luverly Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 So I am just wondering what is normal and what is not. I thought a survey might help to put things in perspective...so here we go. Please respond with: 1. Your age (or range like 25-30)? 2. How long you have been dating? 3. How often do you have sex with your SO (per week per month whatever).
Benique Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 ...and I am not allowed to answer if I am 44 ?
Artu Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 I am 35. Already too old for sex or too old to reply here back?
prettybaby Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 You guys, the OP is saying that if you don't wanna give your exact age, you can just give a range if you prefer
Artu Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 I gave my exact exact age:D, and Benique did same:laugh: So here we go. I return to the page to read the questions
Artu Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 1. Your age (or range like 25-30)? -35 2. How long you have been dating? -4 years in a marriage 3. How often do you have sex with your SO (per week per month whatever). -once a .... if you read my thread I came here with today, you will understand me
Benique Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 Artu! Once a ... means what ? The author gave you an option to tell once a (how much) 1. Your age (or range like 25-30)? 44 2. How long you have been dating? 26 years in a marriage 3. How often do you have sex with your SO (per week per month whatever). every night when not tired "up" is noticed;)
Geishawhelk Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 There is no such thing as "normal". Normal for one couple could be 3 times a day. Normal for one couple is three times a week. Normal for another couple is 3 times a year. The important is that whatever the amount, both members are completely happy with that, because it's 'normal' for them. In every situation there is bound to be compromise. There may be health issues. there may be sexuality issues. But "normal"....? No such thing, across the board. When you're both happy with the sex, it's 5% of the relationship. When you're (one or other or both) NOT happy with the sex, it's 95% of the relationship. But it's impossible to make comparisons and establish what is 'normal'. Just as it's impossible to establish the kind of sex that is normal.
Author luverly Posted December 8, 2008 Author Posted December 8, 2008 Yes I did mean any range not just 25-30... I guess it is true that what is normal for one may not be normal for another. I guess I am just trying to figure out if my once or twice a month is weird for two 30 yr. olds with no kids and who've only been together a year and a half. I didn't know if I was being too demanding that that makes me frustrated and bored:o
Geishawhelk Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 If it bothers you, or there's an issue, then no, for you, it's not normal. Look again, at what I said, about the 5% and the 95%.... "Normal" is being content with the amount and quality of sex you have. People shouldn't expect, or even want mind-blowing sex, every time they have sex. 7 out of 10 times, it's average, and even mediocre... you're going to get whistles, bells and fireworks maybe once out of 10 times. the other two, it will be good, yeah, great..... but not earth-shattering. If you and your partner-lover-husband- whatever, are relatively ok with what you do, and how often you do it, then be it twice an hour, or twice a year, - you're ok with it? That's 'normal'. It sounds as if there's something you feel not quite right with your sex life. In which case, you need to address the issue. Because otherwise, without some kind of resolution, it will get "worse", not "better".
amaysngrace Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 I guess I am just trying to figure out if my once or twice a month is weird for two 30 yr. olds with no kids and who've only been together a year and a half. You are under-sexed.
Ruby Slippers Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 When I am in a relationship, I have sex with my boyfriend pretty much daily, or if we don't live together, every time I see him. "Normal" is self-defined. Once or twice a month would never be enough for me. I would consider it a serious problem that would require immediate attention.
flc Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 I'm 51 and have been going out with my current GF for about six months. We are able to get together for sex 2-3/week and it is difficult for us as we both have teenage kids at home are not comfortable spending the whole night at each others place due to the kids.
Konfuzion Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 There is no such thing as normal. Its what works for you.
porter218 Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 1. Your age (or range like 25-30)? 29 2. How long you have been dating? together for ~6yrs ...married 3. How often do you have sex with your SO (per week per month whatever). about 2 times a day. More when we don't have a newborn.
itgirlragdoll Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 1. I am 21, my boyfriend is 32. 2. 7 ish months. 3. I only see him one or two days a week due to our work schedules, but the days I do spend with him, 5-6x in one 24 period is about the norm. We are pretty active people. ;]
Author luverly Posted December 8, 2008 Author Posted December 8, 2008 1. Your age (or range like 25-30)? 29 2. How long you have been dating? together for ~6yrs ...married 3. How often do you have sex with your SO (per week per month whatever). about 2 times a day. More when we don't have a newborn. 1. I am 21, my boyfriend is 32. 2. 7 ish months. 3. I only see him one or two days a week due to our work schedules, but the days I do spend with him, 5-6x in one 24 period is about the norm. We are pretty active people. ;] I'm 49, my bf is 59. We've been together 2 1/2 years. I'd say probably 5-7 times a week is average for us. OMG I am depressed...I really need to get out of my relationship.
Geishawhelk Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 You have to stop being intimidated by this. If you want sex more often, it may nor mean 'getting out of this relationship'. It may mean working to get more OUT of this relationship. Do you and your partner ever discuss this? Have you ever expressed your needs or frustration? There is no question you may need to find a compromise with your partner. But in order to do this, you need to establish what this is, and both work on it.
Tarantula Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 My opinion here is always same : sex frequency is always different with various partners. I had been into 2 significant relationships in my life.Significant means those which lasted for significant time,and not for just weeks or even months So,with the 1st guy I had sex once a while,maybe once a month ... yeah,I was undersexed and was always supressing my sexual desires as myself am a faithful type of a partner. With the 2nd guy we had sex every time,we could just take off ,you understand what ,and even twice a day was not enough:love: , we had it normally thrice a day ,all kinds of sex, the kind that was available at the moment..lol So , All I wanna say , is that 'normal' for one couple is not necessary to be 'normal' for another couple. So , there is Not such a conception as 'normal' for ALL ... in life at all ..... God bless!
Author luverly Posted December 8, 2008 Author Posted December 8, 2008 You have to stop being intimidated by this. If you want sex more often, it may nor mean 'getting out of this relationship'. It may mean working to get more OUT of this relationship. Do you and your partner ever discuss this? Have you ever expressed your needs or frustration? There is no question you may need to find a compromise with your partner. But in order to do this, you need to establish what this is, and both work on it. read my thread here.. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t171570/[url=http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t171570/][/url] that should answer everything
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