Delta72 Posted December 7, 2008 Posted December 7, 2008 I met this girl when I started high school this year, and she is so beautiful that I can't stop thinking about her. She's already taken though! Her boyfriend is a year older, and doesn't seem that interesting. She isn't crazy about him, and the only thing I've seen them doing is holding hands! I'm much better looking and I would treat her so much better and let her know how much I care about her. I was thinking of waiting to see if they break up but I doubt that is coming soon. I don't want her to slip through my fingers but I am afraid to tell her about how I feel! I don't know her very well, and I'm afraid I'll scare her away if I do tell her! I need advice! Help!!!!!
Benique Posted December 7, 2008 Posted December 7, 2008 As a mother of twin daughters ,one of whom has a very tough time now as her ex married a week ago , I can advise you to Communicate,to Be in Touch,to Be there . This is all I can tell you after analyzing and overanalyzing my daughter`s affair she got stuck in for 8 (!) years already being divorced with the man she still has been thinking Was Love of Her Life though he made her suffer soooo much ! They could manage the problems between them if they Were Communicating ...I understand this now ... but none of them had those skills to Communicate ,and I myself (ooh,I am so sorry for this !) understood this now when it is too late already . Telling you my story as through my story you may think about your own story better and in more effective way . I hope,it helped you . Let my own experience help someone not to make same mistakes.. Wish you best of luck !!!
carhill Posted December 7, 2008 Posted December 7, 2008 OP, that's unrequited infatuation... If you said hi to her, would she know you? Have you had personal contact in the past? If no, you need an introduction. Keep it topical (about something regarding school/activities, etc). The key is for her to take notice of you, to appreciate your attractiveness. Be aware that, at your age, for most people, "romance" is transitory and serial, so she could very easily break up with this guy, get with you, and then break up with you (or vice-versa). It's very normal. Just like you're in school to learn how to think, you date (or have BF/GF) at your age to learn about relationships and being with another human being. It takes experience and practice. That usually means far more than one person (to get a good sample of what's out there in types of people). BTW, if she at some point starts talking to you about her BF, change the subject. Tell her that sounds really personal and you feel a bit uncomfortable about it (that's true, because you're attracted to her). Don't elaborate. The trick is to keep yourself from becoming a girlfriend with a penis.
Author Delta72 Posted December 7, 2008 Author Posted December 7, 2008 She knows who I am. It's not like I've never talked to her.
carhill Posted December 7, 2008 Posted December 7, 2008 OK, tell me how much she's told you about she and her BF....
Author Delta72 Posted December 7, 2008 Author Posted December 7, 2008 Really all she said is that she had a boyfriend. That's it. She's mentioned him a lot, but never said anything more than that.
carhill Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 OK, if they haven't broken up by January when school starts up again, write her off. Date other girls. You'll look more attractive to her if you're with someone else. Don't ask why
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