lonelygurl Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]My boyfriend left me a note the other morning he is moving out! I was in shock and still am. I just feel kind of numb. I sort of knew it was coming, but for him to just leave a note.[/sIZE][/FONT] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]A bit of info…..We were together before for three and a half years and he said he needed time apart. He left all his stuff here and for a month he was back and forth, then finally said he had to move out. Hence he had a new g/f. six months later he came begging saying he'd made a huge mistake and he loved me, so I took him back. [/FONT][/sIZE] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman] Now three and a half years later I'm sitting here in the same situation. He left a note that he can't handle both of our depressions and he wishes he was stronger and signed it with love. He has left all his stuff here.[/FONT][/sIZE] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman] That day I got my phone numbers changed, and requested my locks changed. [/FONT][/sIZE] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]I had to talk to him on the phone the other day when the computer guy was here and I could tell by the tone in his voice he was happy to hear from me and it was like he wanted to talk, like he wanted me to beg and plead. I'm not playing that game again. I'm not doing the wishy washy game.[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]Today and tonight I have been a mess going over all the what’s and whys. Why did he just get up early and take a few things and leave me a note with love. WTF.[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3] [/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]I don’t know if I have the strength to cope and to get his stuff packed up to get it out of here. I don’t want him coming here and doing it. I can’t see him because I would be more of a mess. I had to do everything in my power to not call him the other night. I so badly wanted to call him and ask him why are you doing this again. He said he stay no matter what and forever this time.[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3][/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]I feel so weak and raw. My depression is getting worse and feel like just ending my life. I'm a useless g/f. :sick:[/sIZE][/FONT]
Author lonelygurl Posted December 8, 2008 Author Posted December 8, 2008 why does this website screw up when you copy and paste from word. I'm sorry but my post above is a mess. I'll have to try to retype it and post it again.
LostNLonely Posted December 29, 2008 Posted December 29, 2008 Call some friends, let them help you pack his stuff, maybe you should transafer it temporarily to a storage unit. Then what you do is send him an email, text, or letter, even if by messenger, like a courier or mutual friend, that states his stuff has been relocated to such and such address, he has X amount of time to deal with it, etc.. That way, you've shown him the same amount of courtesy and consideration for him as he has for you.. He needs to learn some respect. Your better off without this cad and loser. In time you'll heal. Good Luck to you!
saturnfell Posted December 29, 2008 Posted December 29, 2008 I'm sorry you're feeling this way and I'm sorry about your situation. You should pack his things and send them somewhere, I'm with Lonely on that. Storage is a great idea and notify him in a method that doesn't allow or require him to respond to you. If you send an email, block his email after, so you don't receive any responses back. When someone moves out it's one of the hardest things. I've been in your shoes, only I'm the one who had to leave. I left my belongings behind for a couple months because I couldn't step foot back in in that place. Also, I would not allow yourself to go into this situation again should you be presented with the opportunity. You've tried twice now, correct? Sometimes people need time, but twice is enough. I'm also sorry he left you a note. If people would only have the common courtesy to talk to one another in person about things such as this. When did we as people become so cruel? On a side note: maybe you could stay with friends for awhile? Maybe you should get out of the house as well and give yourself some breathing room? Good luck.
Author lonelygurl Posted December 30, 2008 Author Posted December 30, 2008 thank you for the replies. movers came and took most of his stuff. For some reason they claimed there was a few things they couldn't take. He has asked to come and get it but I can't see him. I will have to ship it or dump it at his work when he's not there. I have changed my phone numbers and am in the process of getting stuff transfer to close my current email account. There have been some emails. I get the slight impression that he figures we can talk about things in awhile after I've worked on my depression longer, but I feel we should have stayed together and worked on the issues when I asked him about it a week after he left the note. To just leave a note and walk away is a horrible thing to do. really horrible.
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