getbackwithex Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 I've basically been no contact with a girl I want to get back together with for about 3 or 4 weeks now. We do work together and have said hello once or twice if we saw each other but nothing else. I had a Holiday Party on Friday and invited her because we do have a lot of mutual friends, but she couldn't make it due to other plans. Yesterday afternoon I received a text message from her saying she hoped my party went well and that she was sorry she couldn't make it. I responded and said it was fun and hope she had a good night as well. She then said she was glad and had heard it was a good time. Does this mean anything? Should I remain with my plan of NC and see what happens, or should I contact her to hang out again? Is this a sign that I should be persistent and go after what I want? I just don't want to set myself up for disapointment again. Back Story: I broke up with this girl for all the wrong reasons. Some time had passed and I reached out to her, and told her how wrong I was and that I really loved her. She of course said she just wanted to be friends. We hung out a couple times shortly after that. She would instant message me at work occasionally asking me how I was, etc. Then all of a sudden she was being very distant. I know she is having a hard time at work, trying to find herself a little so I figured I might as well forget about it and have been trying to move on.....but this sort of caught me off gaurd. What should I do?
BCCA Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 It means nothing. Listen to me, as someone who has learned this the hard way time and time again - women really, truly, honestly, think that you can just be friends. I know, to us it just sounds ridiculous. I would go back to NC and let it go. Nothing you can do will do anything but make you feel like ass if you keep trying to scheme up ways that she might come back. Listen bro, she probably wont - ever. I know how badly it sucks, and how rough it is to try and get over, but thats the safest bet you can make. Just consider this one a done deal, stay NC and move on. If she ever decided to give things another go, youll know. But anything you try right now is more than likely only going to leave you dissapointed.
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