Posco_Proudfoot Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 Yesterday was my birthday. I didn't get a call, card, letter, or even an email from my LTR, who is currently staying somewhere else. I'm sitting here trying to interpret something like that from a female point of view. Is this a sign she doesn't care, or just a simple mistake? We've been on real good terms every since the separation, but dang man. This goes a little deeper.
danny407 Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 Happy Birthday! Sorry to hear this as well. How long have you been seperated? Maybe she just forgot or maybe shes like my wife and cuel lol. I wonder how long do you wait when you are sperated to finally decide if the marriage continues or not. My wife gets to chose for now because shes off thinking about it while staying at a friends house. I hope you have a great birthday man!
Benique Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 HAPPY BIRTHDAY:) You want to know from a female point of view? Probably she was thinking that if she wishes you on your birthday,that would mean she is back ,but she does Not want to be back yet ...or to show she is back Or maybe she does not want to be back Every woman has her own traits .
JamesM Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 You have separated. This means I think that your relationship is over. It is entirely possible that she wanted to say HB to you, but she may have thought that you would wonder why she called to tell you that if you have broken up with her. She cannot read your mind. If I read correctly, you just broke up. The wounds are fresh. And if I read correctly, it was over things with which you had differences. You initiated the breakup. Yes? I guess it is a sign, and that is unless you take the initiative to reconnect with her, then it is time to move on to someone else.
Author Posco_Proudfoot Posted December 8, 2008 Author Posted December 8, 2008 Happy Birthday! Sorry to hear this as well. How long have you been seperated? Maybe she just forgot or maybe shes like my wife and cuel lol. I wonder how long do you wait when you are sperated to finally decide if the marriage continues or not. My wife gets to chose for now because shes off thinking about it while staying at a friends house. I hope you have a great birthday man! We've been separated about 1 1/2 months. Only in the last couple of weeks have we really not talked. Her own kids came up over the last two weeks with the holidays going on. It is quiet possible to forget. But I know I wouldn't if it was her birthday.
LakesideDream Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 Well bigguy, On this forum, most of us have had the same experiance. In general women do not forget important dates. She doesen't want you to have a happy birthday. Whatever her present situation is, whether gloriously happy in her affair or down in the dumps she wants you lower than whale ****. That's just the way it is. When seperated women are only "nice" when they have something to gain. I suppose that's true with men too.
Author Posco_Proudfoot Posted December 8, 2008 Author Posted December 8, 2008 Well bigguy, On this forum, most of us have had the same experiance. In general women do not forget important dates. She doesen't want you to have a happy birthday. Whatever her present situation is, whether gloriously happy in her affair or down in the dumps she wants you lower than whale ****. That's just the way it is. When seperated women are only "nice" when they have something to gain. I suppose that's true with men too. Cool thing is My B-Day is not far off from Christmas. From this response I've saved myself a bunch of money not buying her Christmas presents now.
trex Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 Not calling you might be the best for the both of your right now (even if it's your birthday). You both are probably still in trying to heal from the relationship and progress with that tends to backtrack when we talk to our ex. So although she didn't call, which SUCKS, its for the best.
whichwayisup Posted December 9, 2008 Posted December 9, 2008 Happy belated birthday. She didn't forget as women don't forget these important dates..She chose not to call or email you so you wouldn't get your hopes up or read into it. IF she had sent an email or called how would you have felt? Would you take it as "just" a happy bday or would you have gotten your hopes up slightly?
n9688m Posted December 9, 2008 Posted December 9, 2008 I wonder how long do you wait when you are sperated to finally decide if the marriage continues or not. You don't wait at all. I haven't yet read a happy-ending story here after a separation. She will now send the HB card to the OM, not to you.
ReeWoo Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 she didn't want to send a B-day card and have it be taken to mean something else. imo.
Joker77 Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 I didn't hear anything today from my ex nor do I expect to. It hurts a little bit, but then again, it's better that she doesn't. That way, she doesn't open a wound that's slowly trying to heal.
Joker77 Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 I stand corrected. The ex just texted me happy bday. Ugh!
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