wonderinwhatsup Posted December 7, 2008 Posted December 7, 2008 Lately, I have been getting more and more friendly with my exgf. She still has a boyfriend, but she brings up things from our past and y'day asked me if I am going to invite her to my wedding (a weird question since I'm not engaged nor very serious with anyone right now). I miss her and was wondering if yall think its more likely to get her back by being friendly and waiting to see if anything comes from that or is NC more likely to make her miss me? Why do you think she would be saying things like that when she seems to be very in to her current boyfriend? Thanks for the help guys, it helps a ton.
BikerBeagle Posted December 7, 2008 Posted December 7, 2008 As a general rule, it is not a very good idea to remain 'friendly' with an exgf ...there's nothing but heartache down that road if you even remotely still have romantic feelings lingering for her. Going NC is NOT about "making her miss you" ...it's about cutting her out of your life so that you can deal and heal. If you are doing NC for any other reason, you are doing it for the wrong reason.
EmperorR Posted December 7, 2008 Posted December 7, 2008 Lately, I have been getting more and more friendly with my exgf. She still has a boyfriend, but she brings up things from our past and y'day asked me if I am going to invite her to my wedding (a weird question since I'm not engaged nor very serious with anyone right now). I miss her and was wondering if yall think its more likely to get her back by being friendly and waiting to see if anything comes from that or is NC more likely to make her miss me? Why do you think she would be saying things like that when she seems to be very in to her current boyfriend? Thanks for the help guys, it helps a ton. remaining friend's is worthless, she is not really your friend. Friend's don't break your heart, all she is doing is stringing you along. And as the other poster said NC is about healing yourself, and getting over your ex.
WiseOne1 Posted December 7, 2008 Posted December 7, 2008 When it comes to ex's remaining friends is the worse thing possible, although friendship can turn into something, but for who of the friendship is the question. Ever heard the phase "I like you more than friends" or "I wanna be more than friends" it comes from that phase thats there proof it can turn into something romantic.
Gremio Posted December 7, 2008 Posted December 7, 2008 An ex is an ex... should stay that way. She is with someone, so I don't get why she is contacting you. Especially asking to go to a wedding. That isn't something "just friends" do.
Author wonderinwhatsup Posted December 7, 2008 Author Posted December 7, 2008 But does that actually happen to people who have broken up before? There was no infidelity, just a fair bit of arguments. I miss her, but I have begun to move on with my life. I don't want her holding me back, but I also still see her as the love of my life. I just want someone to tell me what to do!!!!!!!!!!!
Gremio Posted December 7, 2008 Posted December 7, 2008 I just want someone to tell me what to do!!!!!!!!!!! That is your problem and why you're here. You will never be happy until you figure it out yourself. Even if you crash and burn, it will give you a great learning experience. It will only make you stronger. I can only say what I said above. Just don't even cheat or assist someone in doing it.
Author wonderinwhatsup Posted December 7, 2008 Author Posted December 7, 2008 Because I did figure it out. I never initiate conversation. I told her that if she doesn't want to be with me to leave me alone. That lasts for like 2-3 weeks tops before I get a 2am text saying that she misses me. Then she talks whether she will be coming to my wedding! WTF is she thinking? I try to move on but she can't seem to handle that. why would that be?
Gremio Posted December 7, 2008 Posted December 7, 2008 Because I did figure it out. I never initiate conversation. I told her that if she doesn't want to be with me to leave me alone. That lasts for like 2-3 weeks tops before I get a 2am text saying that she misses me. Then she talks whether she will be coming to my wedding! WTF is she thinking? I try to move on but she can't seem to handle that. why would that be? Well she is an ex for a reason. Just remember those reasons and keep her that way. You want to know what to do? Cut her off. Ignore her or what I would do: Tell her that you don't want any contact.
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