/article_lead_image/files/graphics/south-park-smug-313.gif GOOD FOR YOUUUUUU! And Gremio, I'm just talking about cooking in general...not any particular habit.
Gremio Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 This is more what I was getting at. I'm not really talking about eating compatibilities. It might be harder for an all-out vegan and a regular person, but I'm pretty flexible. The only things I won't eat are beef, pork, and chicken (and less common stuff like lamb or duck, but damn did I used to like lamb). I might even give in now and then and throw a chicken fillet in with a meal, but that's kind of rare. I'm getting at the association between eating meat and masculinity. I'm questioning whether a guy might be viewed as being less masculine simply because he's a vegetarian. I do care about what people think. I have to maintain a good public impression, but I will not change my beliefs for someone. Now I am all for change and trying new things, but I'm not going to do things that are a "social norm" if it is something I am not interested in. This even goes back to high school. I wasn't in with the popular crowd because their defination of fun was to smoke weed and get drunk on the weekends. No thanks, I'd rather be with the "less than popular" people or alone.
melodymatters Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 one of the coolest dudes I've ever known was a seafood vegetarian, who was a gourmet cook, and would often prepare meat laden meals for me and my kid. Once we were camping and the fishing sucked, so he shot a duck in the head from a moving boat, took it into the woods, and cleaned and cooked it. You are either cool or you're not, you're either manly or not, your'e either judgemental or not, it's all in the way you play your cards, not what you put in your mouth !
allina Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 I think eating dead animals is awful, cruel, disgusting and barbaric. So a guy who doesn't eat mean is a huge turn on. A guy that ate burgers, hot dogs and whatever meat would be gross and trashy to me I love men that can cook, but I don't want a guy to love baking more than my grandmother
carhill Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 I love men that can cook, but I don't want a guy to love baking more than my grandmother Until I got married, I baked Christmas treats every year for my customers and made up gift baskets myself. Guess that takes me off the list. I've been cooking ever since moving out in my 20's and did as a single man for over 15 years. I even know most of my mom's ethnic recipes. Cooking is one strong interest my wife and I have in common and we have the scale numbers to prove it
allina Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 Until I got married, I baked Christmas treats every year for my customers and made up gift baskets myself. Guess that takes me off the list. I've been cooking ever since moving out in my 20's and did as a single man for over 15 years. I even know most of my mom's ethnic recipes. Cooking is one strong interest my wife and I have in common and we have the scale numbers to prove it No, I think that's cool I meant that I wouldn't want my SO to always be in the kitchen baking pies and stuff My SO cooks a lot of great Indian dishes that his mom used to make for him and I love it
IrishCarBomb Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 She won't like it if you eat her cat. But if you eat something with a very similar name, she will really like you.
serial muse Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 This is more what I was getting at. I'm not really talking about eating compatibilities. It might be harder for an all-out vegan and a regular person, but I'm pretty flexible. The only things I won't eat are beef, pork, and chicken (and less common stuff like lamb or duck, but damn did I used to like lamb). I might even give in now and then and throw a chicken fillet in with a meal, but that's kind of rare. I'm getting at the association between eating meat and masculinity. I'm questioning whether a guy might be viewed as being less masculine simply because he's a vegetarian. And BlueHarvest... http://www.hybridcars.com/files/imagecache/article_lead_image/files/graphics/south-park-smug-313.gif GOOD FOR YOUUUUUU! And Gremio, I'm just talking about cooking in general...not any particular habit. Sounds like maybe the negative impressions/comments on masculinity aren't going to be coming from women. So as far as it being a turnoff to the ladies...it's probably not much of a problem. As far as being teased by your guy friends - only you can say how much you care about that.
berrieh Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 I've dated vegetarians and vegans, including a long-term relationship with a vegetarian (I have been one before but wasn't one at the time). It wasn't a bother at all, but I don't eat a lot of meat, so it was never an issue. I still ate meat out and such, but if we cooked a meal, it was easy enough to find a meatless meal I liked as well. Anyone who lectures would be annoying, of course, but I've dated lots of health-conscious and animal-conscious boys in my time.
Author kashmir Posted December 8, 2008 Author Posted December 8, 2008 I think eating dead animals is awful, cruel, disgusting and barbaric. So a guy who doesn't eat mean is a huge turn on. A guy that ate burgers, hot dogs and whatever meat would be gross and trashy to me Well, a lot of people eat meat...humans ARE omnivores, after all. It's in our nature. I would have no problem eating meat if I hunted the animal, gutted it, and did everything to clean and cook it. Maybe if I go live in the wild some day I might get a chance to do that. Preying on animals is part of nature. The reason I don't eat meat is that I think raising masses of animals in captivity only to grow up to be slaughtered is cruel. The whole process of slaughtering is so disturbing to me. That's why I'm fine with seafood, because most of it is caught in the wild and not raised on some farm, and that's why I would be fine with eating animals that were hunted in their wild habitats. And my guy friends don't tease me. I'm not sure they even realize that I don't eat meat. Irishcarbomb, that's one type of meat I will eat.
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