Goatsbreath Posted December 7, 2008 Posted December 7, 2008 OK, its been a few days and things are still horrible. I feel miserable but I'm not going to go into all the details because I know I just need to start NC. The other night she didn't come home from work at all and it sent me into another sickness. When she came home in the morning there wasn't a lot to say. I told her I think she needs to take her stuff and go stay elsewhere, her sisters, even his house. Just not here. She told me she cant, that those are not options and that she will be out of here in around 3-4 weeks when her apartment becomes available. She did pay half the rent so I don't know what else i can do. Then last night she started getting ready and when I asked wheres she going she said "R....." house, the guy like she can just throw that name around now. I knew she was. I didn't beg and go crazy like last time but I did say how inconsiderate she was being. I told her its hard enough for me to see you coming and going and have to sit here alone with all your stuff when I see you leave. I said its sad that you don't even care about my feelings anymore. If your going to be with someone else how about you wait until your out of my place. This fell on deaf ears, silence, and so I walked away. I was sitting in the living room when she walked out of our room with the backpack. She sat for a moment and said, I understand how hard this is for you. Just let me go this one night, explain the situation to him, that I wont be seeing him until I move out. Let me do that and I won't go over his house again. I just shook my head ok, what else do I do. I feel defeated. Anyway, a option for me did pop up. A girl I know offered me a room at her place. Shes just a friend and said I could stay with her until she moved out. Is this a good move? I'm not being a wuss for not only pleading with her to see the past we've shared but now I'm the one moving out so she can have her run to do whatever she wants. I think it might help, being in a new place, unfamiliar of memories. My other problem is she don't have internet at her place and I have no cell phone. She only has her cell, I dont want to use that for all the calls I need to make to family and such at this time. I guess I could come back here during the hours shes at work. What do you all think? Please I need some advice.
Geishawhelk Posted December 7, 2008 Posted December 7, 2008 I personally think it would be a good idea. Don't tell her where you're going. leave her a note, telling her that since she's unable to make the effort to move out, you're going temporarily, until she leaves, because the situation is intollerable to you. You'll be back when she's gone. Until then, you don't want to hear from her, except to say "OK I've moved out. You can come back now." She doesn't merit being told where you are or with whom. Look after you now.
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