Lucky555 Posted December 7, 2008 Posted December 7, 2008 Issue with Guy A: Give me your honest feedback please Remember the guy that wouldn't call or text or anything, Everyone here told me if he was interested he would call. Usually the guy gives you his number by calling u when hes interested. Now hes asking due to hearing it through the grape vine that hes not showing enough interest in me and me thinking its going to be over soon. It makes me wonder if hes just stringing me along because hes lonely. I know he has good "paper" credentials but i dated a guy that had this before too and he treated me like I was just "there" for now. I feel the same thing with this guy. It appears hes NOT putting himself out there, even in his messages of a month now! A MONTH! What am i thinking should be happening is that HE would be talking about future dates, not just the one we have planned. He doesn't say i can't wait to see you, I enjoy your company, what are you looking for out of life ect. HE DOESN'T know my last name BECAUSE he never asked. Wouldn't u want to know the last name of the person your seeing after talking for A MONTH! I am going with my instincts and i think something is not right in this endeavor. I don't feel him making that effort to move forward, its like hes buying his time and taking it casually. This guy is not ready to settle down. I know this. I know he has some things hes doing which require his time in the upcoming future, but right now a month of HOW ARE YOUS don't cut it. A MONTH TO CALL ME! Some one Help me please! Don't be afraid to tell me right out about what you think! I just think i'm wasting my time because I'm not looking for casual, I'm looking for someone who sincerely wants to get to know me and progress things thats what relationships are about! If he has baggage well I'm not going to be the empathy card. I'm annoyed at the fact that its a month and I tell him things that SHOW i'm interested and I would think I get the same thing back but i'm not. I'm getting very superficial things like what hes doing and what hes going to do. Nothing about getting to know me better which frustrates me because I don't want a guy where he needs others to tell him what to do. I think if his heart is in it he would do them on his own.
Author Lucky555 Posted December 7, 2008 Author Posted December 7, 2008 So one quick thing Im basically mad at the fact he heard through others and now is making a "small" move. It completely disgusts me because I want him to do it on his own because he feels like its what he would do with the girl he wants to know better. Its what guys do when they like the girl right? You want to hear their voice or you want to step it up because you are interested in them?
Benique Posted December 7, 2008 Posted December 7, 2008 1-One month is not that big period to judge whether he is really interested in you or not . 2-One month is not that big period to know all about the other person . 3-One month is not that big period to strike and beat around with Alarm alarm . Did you consider the fact that he may be just Another kind of person,a bit deeper,a bit more reserved,a bit more observer,a bit ...another than you yourself? You JUST canNOT know what happens in his mind/heart/soul by the signs he is expressing . He may be cautious . He may be observing . He may be thinking . Let him have his own time . The One that would reply and answer your heart calls that easily and quickly would make me more cautious (!) in your place . I think you are lucky that he is not jumping straight into the relationship,but lets things get stable . You will eventually see if he is interested in you at last or not . Anyway never break your heart . Wish you the best of luck!
Author Lucky555 Posted December 7, 2008 Author Posted December 7, 2008 We have been out together. I'm not saying i know him. Right he could be observing and such but it just annoyed me that he heard it through someone else and then makes his decision. I have been in this situation before and I can't do that again with another guy. Where they hear things and don't do what they think is right to do
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