Mayim Posted December 7, 2008 Posted December 7, 2008 How did you handle? I'm 6 months out and seem to be suffering a setback. No broken NC or anything like that, but lots of insecurity and persistent negative thoughts and feelings. I'm just not that much fun to be around right now. And while I do feel like I could use some support, I feel weak still discussing this and being affected by it all these months later. But then being ashamed of feeling depressed makes me feel even worse. Embarrassment and shame on top of real sadness. Not fun.
Peter_pan Posted December 7, 2008 Posted December 7, 2008 i spoke to only a few good friends and know when im pushing it a bit. family are good to. if you need to seek professional help do it ! dont feel ashamed thats silly... how long where you with the ex? time will eventually heal you. you need to use this time to better yourself become the new better you!
Author Mayim Posted December 7, 2008 Author Posted December 7, 2008 I was with the ex about a year. I also keep it to one or two good friends, and I try to limit the moping but a few drinks last night sent me spinning off into a deep, dark sadness hole that I'm embarrassed of today.
alwayssme Posted December 7, 2008 Posted December 7, 2008 i feel ashamed sometimes because i feel like it has been 4 months and jeez shouldnt i be over this? ESPECIALLY when I think of the fact that he's not out there thinking of me...I get so angry with myself...But overall i do understand why I would feel so devastated...because i was in love, i was with him for two years, it was a serious relationship, he hurt me and disappointed me to an EXTREME, seriously i still wake up shocked, its less then before but it still hurts. Oh and of course I shared a life with him for these two years, we met each others families, we talked about a future...i NEVER expected this...soo i would think its understandable to hurt alot...what i dont understand is HOW the hell he can walk out and not care...AFTER ALL WE PROMISED EACH OTHER, OUR MEMORIES...ALL THE THINGS WE BEEN THROUGH....ughhh...people!!!! and i saw him every second of my two years!! So not only did i lose him, my whole routine is different now.....*sigh* thats life!!!
Ingenue Posted December 7, 2008 Posted December 7, 2008 In the beginning I felt like I was annoying my friends and family. I was so devastated that I spoke to my friends often. I remember my sister called me one evening just to discuss a trivial matter or two, and I kept her on the phone for three hours lamenting at my douchebag of an ex. Seeking professional help and posting on loveshack can really help a heartbroken person. There's no set time when you will no longer go to your friends for advice or help. Healing takes its own course and its own time. I was with my ex for 5 years before he dumped me by email because there was "no spark". It's taken me 5 months to truly see the type of person he is, objectively. I still speak to my friends about him so don't beat yourself up too much about how you're still thinking of him. There will come a day when you don't think about him anymore. There will come a day when he's just a person in your past. Until that time, talk to your friends. That's what they're there for. Friends support you when you need to be propped up and they shake you when you need the truth.
Recommended Posts